"any advice on how to lay baby down during day without him cryin cause ur not holdin him?

Keisha - posted on 03/23/2010 ( 31 moms have responded )

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i need some suggestions onb how to lay my son down for naps during the day without him cryin 5 min. after i have laid him down, cause im not holding him...at nite round 6pm we can lay him down he's fine...i dont get it...help please

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Justina - posted on 03/26/2010

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my peditrian says its never hurt a baby to cry!!! but i will tell you that swaddling saved me and so did.. the book... "the sleep lady"

Hannah - posted on 03/26/2010

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Sorry Kyja, but please explain how you spoil a BABY? You can't! A baby only cries when they need something, that is their way of communicating with you. Some babies are more needy than others. My daughter was pretty needy as a newborn, but not now... why? Because I met her needs, all the time.
Sometimes all a baby NEEDS is to cuddle with Mommy, so they cry because they want that closeness. Babyhood goes by so fast, so I say, make the most of it! Cuddle baby to sleep, hold baby when they want to be held, ANSWER baby when baby cries! That is NOT spoiling them, it's meeting their needs.

Remember, if you baby your baby now, you wont have to baby them when they are adults. :)

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Cara - posted on 03/28/2010

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We used a bean bag that can be heated in the microwave (the ones for sore necks etc?) and warmed up the area where he would be laid down. Make sure it's not too hot as to hurt your son. But we found our son wouldn't jolt awake from going from our warm arms to a cold bed. He didn't seem to feel the transition.

Alissa - posted on 03/28/2010

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My baby girl is almost 8 months old and is still being swaddled but her arms are not inside the blanket anymore we also have to play the mobile and a ocean sound so she will sleep. She has been swaddled since birth and she likes to be in a warm environment so she is also covered with another blanket just laying on top of her. We also had to use the boppy pillow so she would sleep.

Alyssa - posted on 03/26/2010

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Jus tlet him cry and not hold him so much. That's someone's fault for holding him too much and you are going to have to break it. Good luck.

Roxane - posted on 03/26/2010

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well lots of babies have this feeling like they are going to fall if they are not being held. you should try to get a pillow and wrap a blanket around it to swaddle him they put him between two pillos on your bed untill he gets use to that for a couple of nights then he wil be free to sleep on his own my daughter was the same now she wont sleep with me she sleeps in her crib and has been that way since she turned a month.We had a very hard time at first my husband even slept on the couch.

Tashina - posted on 03/26/2010

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sometimes a swing helps. there are times my son wakes up in his crib but isnt ready to get "up up" i put him in his swing and that usually helps him go to slee[ right away

Myra - posted on 03/26/2010

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He may not be ready to lay down. The books I've read all say it is not damaging for a baby to cry up to 10 minutes, so if he only cries for a few minutes, it's a bit annoying for you, but he'll be OK. If he just won't lay down and starts crying, pick him up, hold him a few minutes, and try laying him back down. He will eventually be fine with the idea, but it's something he has to get used to.

Lori - posted on 03/26/2010

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let them cry it excersises there lungs and allows them to self sooth. they have to learn that you will come back with out them crying for you. be brave and pay attention to the type of cry. the oh no where are you cry will pass. hugs to you and good luck.

Jennie - posted on 03/26/2010

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Crying is not a bad thing, he is learning to self soothe! If it bothers you that much try swaddling him! My son used to sleep with one of my shirts also, but I had gone back to school so that may be different circumstances!

Kyja - posted on 03/25/2010

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I had the same problem with my son.. Mainly because he was spoiled and i held him all the time but i asked his peditrican and she said to let him cry himself to sleep.. So i did and it was very hard the first 2 or 3 nights but after those first couple days the crying only last 5 mins then 2 then there was none and it was AMAZING

Kristin - posted on 03/25/2010

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You don't say how old he is. There could be a physioloical reason he doesn't want to lay down, reflux. Or he could be concerned that he is going to miss out on something. Or he doesn't actually need the nap. Or, he might just be lonely.

