Am I the ONLY one that thinks what this women said is WHACKED?????

Amanda - posted on 10/24/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )




I joined Mom With Wonderful Husbands and this is what the administrator wrote......I think she has lost her marbles and I just wanted to know if I am the only one that thinks this........Please let me know....

The reason I created this site is because I think being married to a man that is wonderful is getting more and more rare now days. It is so great when a man can be a great husband and a great father. I think being legally married to someone is something special. I think when a man is willing to stand in front of a large crowd, and announce to everyone that he wants to marry a woman, he is declaring himself as belonging just to her, and he is declaring her as his own. I think that is so great.

I am a Christian woman. And I believe that a man and woman should be married especially when they have children. I think its important for a child to have a stable home. i dont care if they are step children, foster children, or adopted children, or natural children, or blended families. I believe it is important for a child to be in a stable home, and their parents should be positive role models and encourage them to do the right thing.

I am not trying to claim to be perfect myself. My parents did not get married until I was 5. They got divorced when i was about 16. And I got pregnant before I was married to my Wonderful husband. And we married 7 months before our child was born. I dont believe anyone is perfect, but I do believe we should try to be as good as we can be for ourselves and our children.

Mothers write me when they get blocked, and ask why. Some of them are more harsh then those simple words, and some people as why, and then respect my opinion. In MY opinion, marriage is something different then any other form of relationship. So I created this website for happily legally married people. I realize that some people believe that common law marriage and being engaged and dating for 20 years is just like being legally married. But I do not agree. People write angry emails to me, about how my opinion and thoughts are wrong. But thats alright. everyone is different.

Ok, this is getting kind of long. I just thought I would reach out and open up.


Happy - posted on 06/16/2011




I totally agree with her 100%%%! Looking for that thread now! Can't wait to be a part of it. BUT I also realize that this life is not for everyone. Each person has to live their life they way that they have chosen. You can not live someone else's life, only your own.

Kim - posted on 10/26/2009




I see nothing wrong with what she said. We all have our opinions. If you don't agree with it then move on and find someone else to be friends with. Now a days it is more common to see unmarried couples having babies and people want to be accepted for it. Why can't people also accept the fact that others still believe in the sanctity of marriage?

Annie - posted on 10/24/2009




Quoting Jill:

no.... she is not whacked... i have to agree with all she says

I completly agree as well :)


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Sandie - posted on 04/20/2016




I respect her opinion and wish more people would honor marriage in our society!

Christy - posted on 06/16/2011




She isn't bonkers, she is stating her opinion for those to see before joining the group. I think what she said can go both ways, though. For the woman as well as the man in the marriage. She also states that she isn't perfect and realizes that no one is so it's OK to me.

Joanna - posted on 10/25/2009




I don't think it's crazy, it's her opinion. But I think it's weird how she just blocks people due to her opinion. I mean it's her group, she made it for a reason, but if someone has been dating for 20 years, that's longer than a lot of married couples I know. whatever.

Ann - posted on 10/25/2009




the only reason I would see that she is "crazy" is that she created a web site to voive her opinion and to obviously get feed back from others, if she doesn't like what they have to say, or there opinion she blocks and Id say obviously deletes what that person has said, not allowing others to have there opinion, so what she should be saying is that she created that website to join together like a congrigation of people who share her opinion and agree with everything she says or you will get booted! Now come on be serious, Im in my 2nd marriage, just because you get married and think its forever doesn't mean it will be, my 1st husband stayed in secret that he was cross dressing and sleeping with men after we were married a few years the truth came out and Ill be buggered to stay with something like that just because I made vows saying in sickness and in health there are just some things you can't put up with, however the marriage I am in now, has lasted 7 years and still going strong, we were together only a few months but had known each other for about 20 years, and he is a wonderful caring father and husband, not because I married him but because thats just who he is, which is why I married him, and yes girls I am bragging, but I desrve to coz Ive had my share of a*%& holes too!

Sarah - posted on 10/25/2009




i don't think she is "crazy" either, but i can see how you would feel she is irritating/annoying/radical in her views. she seems very opinionated, and sometimes i have a hard time getting along with very opinionated people, too. i am much more open and accepting of different views when the other person is open and accepting, too.

Angela - posted on 10/24/2009




I agree with her too....... the world looks at things very differently now even from 10 yrs ago..... but she a good OPINION. :)

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no i dont think she was crazy either.. shes just putting out her own opinion which is what making communities is about partly i think.. i dont think she was trying to offend either, i think its more rare now that people get married b4 kids, but to each his own, and i dont judge if people do things differently.. may not agree but cant judge

Chris - posted on 10/24/2009




I completely agree with what she stands for!!! :)

And as a newlywed, I do have to say, it really does make things a lot different. My husband and I were together for 6 years with two children, a house, and two cars before we got married, and we have a bond now we didn't have before we got married. Honestly, I wish we wouldn't have waited as long as we did to get married. Our relationship was amazing before we got married, but now it's out of this world!!! :)

Shayna - posted on 10/24/2009




Well... I don't think she is "Crazy". Everyone has a different perspective on Marriage, especially now-a-days! She just seems old school, and a bit on the bragging side (which I think is the part where women are getting mad at her for, no one likes a bragger!)

I have been with my fiancee now for 5 years (been engaged for 1). We have a son together, lived together for the past 4.5 years, and don't intend on getting married anytime soon. In fact we plan to buy a home first which this women would totally not be for (lol).

We have a very happy and stable home & environment for our son, just as much as any "legally married" couple out there. In my opinion signing papers doesn't make a couple any more happy or better of in ANY way, like think about it.... Only time will tell who is truly in love, and that's all the matters.

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