Anyone else feel like they have NO life? Out of touch with the rest of the world?

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Rachel - posted on 08/24/2009

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Hey Amanda! don't do that to yourself girl! no matter how you feel you HAVE to take a shower, get out of those pjs, get some coffee going, open up the curtains, go pick out the best thing that makes you feel pretty and put it on and some makeup on and take the kids for a walk! if that doesnt work..schedule an appt with the hairdresser IMMEDIATELY to get you connected to YOU again! something about the scalp massage, haircut, and blowdry and if you really wanna splurge, go for highlights, I PROMISE YOU this works wonders! trust me on this..I went thru bouts of baby blues with all 3 of mine and these are some of the things I did to help shake me out of that funk...oh!! and jog or take daily walks BY YOURSELF thru a park/area with beautiful scenery..always works! Good luck sweetie!!

Kara - posted on 08/26/2009

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Yes! My husband is also in the military.. currently serving in Iraq. We have an 11 month old daughter. It's not like I can just pick up and go out with the girls or go out and do something and just leave our daughter at home with him! It's rough sometimes but I know it will get better :) I can't imagine working 8 hours a day 5 days a week and not seeing my daughter all of that time. I don't want to just throw her in a daycare and let someone else raise her. When it comes down to it I have to remember that being a stay at home mom is the most rewarding thing you could ever possibly do. The pros CERTAINLY out weigh the cons.

Kimber - posted on 07/12/2011

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Oh boy do i ever feel the same way as you do about all of this for sure girl!!!!!!!! But your life is not over just b/c your a mom now!!! The best part of your life is just begining,or just a different part of your life!!! I know that it is sort of sad that your life is not the sameway as it use to be,and i know how you feel about looking on facebook,and seeing all of your friends haveing fun. I get that for sure! You just have to try to have fun with the new life you have now,and be happy about it. It's hard as hell i know iam still there,but i just take in one day at a time,or other wise you are going to be so depressed,and sad all of the time,and that's not good either! So i wish you all the luck in the world to you girl,and hope that things get better for you real soon!!
Okay take care girl- Kim

Lisa - posted on 08/19/2009

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I feel this way alot also. My doctor actually said that I might be experiencing "cabin fever"...hahaha. I sometimes feel trapped inside since it is so much easier not to pack n go. Well, I am trying to get out more with the kids and by myself or with friends. It's a good way for me to keep my sanity. Blessings.

Niki - posted on 08/14/2009

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My heart skipped a beat when I read the topic! I am a recent stay at home mom to my 4 month old and there are some days I feel like I am losing my mind.. I am so used to getting up and going and now its just not as possible as it was before.. It's just so frustrating that my husband gets up and goes where ever whenever whether its something he enjoys or not. He just can't understand why I get so excited just to walk around Lowes with him. haha.. I love being a SAHM my only regret is that I wish I had found mommy friends before I had her, all of my friends either don't have kids, or don't stay home with their children so I just feel so disconnected from everyone. It really brightens my day and my mood to know that I am NOT the only one to feel this way. I am told it gets better as my daughter gets older but I just wonder if it will! All of the mommys I find online are on the other side of town (about 40 minutes away) and I just wish I could find someone a little bit more local than that. Thankyou thankyou for posting this.. I feel a ton better.

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Rachael - posted on 12/09/2010

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All the time. I live far from friends and hardly have the time to go out. If I tell my boyfriend I want to he will make me feel bad about it, so I don't. He is the only person I have so we fight a lot because I feel frustrated and lonely. I feel like I'm going to be stuck in one place for the rest of my life (stay at home mother). I am only 20 years old and feel like there is more to life. I love my baby but my pregnancy was unplanned therefore I never knew what I would get into. I want him to love and care for me, and when I tell him this he gets angry. Why can't he tell I don't want to be mean, I just need love and attention? All I do every day is take care of our child but he seems to think it's an easy task that I "should" do. It seems unfair. I had so much planned for my future back when I was at University. Now everything is upside down and I am so unhappy. Don't get me wrong though, I love my son with all my heart.

Chantel - posted on 09/02/2009

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It's funny I look at my friends webpages and facebook walls and it seem their life is full of fun. But I also wonder how much work it took for them to get the moments of fun they have posted.