Keep him active and busy when it's not nap time. It might be time to consolidate, shorten, or eliminate naps; just check with your doc on aout how much total time he should get in a 24 hour period. You can sit in the room with him until he falls asleep or have him in a swing, bouncer, or carrier/carseat while you do something else.

On the other hand, if you don't mind holding him or laying down with him, do it. These first years go by so fast, he'll be out of this before you know it. He needs you more now than he ever will later in life. Whatever you decide to do will be the right thing to do if you are comfortable with your decision. Good luck.

Kelly - posted on 03/25/2010

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I had a hard time with letting my older daughter cry it out, but when she was swaddled and whitenoise on, it worked after a few days of crying. With my second, when I'm holding her I put her blanket that she'll be covered with between myself and her. That way when I lay her down it's still warm against her and has my scent. For now I nap her in the bouncy seat and that seems to work better than her crib. I say experiment with where you put your son; bouncy seat, couch cushions like the other mom said, swing seat. My first daughter napped in my bed with bolsters to keep her on place. Unfortunately, it's trial and error with these kids. Good luck!

Hannah - posted on 03/25/2010

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Have you considered baby wearing? It keeps him close to you, but allows your hands to be free to do other things, such as cleaning, or school/work, or anything really.

I wore Valerie, who is 15 months old today, for quite a while, and still sometimes wear her. She slept really good, and I was still able to get stuff done throughout the day, without having to hear my precious one in the other room crying. Now, for naps, she sleeps in her crib, no problem.

Melinda - posted on 03/25/2010

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Your child cries for a reason...I disagree on letting him cry it out. Just pick him up and he will probably fall asleep on your shoulder. If he starts to wimper let him try to fall asleep on his own. Let him know you are there for him. I had to do the same thing at night...my son would wake up and I would pick him up...now I let him "fall asleep".

Michelle - posted on 03/25/2010

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Do not worry My daughter was the same way and what i did was turned on some music and turned it down to where u could hardly hear it. then with in 5 min she would be asleep. it was usually soft pop music she listened to. now she is going to be 6 and she still listens to music when it is time for bed.

Ashley - posted on 03/24/2010

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How old is your son? Sometimes its relux, sometimes gas, sometimes too hot/cold, too bright..etc.. Do you have whitenoise, light blockout shades, music, and anything you may find he enjoys:) My daughter was that way until about 5 months so I had to wear my baby bajourn and sometimes she would rest in my bed ( I think because she could still smell me:)

Kari Lynn - posted on 03/24/2010

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Awww! He's afraid of missing something :) I actually rocked my first until she was asleep and then put her down. The 2nd got put anywhere and she'd sleep. His crying will definately hurt you before it hurts him. But it is a "training" You need to find a routine that works for YOU and mold him to it. It will be tough and you may end up crying a couple of times but it will pay off in the long run. Good luck!

Vanessa - posted on 03/24/2010

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My dr told me nap time is for mom not baby. SO when YOU want him to nap he will you just need to show him how. Your baby looks young so its easier in the long run because they do sleep allot when they are little. My daughter is almost a year (april 7th) she use to cry when i would put her in her crib for nap time. I put a radio in her room and played celtic music at a low level ( i am not celtic but if you have ever heard the music its very soothing and many different instruments) i would than shut the door and go about my day. it took about 3 days but after that still to this day when i put her in her nap and give her a blanket and play music she will lay down and go to sleep. she might talk to her self or sing but she will eventually sleep. and if not i still make her sit there because its just the general calming time that will help her relax and gives us both a break. hope this helps good luck

Alina - posted on 03/24/2010

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Try letting him cry a few minutes and you may find he will be sleep soon. Some other thing I did with my son - I would wrap him in a blanket that I'd wrapped myself in. It seems he needed me close, and something that smelled like me always worked. And no perfumes or anything, just my natural "Mommy" scent. Also, it could be all the activities and light during the day. It's still and dark at night, as it was in the womb. Try putting him somewhere during the day without the direct sunlight. As for the noise, that's something all babies will learn to sleep through - he'll get used to it soon. Hope something works for you :)

