Anybody get lonely?

Holly - posted on 03/31/2009 ( 17 moms have responded )

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I have a 3year old and a 7month old. My husband leaves at 530am and returns at 650pm. We just moved to a different city where we don't know anyone. My 3year lod is very trying. He likes to yell at me, do dangerous things like climbing, doesn't listen, bother his sister by waking her up or being to rough with her. The baby is at that age where she can't move by herself and therefore gets frustrated quickly and needs to be fed, vhanges and entertained regularly. I am handling my sons behaviour bu on days when he is fustrates me it just adds to the situation.I have a hard time getting dressed and keeping the house cleaned let alone going out. So I am finding myself feeling very lonely and in need of adult company. Does/has anyone else feel this way.

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Napik - posted on 04/07/2009

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Its almost summer, maybe day camp for your boy could help. My elder son who is also 3 gets bored and bother his little brother because he has nothing better to do, he needs to play with other kids and get out of the house, be alone a bit too. and you can look up a family center for play groups around your place and if there too far then maybe try to creat one? good luck!

Nicole - posted on 04/06/2009

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I get lonely too. I live far away from my family and the friends I have had forever. I did belong to a mommy and me group. This group helped alot and I met alot of great mommy's in my area. but  the funding got cut so there is no longer one. I now go to a mommy class. That helps. I also just get out and walk the mall and window shop. I also go to the park and walk around sometimes. Hang in there

Chari - posted on 04/06/2009

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You might want to look into this website "meetup.com" it's a site that will allow you to find groups of people like yourself that get together to do things with their kids or even just for yourself,to get away and for a while for some adult convo and socialization....hope I helped =)

Michelle - posted on 04/06/2009

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Always!  It is getting slightly better at my house.  We moved last Aug and Rachael, my oldest started K.  My 3 year old and 2 year old I enrolled in a Mommy and me class and so every Friday we pile in the car to go there and that has helped.  I am slowly making friends and slowly figuring out our new place.  If we had extra cash I know that I would be shopping with the boys so I guess it is good that I feel we have no money :>)  As it is grocerry shopping is a PAIN in the butt with the boys.  My hubby has gotten better from the move with his driving distance only 15 min Vs 35 min- he leaves the house at around 7 most days and doesn't get home until 5:30-6 and then it is a race as we need dinner and bedtime.  Most everything house related falls on me and I find that hard as well.



You are not alone.  Hang in there-  Are there any ECFC classes that you could join?  Or MOPS?  I would search around your area- The ECFC class is through the school district- perhaps they have something like it in your area. 

Jennifer - posted on 04/05/2009

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I was the same way when we moved to a new town and I quit my ICU management job at the same time.  I was also at home now with 3 kids, 9 month old twins and a 2 year old. I was lost without my Blackberry, my staff, my up at 530, run like psychopath until 11 pm kind of day.  I hit a brick wall that I did not understand when I moved here. 



 I joined the Mom's Club and they are International.  Here is the link: http://www.momsclub.org/   You may not find your best friend in this group, but it will keep you busy and get you out of the house which is what I needed. 



I also joined a group called the "Mom's meetup" .  I have no idea if this is international or not, but they seem to be very activity oriented. 



Also do you have access to a gym that provides daycare?  That may help too.



I hope this helps. 

Holly - posted on 04/05/2009

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Thanks everyone! It's great to hear that I am not the only one that feels this way. i have looked up most of the organiztions mentioned-but they are American and I live in Canada.

Heather - posted on 04/05/2009

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this is very typical having this feeling. Once your little ones get older it will get easier on you when they arent so demanding. Is MDO a possibility for you? It is such a great oppertunity for you and your little one to interact with other kids. This also helps when its time to start school it will ease the seperation from mom. my boys are 24months apart and it was so hard at first and is still trying at times when one will just go and wack the other one for NO REASON !!! its CRAZY

try finding mom groups in your area, it is a great outlet to meet other moms you have a interest with.

