??? am i wrong????

Cortney - posted on 02/18/2010 ( 5 moms have responded )




hello everyone. my name is cortney sechler. i am 23yrs old and i have a 22month old son who i love to pieces but for being my only child is a hand full. im not saying i cant handle it, just sometimes its a little crazy. most of my friends are having their second child and are asking me when im going to have mine........... but i know deep inside i really dont want anymore children. and its not because i dont think i could handle it, i know i could actually. i really just dont want any of my focus to go to any other, i mean my son and i are never apart except when its grandma time. then its us all day everyday, i actually might home school him just because i feel it will only make our bond even stronger and keep it strong as he gets older. i am totally satisfied with the one child i have and dont feel like i need another. is that wrong of me??????


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Kelly - posted on 02/19/2010




That is absolutely perfect of you to not want any more children. There is no right amount of children to have. If you feel the need to explain yourself to others, just say you are happy with one child. There is nothing wrong with that. He's happy, healthy, and totally loved. That is what's important. You don't have to have a litter of children to feel complete.

Kaye - posted on 02/19/2010




More children is more work. Now that I have 2 children, I look back and think how "easy" it was to have just one. I also feel that sharing my time with 2 is difficult and I struggle to have enough one-on-one time with each of them every day, especially my son, who is oldest. So, that said, I love BOTH of my children with everything in my heart, but I can also understand your feelings to have just one. It sounds like it could be the best choice for you, it is for a lot of people. God bless the moms who have lots of children, I think they have a patience I don't have. :)

Chelle - posted on 02/19/2010




Hi Cortney,
If its how you feel who cares what all your freinds are doing are saying... Its the same but oppisite for me.... I have 5 children and want one more but all my family and friends are telling me i have had enough... You are the only one who can decide what best for you and your son... Not wrong of you at all for feeling this way... :)

Charlotte - posted on 02/19/2010




i sam on my 1st child and would love loads of kids but not yet i want to spoil my son 1st and giv him all my time and energy before going on to have anymore

Karen - posted on 02/18/2010




If you are satisfied with one child, then I saw to heck with the people who are bugging you about having another one :). it is your perogitive as to how many children you have, and when you have them. You should not feel guilty that you want to focus your attention on your son.

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