Am I the only mom that feels like they are going crazy sometimes?

Brandi - posted on 09/25/2012 ( 8 moms have responded )

11

0

0

Hi I am a stay at home mom and a mother of 4. I have a 7 year old boy, 3 year old girl, and 9 month old twin girls. My husband works some crazy hours and i am usually home with then by myself until he gets home around 4. Lately I have been feeling really overwhelmed and really feeling like I am going crazy! I have been yelling a lot And hate doing that so I am trying to figure out if this is normal or if I need to get some help! I don't do this all the time, just when things don't seem to be going right. When I'm feeling overwhelmed! What do I do to make myself feel better so that I can be a better mother all the time (if possible). Help!!!

MOST HELPFUL POSTS

User - posted on 09/26/2012

24

0

1

You are overwhelmed because you love your kids so much and you are 1 mom taking care of 4 kids and housework, and school homework, and your husband and dinner. GIve yourself credit. You need to somehow get away from everything for a little while each week. A lot of moms go to a gym where they have child care. I have 3 kids and my husband works 7 days a week. He is only home to sleep. He doesn't even eat with us. It is very hard. I get so depressed and overwhelmed sometimes. I go to school online and I go to school 2 days a week (only for 3 hours a day). School is the only time I am away from my kids and it is my life saver. You are an amazing SAHM. You have to believe that. If you are not O.K., the kids are not O.K. YOU NEED A BREAK. Even if you took a walk alone or with 1 of the kids. It is O.K. to ask for help! I think you are getting burned out. When I get burned out...I am good for nothing! Hope it Helped

Jessica - posted on 09/25/2012

2

26

2

You are soooo not alone! I feel the same way. I am a mother of two. One is 3 years old, the other is about to turn 1 year old in October. My husband has crazy hours too. I don't live near any relatives or close friends. No support system close to me. They are all thousands of miles away. I am trying to get out of the house by myself atleast once a week for a few hours when my husband is off. Haven't been able to do this as of yet, but I am hoping it will help a little bit. I feel like I lost parts of myself. Like I am only a mommy. I feel like I need to find myself, and my wife part of myself too. Hope this helps?

8 Comments

View replies by

Lady Heather - posted on 09/27/2012

2,448

17

91

Definitely not alone. I have to tell myself "serenity now" all the time. I have a three year old and a soon to be 1 year old plus three cats and a dog. My husband is out of town a lot and I can't drive because of epilepsy. I also have fibromyalgia. It's all a great combination.



I've started date night up. Every Saturday my husband and I have time together. And I go to my book club every month plus have a little me time every week. It's good for my family because I am refreshed and the girls get some time with their dad. He is usually really happy to take them out and stuff because he misses them with all his work. Cannot emphasize enough the need for a good babysitter. We finally found one. Life changer. Also try to get outside as many days as you can. I don't know if any drivers do this because it's maybe easier to go out with a car, but I tend to stick to home and then we get cabin fever and everyone's miserable. Nothing like a good walk to clear the mind.

Brandi - posted on 09/27/2012

11

0

0

Yes I try to make it. Point also to apologize and tell her how much I love her and I do the same with my 7 yr old. I know there are so many people that always say, if I could sit at home with all my kids I would do it besides work, ( my husband for example) lol. But what they all don't realize is that u wake up, get all the kids up, feed them, pack lunch, make bottles, change diapers, send off on bus, start laundry, start bottles, turn cartoons on, vacuum, do dishes, fold laundry, wash and dry another load, fold laundry again, sweep and mop floors, clean bathrooms, clean the kids room, wash sheets, change diapers, make bottles again, clean the high chairs from snack, feed lunch to all kids, do some more laundry, make the beds, lay the kids down for a nap, calm the cryin baby, make sure the toddler goes to sleep, wash dishes that got dirty during lunch, take the trash out, do some more laundry, make bottles for babies, start supper, get son off the bus, do homework while trying to get supper done, oh wait there the laundry is dry again, now time to listen to him read, go over spelling words, make the toddler occupied with something while finishing homework, soothing crying babies again, finish supper, dads home, get his lunchbox unloaded, pick up his dirty clothes, feed everyone, husband goes to bed at 6, so baths for all, dishes and kitchen cleaned, nighttime medicine, the. Time to get babies bottles and in bed, now it's shower time and it's 10 at night. Yea that's bout how my day goes. If you don't do all of this on a daily basis then u have to play catch up the next day Nd its even a longer day!!! Now there isn't much time tHat I actually sit down and get on here or talk on the phone. So it's a pretty hectic day around here everyday! I'm glad when my husband walks they the door cuz he helps with the twins And it's wonderful on weekends cuz he is here on Saturday after noon until Sunday night! It is a break but there are still plenty house chores to get done?

