Am i wrong? Please any advice will help!

Rebecca - posted on 04/13/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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ok im 26yrs old with a ten yr old son and 16 month old twin girls,iam married. All i want from my husband is to get up with us so we can have family time with breakfast before he goes to work. I have asked him if he could do this with us because he gets home late from work and the kids miss him,but he never does he sleeps until the last moment and he has to get up n go to work...He thinks i should cut him some slack and let him sleep and i understand that but why not spend more time with the kids in the morning it will be better for them... im lucky if i get one day to sleep an extra hr. Iam home all day with my girls and its hard work also and i just don't know what to do, Am i wrong to want him to get up with us??? ANy advice would be great.

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Kristi - posted on 04/13/2010

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I don't think you're wrong in thinking the way you do. However, it's probably not going to be easy to change your husband's sleeping schedule! If you husband is anything like mine (Prince Erik...lol), he's very hard to wake up. Just like you, I'm lucky if I get to sleep in an extra hour! Sometimes (once every two or three months, if I'm lucky), I can get my husband to wake up with our son and let me sleep in. But then I have to ask my husband to feed him too,...it's not just automatic! But I don't want to mislead you either...my husband is a WONDERFUL father! He tries to spend as much time with us as he can. But sometimes, he just can't. My husband is in the military and is a very busy man. Sometimes, he goes on short trips and is away for a couple of days. But when he gets back, the first thing on his mind is seeing our son! Maybe, if you sit down with your husband and explain exactly why you wnat him to wake up for breakfast in the morning, he'll be more open to the idea. Or, maybe he might find more time in his schedule elsewhere. Either way, the two of you need to commuicate about the situation. Good luck!

Angela - posted on 04/13/2010

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your not wrong to want the best possible for your family! Maybe instead of every day him getting up early to eat with the family, try it out with one morning a week and eventually he will more than likely enjoy it so much he will want more. My husband gets up early and gets home late and never really gets to see his daughter and it kills him, but i think if i asked him to get up earlier he wouldnt b able to do it. he is very drained from 6 days a week long hours ya know. but i think one day to start is fair:) have you tried for your kids to bring daddy breakfast in bed? maybe fix him a plate or bowl and all sit in bed with him to eat on a day? that might be fun for all of you!! good luck!!

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Jane - posted on 04/13/2010

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Changing hubbies is not an easy thing. I've had mine 20 years, and he isn't broken in yet. Waking up just isn't something he does. We're opposites. He can stay up, I can get up. :) Try to find time on his days off. My hubby used to work obscene hours on the farm, from 6am to 11 pm, the kids wouldn't see him for literally weeks at a time. We made his days off, "Daddy Days". It was more work for me, but it was good for them.

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