Any SAHM home Schoolling their child/ children??

Carolyn - posted on 05/21/2012 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I am thinking of home schooling my two children when they become school age. i look around and see how the children are with my stepdaughter and my neices and nephews and wonder if i would be doing them an injustice by not allowing them to be in public schools.

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Linda - posted on 06/18/2012

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I've homeschooled my children for 16 years. My oldest (20) is one class short of his bachelor's degree in computer science!

Socialization is NOT a problem for homeschoolers. We've mostly had to worry about cutting back on that so we could get school done!

This is what my kids have missed by being homeschooled: bullying, boredom, waiting for the teacher to get around to them, teasing by other kids, having their beliefs ridiculed by teachers or students, waiting for the bus, stressful mornings getting ready for school, crowded vacation spots because we have to go when everyone else is there.

Not only have my kids learned a lot, so have I! I'm still homeschooling my youngest two, and will continue to do so until they graduate from high school.

Sally - posted on 05/28/2012

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You may be doing them an injustice by sending them to public schools. The national literacy rate started going down as soon as schools became mandatory. Would you rather have them learn appropriate social behavior from you or from other people their age? Do you really want them to grow up as "part of a docile workforce"?
We've been trained to think that kids can't learn without a trained professional making them do it. Actually, most kids will learn more faster with some gentle guidance from an adult who cares about them. Public classrooms also have to keep all children at the same level to work. The ones who are behind act up so no one will notice and think them stupid; the ones who are ahead act up because they're bored and everyone has to put up with it.
We've also been trained that "school" (even at home) means sitting at a table with books 6-8 hours a day. 5 days a week. Actually, when you cut out the busywork, discipline of bored or behind, and administrative work; a week of school can be covered in 2-3 hours. And most kids will learn more faster if they are not tied to a table or textbook.
Find out your state laws. All states allow homeschooling, but some make it difficult. Then look it up in your favorite search engine. Then enjoy giving your children the best education possible because it tailored to their needs instead of to the current teaching school fashions.

Nicole - posted on 05/21/2012

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I will be homeschooling my 2 girls next year. I am really looking forward to it. I am looking into a virtual charter school AZ Connect or K12 for the curriculum to help for the first year and hoping I will like it. My girls started preschool and kindergarten at home, but then we moved them to public school for 1st grade and my younger child to K, but didn't like the over crowdedness and so we moved them to a charter school, but now they are not being challenged and the teachers won't help. So I think its time for me as a parent to take the reigns on my children's education. HOme schooling is not what it used to be and there is a lot of help and choices.

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Kris - posted on 12/08/2012

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As much as I love my kids, I'd go crazy if they were home 24/7. I don't have the patience to be a teacher, and with the way my kids act when I try to help them with their work, we would always be butting heads!



I think homeschooling should only be done if your child has some kind of disability or mental illness. If they do, then going to a public school can end up hurting them more then helping them. Kids can be cruel and not very understanding, and could make fun of the child and make him miserable. Homeschooling will shield the child, and they could end up not knowing how to deal with the real world, even if they have friends and are with you and your friends.

However, homeschooling can help your kid(s) be closer to you, and trust you whole heartedly. They could get better grades because they aren't being distracted by other students, and might not have test anxiety, because there's not such a strict time limit. It could make the child grow up to be more laid back and calm.



If they go to public school, they will learn how to interact and socialize with others, learn what can and can't be done or said, and possibly learn to stand up for themselves. Public schools will also expose your child to germs, thus strengthing their immune system, getting them ready for when it's cold and flu season. Public schools also have a better gym then a house, unless you actually have a home gym lol. Then again, public school could also influence kids to do things that they shouldn't, or don't want to. Peer pressure can be pretty harsh, and can be dangerous at times.



The best thing to do would be to look at how your child interacts with you, then with other kids. And how you think they would do in both. If you can't decide, you can always try a private school, which is more or less a combination of both. Private schools have less students, giving the teachers more time for each student. And there's less students, decreasing peer pressure, and the stress and anxiety of being popular.



With any schooling, there's always risks of something. But you need to think about what would be best for the child. If they are severely attatched to you, public or private school could make them feel abandoned and they can act out. If they're not as attatched, then being homeschooled could make them feel smothered, and resent you.



This has always been a tough choice. You could try pretend school before he's school age, and see how that works out for you. If it doesn't work out very well, then you found your answer. If it does, you found your answer. Either way, make sure you let your child know that they have the option to change their mind if that's what they really want, and that you will support it.

Patricia - posted on 12/07/2012

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I say if you can keep them home then do it!!!



We homeschool our Daughter who is 10. You don't need any special skills. There is so much information out there and curriculum. I researched for many years and still do.



I used to teach K-3rd in a Private school and worked in an afterschool program at the public school in Ca. Not good!!! Alabama where we moved is not any better.



Now mind you there are some good schools out there with teachers who really care and are do not have their hands bound to what they can teach and not teach.