Nicole - posted on 09/27/2012

7

6

0

Believe me you are not alone. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old and am a SAHM. Its a tough job to be a stay at home mom and most people don't realize it! Unless they have done it (and done it well) they just don't understand. Most people think its sitting on the couch watching tv, giving the kids some lunch and doing some laundry... it is actual work. Don't let yourself feel bad for losing your temper every now and again, I do it to and yes typically blow my stack at my 3 year old. It is kind of a stage where they are so smart and can act so grown up but are still little kids. In the heat of the moment sometimes that gets foorgotten. Once things calm down I always make sure I appologize if I got a bit uppity when it wasn't waranted and at 3 they are old enough to understand forgiveness and to learn that even mommies make mistakes sometimes. They will learn that its ok to mess up and make sure to get in a good cuddle to drive the point home that everything is ok between you. Hope this helps.

Brandi - posted on 09/26/2012

11

0

0

Thank y'all so much! It makes me feel better getting advise from other moms and hearing how to cope with this and learn some new thing to do. I think if my husband and I could go walking without the oldest 2 I would feel better. I love my oldest 2 but they are at stages of talking back or not listening and that stresses me too. Lol thanks so much! I hope I can learn to be more patient and stuff with all the kids!!!

Maggie - posted on 09/26/2012

818

24

47

You are not the only one. I have started walking about a mile twice a week just to get away from everyone and recharge. It is important to take time for yourself. Also, the older kids can help around the gouse. 7 year old can help wash dishes, do laundry, and vacuum. The three year old could clear the table, water plants, put away clean clothes. If everyone pitches in then you will have more time for fun.

Brandi - posted on 09/25/2012

11

0

0

Well I hope u can get to find urself again and the wife part of you also. :) I don't feel like I've lost myself because I have great time with my husband when he is home and he helps out a whole lot! I just feel like sometimes I'm going crazy with everything to do especially when it seems like everything is gong wrong in the house. For example: this morning I woke up to get my son ready for school and he does not feel like listening so he almost misses the bus. After that my oldest daughter gets up and has wet the bed. So there is a bunch more blankets and sheets to wash and clothes and try to figure out how to clean the mattress. And so I lay down to calm down for awhile and the twins wake up. Well one of them had undone their diaper(which is new to them now) and the bed is soaked with urine. So I get her out and clean her up and fixing to change her mattress when I realized my other twin had diahrea everywhere in the play pen where she was sleeping. It was everywhere including her hair. So I was just so overwhelmed with trying to clean everything and get things done that I tend to be mean to my oldest daughter. Not intentionally, just frustrated and overwhelmed! These are things I wish I could control because after everything is done and being cleaned I realize that I shouldn't have yelled at her or been so irritated because that's part of my jOb as a mommy! These type of things get to me. I get overwhelmed and irritable and feel like I go insane until I calm down and think that there is something wrong with me to be acting like that! And we have just few friends that help us. Well we have only been away from the twins twice since being born because no one is willing to watch them. And we live on the same town as our family! So there isn't any support for me as a stay at home 24/7 mom.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms