anger issues

Cara - posted on 05/10/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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my 16 almost 17m old boy is nasty! it only seems to be me he attacks...he bites, pinches, hits, throws things, pulls hair, head butts n scratches!!!! he yells n screams while he does it (he makes no sense in doing so)but iv tried ignoring him, sending him to bed, givin him a small bite back on the hand, walking away..nothing is working!! y is he only doing it to me...when his dad is home he very rarely does it?? should i b concerned..wat can i do???

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Louise - posted on 05/11/2010

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This is attention seeking behaviour and most probably escalates from pure frustration. His little body will not yet do what he wants it to do and pure frustration manifests into violent outbursts. Watch him and see if you can gauge when he is getting wound up. Is it when he is playing with certain toys? The try and problem solve with him, is it because he can not get the lid off a toy or put a toy inside something. Problem solving is a skill every child has to learn. My advice when he is being violent is to warn him once that you will put him in his room if he continues and then just remove him from the situation. Place him in his room with a stair gate on the door and tell him to calm down. Just ignore the screams. If you do this everytime he will soon learn that tantrums are fruit less. But I think these outbursts should stop once he learns to problem solve by himself.

Gina - posted on 05/10/2010

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I'm not critisiseing you,but it sounds like dad has more authority then you do ,in your son's eyes. Sounds like he knows dad won't take his crap as long as you will.
Give him 1 warning,and follow thru with the same conciquence for every thing he does. Get down to his level and speak to him in a low voice,don't yell. Or hell, scream at the top of your lungs.
My mother once climbed on the sofa,grabbed her hair with both hands and screamed at the top of her lungs" YOU GIRLS ARE DRIVING ME F-ING CRAZY!!!" I don't remember what we had done,but she said it never happened again.

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