Kristin - posted on 09/02/2009

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Yep! Just ask my husband lol. There are definitely times that I feel alone, or out of touch with the world outside of my house.

Karen - posted on 08/27/2009

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yep that sounds like me my life revolves around my kids and thats it .we dont have much money and my husband works weired hrs so dont really get to spend any time with him.it doesnt really help that my eldest daughter who is 3 1/2 has ddh so is in plaster casts and in and out of hosp,so at the mo i cant take my 2 girls out at all cause she doesnt fit in the buggy so i am really house bound for the next 6wks

think im gonna go mad

Amanda - posted on 08/26/2009

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yeah I feel like my life revolves around my kids which it does and should but i would like some alone time and some time with me and my husband and not have to worry that I need to hurry and get back cause my kids need me

Patricia - posted on 08/26/2009

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Quoting Pamela:

I most recently became a stay at home mom after my company downsized. Right now it's convenient and I feel I have more time for my kids and not squeezing everything in after working a 9-5. My boys are 4 and 7. They pull on me every second and soon as my husband leaves the house they fight and jump and I feel like I am losing my mind and usually lose all energy and don't feel like going out the house when they work my nerves like that. I have them involved in activities but the weekends are so stressful.


Pamela... kids will be kids... and they will take advantage of every single opening to keep themselves busy and its having fun to them... set a routine... involve them in tidying up... reading... find out what they likes and dislikes are.... set a time table for activities always encourage them to look forward to doing things together.. participate in their world... and have them participate in the time out moments when you are not feeling so energetic. Give them small responsibilities... and above all dont allow them to know what they are doing is stessing you... put up a board for stars to the one who does well in maintaining the calm and peace in all areas and activities... kids love to be appreciated... best of luck....



 

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I know that you feel that way now, but embrace it while you can. They grow up so fast, and they are only little once and God wants us to be at home are raise our little ones. Mine youngerst just started k-5 and I see all these new mom's with their babies and it just went by to fast, especially with the second one,



You will have plenty of time for yourself later, and then you will wish you felt drownded again. Embrace it while you can.

Shanna - posted on 08/25/2009

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I feel that way a lot. I had to find a hobby. Something to do for "me" time. Which I know is a very hard thing to do. Motivation is my weakness. Do something good for yourself. It will make you happy and ultimately effect your children as well. Good luck! Keep your head up!

Lydia - posted on 08/25/2009

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YES!!!!!!......It is good to go out and talk to adults and have an actual two way conversation. I did join the YMCA. I am able to leave Ian for a while at they daycare while I do a class,meet with a trainer, or meet other people. I also catch up with the world by running in the treadmill and watch the various channels in the. tv monitors.

But even speaking to a cashier at a store is a good day. I do try to meet with my friends at least once a month for a movie or dinner without our kids.

Karen - posted on 08/25/2009

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Ladies! Take heart! We are AWESOME people to put our families/kids first!

Why not start a business? I started one in April and I am so much happier now. It is a party-based business for women and most of my customers have kids. We work it out so that we have a teenage sitter on location while we socialize and have fun with my product. It WORKS!

My husband rolled his eyes when I told him I wanted to do something outside the house. I think his exact words were "Fine, you go get a full-time job and I'LL stay home with the kids". That wasn't what I meant. I LOVE being a SAHM, but I needed adult conversation and face time.

Anyway, if you can't find mom's groups or other ways to network, I would recommend my business to anyone! If you want more info, call or message me!

Karen
304-702-3650
PS I can get you started at NO cost! Just thought I'd throw that in! :-)

Theresa - posted on 08/25/2009

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We moved last year and I went from a working mom to a SAHM. It is so hard when you make your home your entire life and forget that it's not everything in the world. I get upset at times that my husband doesn't see things the same way, but I am learning to get out of the house and try to meet people.

Anne - posted on 08/24/2009

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Oh yeah, I was happy to find this sight b/c it's hard since none of my friends have kids.