Clauricie - posted on 09/25/2012

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Yes, please do. It's great and I do it to my kids too. Plus they will get used to it..when kids are older they get into peer pressure so they will love having the non-stress of hoeschooling, and becoming closer with you

Wendy - posted on 09/22/2012

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Hi Carolyn,



From our experience and knowledge. I would say, keep them home. If you have the dedication and your heart's desire is to homeschool then do it. With these priorities in line, you CAN homeschool. I want to encourage you to go with your heart. There is a reason why this has been laid on your heart and mind. We homeschool and love it. The lifestyle homeschooling offers is so great. Having the freedom and flexibity to educate our own is something really special. To read more about why we homeschool visit http://www.hearts4homeschool.com. I look forward to seeing you there.

Rashell - posted on 06/18/2012

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My boys are 3 and 4 1/2 and my husband and I have just decided to homeschool our boys. Our youngest will still attend a private preschool 3 days a week in the fall but I have dis-enrolled our older son and we have started working on kindergarten curriculum here and there. He wanted to go to summer camp, so he goes twice a week. I have,always known that I didn't want my kids to go to public school but, I toured the public schools in our area anyway. They have both been enrolled at a private school for the toddler twos program and preschool. We had planned on keeping them their for pre-k through 8th grade but neither of us are religious, it just didn't seem like the right fit.

Sharlene - posted on 06/17/2012

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I have two older school children and I dont think I would have the patients to home school my two but I give credit to parents that do.

Heather - posted on 06/17/2012

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I cannot speak from experience yet because my baby is one and I have one on the way but my husband is military and we move every 3 yrs or so. We've made the decision to homeschool all our children. But here is the advice I can give. there is a great need in our society for public schools but if you are able to homeschool give it a try and see what you think. There are homeschooling confrences and communities of people there to support you. confrences are great because your children get to meet people from all over the united states to be friends with. they also recieve one on one attention from their parents which can produce enough fruit of labor to make it worth the challenge. And their friends are still going to be there, they can be enrolled in extra curricular activities to help wiht socialization. Homeschooling is affordable. Do what you believe, not what others believe, is best for your children. Public schooling is what alot of people do and know and they dont' know what homeschooling is like. I was in public school and so was my husband. We made the decision to homeschool because we move alot, we wanted God put first and family second and we wanted to provide them with the best opportunity we could. Try writing a list of whats important to you for your children and see if everything is met by homeschooling or goign to public schools. Hope it helps. God Bless!!!

Heather

Jenny - posted on 06/11/2012

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Sometime this week or next week I will be withdrawing my ds from the public school he just finished 1st grade in and enrolling him into K-12. I have heard good things about it from my friend.

Megan - posted on 06/05/2012

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I am a mom of two girls in Florida. My oldest is 3 and the other is 1. I plan on homeschooling. I was personally in every form of school and thrived most when we home schooled. I did public and private in the USA and public and private abroad, and then at grade 8 asked to be home schooled. There are so many resources and opportunities for home schoolers that I am confident that I can home school my girls. As far as socialization : Being in school is the only time in their life where they will be exclusively with their peer group. It is really a false environment! As soon as they graduate they will either start work with all different aged people or go off to college where again it is a more diverse group. Your child will either be an introvert or extrovert according to their personality, not how they are educated. I am already enjoying learning alongside my pre-k student. :) Good luck to you all!

Jswingle - posted on 05/28/2012

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Honestly socialization is the last worry with homeschooling. We are part of so many homeschooling groups we have to try hard NOT to see people every day lol. Too much going on.
http://www.ontariohomeschool.org/sociali...

This site might ease your worries.

Good luck! Homeschooling is so awesome:)

Stacey - posted on 05/24/2012

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my son is 3 1/2 and we've just begun pre-k type activities, but I plan on homeschooling him at least through elementary school. I was homeschooled growing up though and really enjoyed it. I needed the one on one attention from my parents though. I tried going to public school and didn't do well. I ended up going to public school in high school and did much better at that point. I want to give my kids the same opportunity I had.

Carolyn - posted on 05/24/2012

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yes it can be very difficult. but i look at it as i am doing whats best for my children, i dont want to see them going thru what my stepdaughter is going thru or what i hear is going on at the schools. my children wont be forced to go against what we believe is right or wrong and they will be able to learn with out the distractions i hope lol. it gives them the chance to learn at their own pace. and this stuff in schools where they are not allowed to fail is not teaching them at all. they need to be able to fail at it in order to learn it rather than the teachers help them correct things. they are becoming to dependent on other students and the teachers. if you get online and type in groups for home schooling you can probably find them. i livein Texas and have looked up regulations and such so i can know what i need and all. Over here they dont regulate it as much as other places. so you may want to check what WA'sregulations on home schooling are.

Heather - posted on 05/23/2012

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My son is also 3 and I plan to homeschool him also. I know it is scary. I haven't looked into it much but I plan to. I would love to find a homeschooling coop in my area, but haven't yet, I'm in Bellingham WA. Sometimes I do wish that I could have a few hours of time away from him though. It's tough being a sahm with all the responsibilities of childcare and teaching.
Heather

Carolyn - posted on 05/23/2012

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that is good to know! i have been looking at home schoolin have had ppl tell me that i will be ruining my children by doing it. the schools here worry me, they have really bad bullying and the teachers dont do anything to more than what i am doing here at my home. my son is just turned 3 and can say his ABC and count to 10 with a bit of help. i am just worried i may not be doing the right thing or that i will be horrible at it. i am not sure where to even begin . i want to start my son with thing they do in pre k and in Kindergarten. just not sure where to begin

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