any good ideas on how to get a 6 month old to sleep

Angela - posted on 10/11/2009 ( 8 moms have responded )

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We have to rock her every single time, has to be dark and she still wont sleep all night in her crib, and I dont want to do the let her cry it out try.

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Ruth - posted on 10/11/2009

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sorry, babies don't sleep through the night until they are ready. Mine didn't sleep through the night until he was almost 2.

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Stephanie - posted on 10/12/2009

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I am going through this right now with my 8 month old. I am pregnant and expecting at the end of Jan so I have to get her sleeping on her own all night now. She was waking up every 3 hours and wouldn't go back to sleep without me rocking her and giving her a bottle. I finally took my mom's advice to just let her cry it out and it worked like a charm. She cried for 1 hour solid the first night, but that was the worst of it. It's hard, but worth it. Now she's getting her 12 hours and I'm getting my 8. It is so much better for both of us.

Amanda - posted on 10/12/2009

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With my daughter from the day she was born, I rocked her to sleep evrynight with no problems. Until she hit 4 months old, then when she got sleepy she wouldn't even let me hold her, so she went to sleep evrynight for a month in her swing. At 5 months old she decided she didn't like the swing anymore either and she still wouldn't let me rock her. So that is when I had to start putting her in her crib to fall asleep on her own. The first few nights she cried, so i bought her a crib toy that sings songs and has lioghts on it and it projects pictures onto her ceiling. So then she would just watch that until she fell asleep. She is 10 months old now and is doing great, most of the time she just goes to sleep when i put her in there. Good Luck!!!

Mandy - posted on 10/12/2009

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they do NOT have to cry. it is NOT helpful.



my 9mo goes to sleep in my arms evertime. i enjoy the down time with him. he wont be doing it forever. there will come a time in his life when he doesnt want to give me cuddles and i will be grateful that i have had this time with him.



i would keep doing what you are doing. i know it gets frustrating, and tiring, but it is well worth it. you are doing a great job.



all the best

Mandy - posted on 10/12/2009

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i am getting all my facts from Dr William Sears sleep book. I have found it really helpful.





Infants who are routinely separated from their parents in a stressful way have abnormally high levels of stress hormone cortisol and lower growth hormone levels. These imbalances inhibit the growth of nerve tissue in the brain.

Researchers at Yale Unerversity and Harvard Medical School found that intense stress early in life can alter the brain's neurotransmitters and structure in a similar way to that found in adults with depression.

A study from the Unerversity of Hertfordshire, U.K., showed infants with persistant crying episodes were 10 times more likely to grow up to have ADHD, concluding this may be due to unresponsive parenting.

Research at Baylor University found when chronic stress over-stimulates an infant's brain, the child will grow up with an over-active adrenaline system, causing aggression, impolsivity, and violence later in life.

Studies at the UCLA School of Medicine found the stress hormone cortisol actually destroys nerve connections in critical portions of an infant's developing brain, and when babies are neglected, they can grow up to be violent, imolsive, and emptionally unattached children.

Doctors at Case Western and Duke Universities showed prolonged crying in infants caused increased pressure in the brain, elevated stress hormones and decreased oxygenating to the brain.

Researchers found babies whose cries are usually ignored will not develop healthy intellectual and social skills.

Doctors at the National Intitute of Health found that infants with prolonged crying (not due to colic) in the first 3 months of life had an average IQ 9 points lower at five years of age and poor fine motor development.

Infants with excessive crying during the early months show difficulty controlling their emotions and become even fussier when parents try to console them at 10 months.

All babies cry, and most babies grow up to be emotionally and neurologically healthy children. However, this research is clear on one point: intense, extended periods of crying alone can permanently harm a baby's developing brain. What does this mena about the Cry It Out method? A baby who only cries briefly for a few nights is probably fine. What about crying for many minutes, night after night? We cant say how many minutes and how many night are safe, because no one has ever researches this. We urge parents to be very cautious if they decide to try this method.

Dr William and Martha Sears

Allie - posted on 10/11/2009

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There are swaddling blankets that velcro so it is harder/not impossible for them to get out. My daughter was swaddled at naptime and bedtime for months. Do you have a bedtime routine? I believe that a daily routine helps children understand what time it is. For instance, dinner, quiet time with mom and/or dad, bath, bottle, crib time when drowsy, bed. It really isn't hurtful to let her cry, she will learn to understand that her crib is not a bad place to sleep and that you WILL come back for her in the morning...

Natasha - posted on 10/11/2009

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All babies need to learn to fall asleep by themselves. The more you rock her and try get her to sleep the more she is going to need you to do that. I think the best thing for you to try is to let her lie in her cot by herself when she is awake and let her get used to being in there by herself. She will learn to self sooth and this may help her to fall asleep by herself. Leave the curtains open and give her some toys to play with so she doesn't think you are trying to put her to sleep. I know you don't want to let her cry it out but honestly sometimes it is the best thing for babies! Try just leaving her for a minute then 2 minutes and so on and see if that helps. When you go back in don't take her out of her cot just talk soothingly to her and pat her until she calms down (not until she is asleep) then leave again and keep doing this. If she gets hysterical never leave her go to her straight away and pick her up and soothe until she is calm then lie her back in her cot again. It worked wonders with my son. All the best :)

Jacklyn - posted on 10/11/2009

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hi will i have been there and done that it is healthy for your baby to cry and i think you should let her cry to see how that goes but dnt let her cry to much or for to long

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