Another Baby

Kimberly - posted on 10/07/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




Hii guys ! my name is Kimberly and i have a a 10 month old girl. i'm only 20 years old, but i do go to school and my fiance goes to school and works. Lately i've been yearning for another child. My fiance says he wants another one as well but i'm not sure if it'd be unfair to my daughter because she is still soo young. i dont know. can anybody help me out with some advice ? it'd be greatly appreciated.


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Shallece - posted on 10/08/2011




I have 3 girls. My 1st & 2nd are 22.5 months apart and my 2nd & 3rd are 18 months apart. You having a girl already they are naturally tuned to be a lottle mommy to the new baby. I found thay having them almost 2yrs apart was a lot more manageable. I had my oldest potty trained by the time my 2nd child came along and it was great having only one in diapers. Also my oldest was a big helper as well. Fetching diapers, wipes, ect. And she was so happy to help. Having my 2nd & 3rd closer together I find it to be more demanding of a job. It is alot of work. It mau pay off as they get older being all girls hopefully they are close. But right now its a struggle. Hope this helps you! I would shoot for around 2 yrs apart.

Bonnie - posted on 10/08/2011




Well if you started trying now, she would be a year and a half. She would likely still be in diapers and almost ready to potty train. Do you think you could handle a toddler and a newborn? It really is up to you and whether or not you want them to be close in age. My first two are 22 months apart. I like the age difference and they are fairly close.

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I have two, my eldest was a year old when I got pregnant with my youngest and was 19 months when I gave birth (3 weeks early). At first it was difficult as I choose to bf so my daughter (youngest) was with me constantly but as soon as I could I made the effort to spend at least half hour doing an activity with my son (eldest).

Now my daughter is 4 1/2 months old and it's lovely to see them playing together, well talking really as she can't move yet. My son loves having a little sister so much.

When we found we was pregnant we made sure to include our son, even though he didn't understand a lot. We always refered to the baby as our baby not just mine and his daddy's, we helped him pick a present for the baby and baby got him a book. We also worked on learning gentle as he is very boisterous and he is relatively gentle with her. I think as long as you make sure not to exclude your child it is really great for them to have a sibling so close in age, my son really does love it :-)

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