any ideas on how to re-light that candle that has fizzled?

Sarah - posted on 01/21/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




my husband works two full time jobs and i am a stay at home mom of two boys (6 & 3) and run an in home daycare. any ideas on how to put the "us" time back in our hectic schedule?


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Myra - posted on 01/21/2010




Start out small. Write a little love note and put it in his pocket or wallet (somewhere you know he will find it). Mail him a thinking of you card so he gets something in the mail other than bills. Write a poem for him. Take a bath together when the kids have gone to bed. Watch a movie on the couch, and rub each other's feet. After the kids have gone to bed, play strip poker or truth or dare. Take a day off...both of you take a day off from work and send the kids to stay with someone all day...get a nice hotel room, some flowers, candles, order some room service (or food to be delivered to the room), and lounge around in your skimmies (or less) and see where it takes you.

With your husband working two jobs and you owning your own day care, it is probably VERY hard to get that time together, much less have the energy for reigniting the spark. There is no magic fix, though. It is something you have to work at keeping alive if you want it in your life. You have to make it a priority like the kids, keeping a clean house, or having an income. But start small...if he's like my husband, that little thing will push him to make the time (that's how I ended up pregnant this time...all from a little foot massage). :)

Michelle - posted on 01/21/2010




The only advice I can give is you HAVE TO take time for the 2 of you. I have 4 kids. 2 kids ago my husband and I realized we were at risk of this...and though we could not afford a weekly babysitter we decided to make "us" time. We made every Friday night about us. We fed the kids early, put them to bed early, and we bought a cook book, and each week we cooked dinner together, and even if we were "not in the mood" we lit candles and sat at the TABLE. Then when we were finished we were free to do what we, games whatever....but the important part to me was sitting at the table uninterupted for at least 1 hour. It really made a difference for us. Now our oldest is almost we have a babysitter!!

Evelyn - posted on 01/21/2010




Have you tried dating again. I know it sounds corny but it works and it a whole lot fun.

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