Heather - posted on 04/05/2009

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I know how you feel. I live 18 miles from the nearest town and what has saved me is MOPS. We meet about twice a month and I long for those meetings! Go to www.mops.org to find a group in your area.

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I do too.  When I got married I moved in with the hubby away from all my friends and family.  We had our first baby and 2 weeks later he deployed for a year in afghanistan.  I'm having a hard time with lonliness and depression.  I can't work too much because of the baby, can't ride the horses because of a lack of babysitters.  Then I caught the hubby cheating on me while he was home on leave.  so yes, very lonely.

Belinda - posted on 04/01/2009

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hey i know how you feel about the not listening to you part i have a 3 year old myself and when no one else is around he dont listen and if he does he is doing it again as soon as your back is turned they are ones that like trying our patients but we love them non the less hope to chat with you soon im on facebook most of the day nothing better to do

Elizabeth - posted on 04/01/2009

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Yes...I have times that I feel loney.  I never thought I would...having two very small kids would keep me busy, right?  Yes they keep me busy, but I do get loney.  I think I miss the adult contact that you get from working.



But I do believe that at home is where I need to be.  So I try to make a girls night out once a month and then make date night with my husband.  That helps me feel like ME, not just Momma!  Don't get me wrong...I love being a Momma; but I need ME too!!



Try to get some alone time.  And get out and meet other moms!  That should help you recharge and feel better!



 



 

Jodi - posted on 04/01/2009

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No, you're not alone honey. Thank God for internet, right? =) I've been trying very hard (somtimes successful and sometimes not) to pull myself out of a depression for 10 years. Staying home doesn't help that I'm sure, but its what I've always dreamed of. Even though I would LOVE to sit here in front of the computer all day long, I can't! Stay busy! It makes the day go faster. Go for a walk, clean the house, find a park, start a craft, LIke someone else said, find a mommy group. Try out www./sahm.meetup.com. These are just some of the things that I do to keep me out of my depression. It's hard but you have to PUSH yourself! I hope this has helped. Hang in there sweetie!



 

Laura - posted on 04/01/2009

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Me, I get lonely and frustrated all the time. I don't have any friends nearby and we live in a small town so, mommy groups are out of the question too. You're not the only one. About the only time I get adult conversation is when my hubby gets home or a telemarketer call, LOL. Hang In There!!

Victoria - posted on 03/31/2009

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Hey there- I have been staying at home for 5 years now, with my three kiddos...and let me tell ya- I get lonely all the time! The kids are great, and my man does work a lot, but I just go crazy sometimes...especially with the economics right now, going out and spending money is out of the question... I have such an urge to go spend money whenever I get it, so I usually am given what I need for certain things...
Anyways- just thought I'd post, and say Hang in There...school years are soon to come!

Emily - posted on 03/31/2009

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Yes... I am incrediably lonely!  I am a mother of twin girls, 20 months old.  And though my partner doesn't leave at 5:30am, he is gone by 7:30am and often works late, not returning home until 7:30pm/8:00pm.   I have tried joining groups but have found it difficult to connect with others who have similar interests (outside of having the same aged kids) or schedules. 



Anyway, you are not alone.  Hang in there!



 



 



 

Krystal - posted on 03/31/2009

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have you tried looking into different groups for stay at home moms? i joined MOMS Club and absolutely love it! there are chapters all over. it's nice getting together with other moms who are/have been/will be going thru the same things you are!



my kids are 2 1/2 and 1 1/2. getting out and about is not a luxury - it's a necessity!!!



good luck and hang in there!

Laura - posted on 03/31/2009

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Always.  I have a two year old and an 8 month old.  I also keep a 3 month old for a little extra cash.  All I do is feed, change diapers, and wait for nap time, which is never together.  I get very lonely sometimes and need adult conversation.  Some people make it look easy, but every kid is different. 

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