Ericka - posted on 03/24/2010

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sometimes the need to cry. it is good for lung development. i dont mean let him cry forever or anything like 10-15 mins see if he will cry himself to sleep, if he is truly tired he will fall asleep without you. it is a habit to fall asleep on mommy and eventually you have to break that habit. anyone who gives a baby a pacifier knows that eventually they are gonna have to take it away and their child is gonna scream and cry about it. its the same thing. like i said dont let him cry too long and at first lay him down right when his eyes start to get droopy so you know for sure he is tired. hope this helps

Brandy - posted on 03/24/2010

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I had the same problem with my daughter so what I did was lay her down on her side and put a rolled blanklet or stuff aminal behind her so she did roll and just put my hand on her until she fell asleep and it worked and i got more stuff done during the day cause I wasn't having to hold her cause she was crying I hope that helps and good luck Keisha It's hard I know

Jessica - posted on 03/24/2010

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My 3 kids all had collic and did the same thing and by the third I figured out that if you stick them up against the back of the couch or fold a pillow in half and putnit behind them and then stick a receiving blanket in the dryer to get it warm probably 2 of them would be better and put one on the pillow behind him and roll or folld the other one to put in fron t of him to create the feeling of snuggling or being cradled and the warm blankets provide the comfort of mommies warm touch it worked like a charm for me. just make sure that it is firm on both sides or if you you have a boppy pillow and the blankets that works too. Its worht a try and nothing to lose

Keisha - posted on 03/24/2010

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TY U ALL FOR ALL UR ADVICE...I WILL TRY THEM ALL AND SEE WHICH WORKS BEST...I REALLY DO APPRECIATE AND HOPE U ALL HAVE A GREAT DAY WITH UR LITTLE ONES:)

Jennifer - posted on 03/24/2010

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Let him Cry it out. Honestly. If all his basic needs are met, he will be fine. I know it is hard to do but try.

Delia - posted on 03/23/2010

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Have you heard of the PUPD method? Pick up your baby when he/she cries and a soon as he/she stop put her/him down again. It works wonders, and you’re not letting your baby "cry it out". Your baby will start to understand that it's time to sleep and won't cry after a few days. Just make sure your baby has been fed, changed, and had some activity even if you're just putting her to lie down and not sleep.



Just remember that your baby is still very young and gets bored fast, because there's not much they can do then just lie there. So make sure he/she had something to look at (mobile) if it's not nap time, make sure you are doing plenty of tummy time, and reading.



Don't let your baby lie on his/her back too much, because if could cause a flat spot.



You won't always be able to hold your baby when he/she us crying because you'll be busy wash dishes or whatever, don't feel badly if your baby cries sometimes just make sure you have attended to all his/her needs, and you and your little one will do great.

Shaila - posted on 03/23/2010

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my daughter used to do the same thing then my auntie told me if u pick her up n she stays crying then something is wrong but if she stops crying then shes OK ..my daughters doctor said a little bit of crying won't hurt her as a matter of fact its good for her lungs,n If you cant stand to hear her crying shut the door to her room n go to another.. so I tried it n now nap time comes around and she sleeps like an angel..

Arena - posted on 03/23/2010

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i let my daughter lay in her swing for her nap cause its the only way she dosent cry but my son wanted his bouncy seat that vibrated i would try little things like lay her against your leg at first too it worked with my second

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From your picture, he looks really young. I had the same issue with my son. I would hold him and rock him to sleep every time. But as time when on, he got really heavy and big. I had to break him and me of the habit. I think he may have been 12 weeks or so, I just had to let him cry. Don't put him to bed until he is truly tired. Let him cry a while (if you agree with that). If you have to, walk outside in the yard for a bit if you don't like hearing the crying. It will take a bit, but he will learn. I remember what my mom told me, "crying doesn't hurt them and they can stop whenever they want". It hurts you more then them. That is just what I did and it worked, I know there are probably a lot of diff ways, thought I'd tell you mine.

Brandis - posted on 03/23/2010

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you could try laying him in his crib or whatever he takes a nap in and read him a short book, while still touching him like rubbing his back leg head or whatever....my son is 2 he gets upset too but when i sit down and read him a book close to the end he'll roll over and drift off to sleep

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