Any other stay at hom completely wiped out?

Tamika - posted on 12/05/2011 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I'm a mom of three under three, my oldest is three and in preschool 3days a week. My youngest iwas bornat 23wks4days is a m iraclous preemie adjusted age of 4 months and isnt sleeping through the night. I have been going for the past six months and finally feeling so thired that i cant push any more and for the last few days have allowed my kids to camp in front of the tv? Anyone feel like this?

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Amanda - posted on 12/05/2011

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just coz they look like they're holding it together on the outside doesn't mean they're not struggling inside

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Tamika - posted on 12/09/2011

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ThanksTracy!..i've been trying to rest when they rest and not push myself to be super mom and wife. I have been allowing others to help and i'm starting to feel more like myself. I know it will not always be like this. Walking every day has been so helpful, eating a high protein breakfast has also. i'm just thankful to have a place to talk with others who are going through what i am.

Tracy - posted on 12/09/2011

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How terrifying. My daughter was born at 35 weeks and I thought that was early. The stress from the early delivery alone can be draining. So happy to hear baby made it home. Some days (who am I kidding - most days) I feel like the worlds' worst mom. My home is never clean (and my mom doesn't hesitate to point that out) and some days we don't even get dressed. I feel terrible when I realize the tv has been on majority if not all day. I tell myself I'll do better tomorrow but that almost never happens. Feel like if anyone did a home inspection that they'd take the kids because the house isn't clean. The kids are happy which I guess is all that matters. Can you tell I feel the same as you? ha ha One day it will come easier. Hang in there.

Tamika - posted on 12/07/2011

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Thanks everyone! Such encouragement. I believe each day will be better. Less tired today than yesterday but more muscle sore today. This is the greatest job i've ever had but the most tiring.

Stifler's - posted on 12/06/2011

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I just make sure the place is tidy when he gets here and he doesn't ask questions

Stifler's - posted on 12/06/2011

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my kids amuse themselves most of the day while i bludge and do a bit of cleaning here and there. i only have 2 though.

Tonya - posted on 12/06/2011

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I was there about ten years ago and I am amazed I survived. I had to shrink my goals. There were times when getting a shower and keeping the kids alive were a successful and accomplished day. Get some mommy time! Get away from kids, go out with friends, take a nap, get a manny/pedi. There were a couple of times I went to the library and just sat in the quiet for a while--I didn't even read anything. Meditation really is good for the soul. They WILL get older, you WILL get to sleep again, and someday you will smile when you remember the days you held that fine thread of sanity together with nothing more than Sesame Street, Eggo waffles, and a girl at a nail salon who could barely speak English, but spent an hour making you feel human again. Not even McGuyver could do that--which makes you a super hero.

Kyleigh - posted on 12/05/2011

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gosh he was surely a miracle! Yes there are definitly days I feel like this! Some of my kids just refused to sleep in their own beds i got tired of fighting so they won , my kids are 7 and nearly 9

Tamika - posted on 12/05/2011

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I feel so much better knowing that I'm not the only one. Sometimes you see moms with there kids and you wonder why doesn't look like she's falling apart. I must not be strong enough or something medical is wrong with me ( when I've been to the dr and everything is fine) . Thanks everyone! Some times you just need to hear you aren't alone to help quiet your mind.

Amanda - posted on 12/05/2011

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We all have days like that. I have a 2 and 3 yr old and both are high maintenance in their own way. For me personally I find the less I do the more tired I get. When I feel like that I take the kids to the park and grab a coffee or pop to the shop for a block of chocolate.

Denikka - posted on 12/05/2011

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I feel you. I have a 2.5yr old boy and a 10mo girl.
My boy is pushing boundaries now, as most 2yr olds do, and that can be very tiring. And my girl is totally attached to mom. I need to be accessible 24/7 whether she actively wants me at that moment or not XD
She also, depending on when she has her nap, won't sleep until 2am XP My son gets up about 7am. Add on to that the fact that I suffer from periodic insomnia, 5 or 5 hours of sleep a night is a blessing. It's usually closer to about 4hours.
I don't have anyone to go out with, my mom time consists of grocery shopping for 2-3hours every other week.
I definitely have those days of total apathy. The dishes might get done, something quick gets thrown in the oven, and beyond that. . .nothing really gets accomplished. The kids spend their day entertaining themselves or sitting in front of the TV. It happens to everyone :)

Katherine - posted on 12/05/2011

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All the time. I have a 6 year old in first grade who comes home wpied out every day and a 2.5 year old that wears me out all the time. I camp her out all the time in front of the TV. It's the only way I can stay sane sometimes.
Having three under three is difficult I can imagine especially with the little one not sleeping. It's not unusual though. My daughters NEVER slept through the night. I was exhausted all the time.
Is there anyway you can have someone watch them for a few hours while you go out? Maybe with friends or even to a coffee shop to just read and relax?
That's what I used to do.
I did it at LEAST once a week. I would have gone bonkers if I didn't. Every mom needs a break, and deserves one.

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