Any other SAHMs lonely?

Carolyn - posted on 09/23/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )




My DD just turned 4 months and I am loving my new job as a stay at home mommy but lately I've been feeling very lonely. I used to be a teacher and my other teacher friends and I got together all the time over the summer (plus my sister was out of a job for a while so she came over and hung out several days a week). Between that and how busy having a newborn kept me - time flew by. Now that it is fall and all my teacher friends have gone back to work and my sister has found a job I find myself feeling extremely lonely. I try to keep busy - playing with DD, reading to her, going for walks, running in the park with the jogger and I love spending the time I get to spend with her...but by the day's end I can't wait for my husband to get home just to have an adult to talk to. Any other new SAHMs feel this way? Does anyone have suggestions on how to deal with these feelings of loneliness? I'm worried that if I continue to feel this way I may become depressed.... :-(


Michelle - posted on 09/25/2010




Try joining a local MOMs Club or MOPS and host playdates at your house or if it is within walking distance a park. If you can get out and around do what others have suggested and look at Gymboree classes, water babies, water kids, Boys and Girls Club and see if they have an indoor park during the colder, wetter seasons, introduce yourself to other moms at parks or whatever you never know what might happen, check out your local Parks and Rec, MOMs Club, MOPS, or any other groups for parents and children, storytime at a library, local toy stores might host events, there are a whole bunch of things out there that you can do. Just don't be afraid to put yourself out there. You never know what might happen. Heck, that's how I have the friends I have now. Good luck!

Joan - posted on 09/23/2010




try your local library, they usually have story hour. some book stores also do this. go to parks and don't be afraid to say hello first you may find a new friend.

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Angel - posted on 11/04/2012




Yes I agree with the person that said find a playgroup! and when you have to be at home during nap when you have nothing to do shop for discounts online one example here or just look around at things you may buy in the future or for your child a new toy the latest technology I do this and it keeps me from being depressed don't just sit around watching tv because you will become depressed.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/27/2010




Play group has been a magical cure for my lonliness. I had been finding myself getting more and more depressed and feeling kind of isolated. Now, we go to play group every Friday and I've met so many moms and we meet for playdates outside of playgroup. Plus I started going to Zumba on Mondays and Wednesday for an hour... it's a little bit of adult time away from the baby... where I can smell like sweat instead of spit-up... and the exercise has made me feel better about myself and getting me more fit and toned. If I would've known that something so simple would make me feel 1000% better, I would've been doing this 6 weeks ago.

Kirstie - posted on 09/26/2010




I know how you feel,its a hard time as well as a lonely one.
Me and a few girls are going to a mommy and me class try it you will meet loads of friends.

Kerstin - posted on 09/26/2010




I know how you feel! After I had my son all of a sudden my amount of friends dwindled. Always too busy or didn't care to hang out with me because of my child. 3 of my closest friends moved away to. So I struggle to find things to do to keep me busy and sane. I go for walks everyday and try a different route everytime. I live in a very small town so there's not much in the way of groups I can join. If grocery shopping needs to be done, I ask my bf for some money and take the stroller down. We sit outside sometimes and my son likes to watch cars drive by or just simply look at everything. I clean when I can. Thinking of things to do everyday can be incredibly hard but you will think of ideas!

Beckie - posted on 09/26/2010




i know what your going through we moved to a new place when i was pregnant so i dont know anyone i usually cant wait for my man to come home but at times i like being on my own with shalaya ive been told to do mothers group and stuff like that but im happy i do get lonely sometimes i think you should just take this time to relax and focus on you and DD

Carolyn - posted on 09/25/2010




I'm glad to know I'm not the only mom that feels this way sometimes. Thanks for the tips everyone! I found out about a library story time called babies in bloom at my local library (geared for birth -2) and a playgroup as well.

Stacey - posted on 09/25/2010




I totally know how you feel. I live overseas so I'm not even close to my family or friends and don't really have any close ones here. I learned to adapt to the new lifestyle but I still get majorly lonely after a few days. The best advice is find a playgroup or other moms that you can hang out with. Even if its just talking on the phone, it can really help the loneliness.

Rebecca - posted on 09/24/2010




I know exactly how you feel! I'm on bed rest until my PP bleeding stops, since I passed a piece of placenta the size of a peach two weeks after my DD was born. My LO is a month old now, still bleeding heavily, and the only person that ever comes to visit is my mom. Not a whole lot to do right now, other than taking care of Saydi, but even then, she's only a month and sleeping aaallll the time. I really wish she'd get her days and nights straightened out so I can have some sort of interaction during the day! It's a quiet day, everyday, full of watching seinfeld dvd's and drinking pot after pot of coffee. lol. Hang in there, things will get better. You just have to put yourself out there and try to find some other moms in your area to hang out with and relate to :)

LovinLifeAsMommynWife - posted on 09/24/2010




I agree with the other ladies. Find playgroups, library time for infants, Mommy & Me classes. I also did Stroller Strides. That was a lot of fun, and I got to work out at the same time.

Hope this helps a bit.


Kayla - posted on 09/23/2010




I feel the same.. but I can't just go visit ppl or anything cuz i have no car.. :(
Take some mommy and me classes.. playgroup... or GIRLS NIGHT OUT. thats what im trying..

Amalea - posted on 09/23/2010




Its really hard at first to stay positive, girl Im lonely as hell some days. Get your child into a playgroup, or try some mommy and me classes. its lonely bc you have no adult interaction on some days, your friends are too busy for you, and its just a drag sometimes. If you live near family members, go visit them, or just take your kid for a walk, get out the house. Or try a new hobby. I got into candymaking last year, and I give goodies out as xmas presents to friends and some family. i also picked up reading alot more. Theres so much to do out there, and I know sometimes it all seems so dismal, but youre getting to watch your child grow every day, dont take it for granted, bc before you know it, theyre half grown!

Lisa - posted on 09/23/2010




Find a playgroup that you and your daughter can attend. You'll have contact with other mom's.

It's a big adjustment at first from having adult interactions everyday to having none. But it does get easier but I still have days when I feel lonely and isolated. On those days I go visit my parents or my grandmothers.

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