Any advice for a new SAHM?

Rachel - posted on 05/06/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )




Hi there! My name is Rachel and I am a new Mommy and also SAHM. I am use to being in school full time along with working and switching gears to being at home 24/7 has been a bit rough. My little girl is only a month old, and I am trying to find some groups locally but am having a hard time find one! Any advice from other SAHM, that helps with getting use to being at home?


Samantha - posted on 05/06/2011




Try to enjoy every single moment! There may be moments of boredom, frustration, and loneliness but remember that they are only this little once! I hope you find some local group...I just joined one in our city and LOVE it. I try go outside and sit under a tree in the shade, go for walks, read books, tummy time, educational DVDs, and just mommy and baby play time. Websites like this also help keep me grounded with vents and ideas!


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Heather - posted on 05/09/2011




Breathe! It's a huge change to get used to. Remind yourself for your reasons for choosing to be a SAHM and the positive effects it can have on your child's whole future. Try your local health clinic, breastfeeding group or church to find other groups of mums to share with. Remember that your choice is a valid, positive and valuable choice and don't ever introduce yourself or think of yourself as 'only a mum'. All mums, of all types whether they stay at home or not, shape that world in the most amazing long-term and powerful way.

Tia Melissa - posted on 05/09/2011




Hi Rachel! Welcome to full time MuthaHood from the home! (just saw the video on YouTube. Hilarious!) It took me about 6 months to adjust to being at home with the kids. I had to learn how to slow down and not judge myself by how much I got done but by how I spent my day caring for my kids. There are people who get paid to care for the home bound doing exactly what you do all day long! :) I foudn that if I could make a small list of things - fold whites, bathe baby, etc and add to it every.single.stinking.thing I did during the day, I was able to see just how much I accomplished along side caring for the needs of someone totally dependent on me. (stepping off soapbox, tucking under arm and exiting stage left) Get out of the house, take time for yourself - even if it's a bath or a nap while she naps.

As for finding groups, check your local church, if you have one, for groups for moms of small children. MOPS and MOMS groups are great. LaLeche League if you are bf'ing. KinderMusic or a comparable program. A mommy & me class, tumbling or baby exercise class. Your pediatrician or a local Mothers Day Out. I found that taking a class at my local gym (where they accepted babies) was a great way to meet moms with kids of similar ages. I'm pretty chatty so I'll strike up a conversation with just about anyone at a park, store, gym, etc. Even your local elementary might have a preschool program or know of moms with infants. HTH and good luck!

Jessica - posted on 05/09/2011




my only advice is don't shut out your DH when he is home let him help you find the start. Change diapers, take care of her alone while you take a nap or run to the store. You don't have to and shouldn't do it all, all of the time. Also join some mommy groups MOPS is a good one. If you google it you can find the closest meeting to you.

Griselda - posted on 05/08/2011




You are blessed to be able to be a SAHM. It's the most difficult job yet the most rewarding. Where are looking for groups? I highly recommend You'll find playgroups that are age appropriate. To be honest with you, joining a playgroup really helped me build a routine. I've made other mothers that share the same interest as I do and most importantly, the play groups kept me sane. Right now, your little one is continues to sleep a lot but as she gets older you'll be able to engage her interest by teaching and playing her. For now, enjoy these moments and take it one day at a time:)

Michelle - posted on 05/07/2011




Definitely do the sleep when the baby sleeps thing. I wish I had done that with my son. Now that I have three I never get a break. But anyway take a break when you can. Get out every day and walk around the park or the mall if nothing else.

Kelly - posted on 05/07/2011




We found a cooperative preschool that has infant classes all the way through pre-K and incorporates parent education. It really saved my sanity being able to talk to other parents with kids the same age as mine so we could compare notes and be reassured our little ones were all "normal" hehe. My 1st son will be starting their pre-K program in the fall and we have another son due in the next couple weeks who will start the infant class, so I'll get twice as much parent-ed support!! I've made a bunch of friends this way and we all make it a point to try to get together once a week all summer long at different parks so the kids can see each other and we moms and dads can chat too :) Hope you get into a rhythm with your little one soon and find the support you need. Being a SAHM is wonderful, I really love it, but you do need to be able to talk to other adults too :)

Ashley - posted on 05/06/2011




Try phoning elementry schools in your area they should have play groups that will be great for u in a couple months there should also be mommy groups that get together and talk kids lol try joining a baby swimming class in a bit too around 3 or 4 months should be good. Also cheack your newspaper sometimes they have educational groups teach you all about making your own babyfood and diff milestones and any worries you have cheack your womens society or colleges good luck

Cheyenne - posted on 05/06/2011




you pretty much just have to go day by day. some days will be hard and some days will be easy. whenever poeple told me dont really worry about the housework and sleep when baby sleeps: they mean it. i wish i wouldve listen when my son was younger because i was an emotional wreck. so just do thing when she is sleeping or take a break.

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