Anxiety about being away from my daughter - any suggestions??

Becky - posted on 08/30/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am a first time mom of a 9 month old baby girl. I stay home with her, and I love it! I have always dreamed of being able to do this, and I feel very blessed. That said, I feel overwhelmed because it is a 24/7 job. Since she has been born, I have been with her non-stop. I can probably count on one hand the amount of times I have been away from her. This morning I visited our local YMCA to get information about joining. I would like to be able to work out - lap swimming or cardio, etc....to help me feel better about myself post-baby. But I am SO anxious to leave her. The thought of putting her in child care makes me nauseated. My mother-in-law lives nearby, so I could leave her there, but even that makes me upset - even though she is a trusted family member. I am really struggling with this. Part of me is longing for a little me-time, but I can't seem to let go - even for an hour. Am I nuts??

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Erin - posted on 09/04/2013

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No you're not crazy, or at least you're not alone. I hate leaving my kids with anyone other than my mom. In this day, you never know what kind of crazy things could happen. These are our precious babies, of course we want to make sure they are safe at all times. What better way to ensure their safety is guaranteed than to have mom be everything. My advice is to take baby steps...try a 30 minute trip to the store then progress to an hour, 2 hours etc. Maybe that will help. Good luck!

Becky - posted on 09/04/2013

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Thank you for the advice! A few nights ago, I went out to dinner with a friend for about 2 hours. I left my daughter at home with my husband. At first, I was upset about leaving her - especially at bedtime because I am always there to tuck her in at night. But I ended up having a wonderful time, and it was a nice break to eat and talk with a girlfriend for a little while. Whew! Maybe I can slowly ease into this. :)

Alejandra - posted on 09/01/2013

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I can relate! I was the same way with my first baby, I would call my mom constantly to check on him and at times I would be in tears from missing him! It did get easier with time, I left him slowly but consistently at times with my mom and little by little he and I (him sooner than I) adjusted and it became a huge blessing for me! It was really neat to see my mom and my son interact because it helped them bond more and he got to learn some new things from her too! It sounds like you are a great and caring mom and I think you will do great once you slowly give it a try! Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 08/30/2013

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You need to get some me time!!! It's not good to not trust anyone with your little one. What are you going to do when she goes to school? She also needs to learn early otherwise it will make it 10x harder for you when she's screaming for you.
Maybe try just little stints first. Leave her with your MIL and go for a walk. Gradually extend the time you are away and before you know it you will be able to go to the gym.
You have to do it though, all too soon she will be in school and you won't have anything for yourself.

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