. Any tips to coping day to day with a 3 week old and 11 month old

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Josee - posted on 01/23/2013

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get out of the house - join a local mom's group or play group
it saved me with first baby and I will join up again as soon as we get back from our vacation - with my 6 month old

its nice to just vent and talk to other moms
try it!
good luck
and remember - you dont have to be perfect, there is no such thing as a perfect mom
do your best day to day
and enjoy those babies!

Gretchenvr - posted on 01/23/2013

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THE other thing i wanted to tell you is i recently (a month ago) started taking more vitamins in addition to my prenatal pill. I am also breast-feeding my 1 yr. old. I started to get really bad period&ovulation cramps and at my sisters suggestion i started taking more calcium, a raw B- complex vitamin and Spearilina supplement. They have made such a difference. I didn't even realize that i was feeling so low energy i figured i was doing ALOT so that explained it. Before by 5pm i was ready for bed and by 9pm i was soo tired my head hurt and i was unfunctional. but i doesn't have to be that way. Now i feel great not drinking as much coffee i have ALOt more energy& i am not as tired at the end of the day. BTW i didn't have ovulation pain this month and only 1 day of period cramps as opposed to 3+days. If you want more info on the brand name let me know.

Nicola - posted on 01/23/2013

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Take it day by day I have a 2yr old an 5 month old with lil to no help also. My eldest has digestive problems an my youngest has just been diagnosed wiv large tonsils that stop his from breathing properly. Your not a robot so as your husband to mind the children even if its for a hr just so u soak in the bath an recharged the more stressed you get the more difficult it is to breast-feed plus your children feel it to an don't make for a happy home. If there is dishes in the sink when your husband get home tough sorry but men seem to think we have it easy being at home with children. (I think not)

Rielle - posted on 01/22/2013

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thank you so much. unfourtently I don't got much help. I will remember to just breathe.

Char - posted on 01/22/2013

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Hi I commend you for seeking help so early on. Don't forget that you will be exhausted as you have just ad your little girl. Yes I think that's great advice. Try to sleep when the older one sleeps and maybe set up a play pen with toddler friendly toys inside for them to quietly play. Do you have any friends neighbors or family who could just come in and do things while you rest. So e places have free nanny placements for Practise for people with 2 or more preschoolers. There are even adopted granny agencies with great reputations. Otherwise yes split the house up the wau Gretchen said and definitely get your hubby on board. It's great you are breast feeding. Include your eleven month old in the baby duties so they don't feel left out. Maybe make enough food to freeze for you and your hubby and older child. Keep all of babies and your older child's essentials close by for easy access. If you can pay a child carer that can come in do light house duties and watch your eldest while you are home just so you can rest. Lots of deep breaths and remember you are not alone.

Rielle - posted on 01/22/2013

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thank you so much. I just can't believe the stress. plus I'm breastfeeding so my baby girl constantly eating. yes my husband does come home every night.

Gretchenvr - posted on 01/22/2013

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I have 4yrs old, 3 yrs old and 1yr old! I didn't and still don't have any help. What helped me was to remember your not a robot. Just do the basic necessities ( eating, diapers, naps). If they both are asleep, then don't try to catch up on the house duties, just take a nap for everyones sake! Then after a few weeks you'll get the hang of it and can add some more tasks. Is your husband away @ work or does he come home every nite? If he does come home then maybe he can take over the kid duty while you catch up on the dishes and laundry for an hour. I try to clean 2 sections of the house a day, like sweeping and picking up. Then the next day i will try to clean the bathroom and clean up the bedrooms. It's a little frustrating because you realize it took you all day to do those two things but your taking care of @ babies and your self. Also i found it was real helpful to get out of the house once or twice a week. I would go some where everyone would be entertained. Hope this helps.

Rielle - posted on 01/22/2013

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I'm so terrified. my husband has to return to work early. and I'm a stay at home mom. with little to no help. please anyone have any advice.

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