am i the only one?

Ashley - posted on 03/04/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )

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me and my fiance are living with my parents and giving them some money to help with the bills and stuff. sometimes i feel like a loser because we're not living on our own. i've told my fiance i'll get a job but he wants me to stay home with our son. he told me he would rather live with my parents forever than have me get a job. my parents love having us here they always tell me we're not allowed to move out, and if we do we have to leave our son here. lol. i just don't want people thinking we're stupid and that my fiance can't support us. the economy sucks right now.

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Brianna - posted on 03/07/2009

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Don't feel that way. We are in a similiar situation. my husband lost his job in May when i was 6 months pregnant and now he makes minimum wage, as it was the only job he could find despite him having a college degree and years of experience.Although we haven't moved in with my parents yet because the bank is trying to sell our house via short sale and we can stay here til then (or until they decide to foreclose), it looks like we'll be living with them within the next couple months. I remember my parents in a similiar situation when I was younger, and my mom continued to stay home as well, and it was so worth it. No amount of money could replace the presence of my mom in my formative years and we feel the same way about our son. Mothers that work are still good moms but no nanny or childcare provider can replace the love and nuturing you can provide. hang in there. it's a sacrifice financially, but a blessing in the areas that truely matter.

Ashley - posted on 03/05/2009

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thank you so much! i know i have the most important job and i wouldn't trade it for anything. i always say i had kids to raise them not so someone else can. i really needed to hear these words. my sister makes me feel stupid sometimes and like it's my fault cuz i'm not working.

User - posted on 03/04/2009

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No, you're not alone. We had to move in with my mom a few years ago in order to save up money to buy a house. I felt like such a loser! My husband was working, I was in school, we had an 18 month old and I was pregnant with our second. But, we saved money and have been living in our own home for over 2 years. It will get better. Don't feel bad. You're raising your children and that's the most important job ever.

Kate - posted on 03/04/2009

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No you are not the only one. We had to live with my parents for 14 mos. and they took our rent and saved it for us to help us move out with our first months rent and security deposit. We have been married for over 7 yrs, now and we still are renting. To me right now with our situation it's better than buying.  I don't know what it's like where you live, but my husband drives for our local transportation company and I watch children here at the house. I also was able to nanny for years before we had the second one. My mom and his mom would watch our oldest we we're very lucky. Good Luck. 

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