Rachel - posted on 08/24/2009

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oh my God! there are so many out there like me!! I feel so NOT alone now=)..you are absolutely right..drop the kids off at school, come home clean, take care of the baby, in between her naps try to fit in a few situps for yourself, oh wait! shes crying again! go get the baby up again, feed her, play with her, sooth her, talk to her, she finally goes to sleep again..FINALLY take a shower, jump out and change and while getting ready , rock the baby w/your foot in her bouncy while your puttin your makeup on! FUN!! so relaxing being at home!! before you know it time to pick the kids up, help them with their homework, cook dinner, get them bathed and then you fall into bed with your husband askin you, why can't you put your sexy nightgown on anymore?? Are you kidding me freak?! hahaha! seriously guys. I TOTALLY feel you..Just hang in there! I'm sure mothers before us have all felt the same way..its totally natural with big familys..it's all worth it in the long run, I think.. =) If they can do it before us, so can we!!

Amanda - posted on 08/24/2009

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I feel bored, alone, frumpy, and ugly. Lol. My childrens father is in Aghanistan and I sit at home everyday with ours girls, sometimes I don't even get out of pjs or even leave the house, I wait til dark to get the mail. I sometimes complain to him and all I get is " I would give anything to be home with them, poor you" lol his sarcasm drives me nuts. I know im in a better position then him but i'm silently going insane.

Sarah - posted on 08/24/2009

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Yes I do, and it sucks no one to talk to but the children and a other half who does not understand. Just wish that I could find other stay at home moms in the area to talk to.

Emily - posted on 08/23/2009

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I have felt this way. so, what I do to try to help this is to read a lot and get together with my friends that are also stay at home moms. Also, I have a babysiter who comes twice a week for 3 hours and that has helped a lot to make me feel like I can do things that I want to do.

Titania - posted on 08/23/2009

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i feel that way at times .im at home all day long wit the baby and its like i dont have any time to myself. dont get me wrong i love being wit her all day but its like i need grown ups to talk to sometimes

Sarah - posted on 08/23/2009

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I'm 30, I have 3 girls, and they all 3 are all now in school this year for the first time!! I find myself cleaning from the time they leave until they get home! It's just me, myself, and I!!! For now it's so good, but I can see myself falling into loneliness eventually, but I hope not!:(

Deb - posted on 08/23/2009

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Ive been a sahm for 24 years and I still have a 6 year old 12 year old (intellectually disabled) and a 15 year oldi My husbansd works away for 4 weeks and is home for1. Its very easy for me to say pick yourselves up, but believe me when you do everyone benefits. I know how hard it is just to go for a walk but even that helps a little bit. best wishes

Keely - posted on 08/21/2009

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I think I have cabin fever too. I never go anywhere cause it's so much easier to stay home than pack everyone and everything up. I have real sever depression right now and am on medication for it. Sometimes I feel like I'm going crazy.

Keely - posted on 08/21/2009

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Heck yes!! I feel that way every day. I have 3 kids (10,2,5mon). Since I have had kids I can no longer work, I'm always at home doing for other and never doing for myself, I have lost almost all of my friends cause I can't go out anymore, and my husband doesn't understand that I need a break when he gets home from work. He says not to bother him cause he's been working all day. WHAT HAVE I BEEN DOING???

Chris - posted on 08/21/2009

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I joined a gym so I feel like I have something for me. I feel better about myself, and I have made new friends that are going through the same types of things. I don't feel so isolated anymore

Christine - posted on 08/19/2009

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Yes. Pre-baby my husband & I always found something to do or some place to go - we enjoyed spending lots of time together. We got together with a couple of friends on occation. Post- baby we hardly seem to have time for us let a lone a couple friends. Since then two friends have moved away... the others have children of thier own, making getting together a challenge. I would love to find a Mommy's group that put the babies first (not have it during thier nap times) as well as the mommy's. I would love to find some Mommy girlfriends that I can relate to (that have great husbands for my husband to bond with too) and get together with. Finding another Mommy with a baby close in age to mine that is searching for a Mommy is actually hard to find! There are lots of Mommy's out there... but they have thier friends. I have a hard time squeezing myself into a group of friends. I get frustrated that I have to "work so hard" at that... why don't they just see me as in need of frends and take me in and get to know me- TALK to me? That makes me feel out of touch, lost and sad. I am however thankful that I am blessed with a wonderful husband and a beautiful daughter!

Net - posted on 08/19/2009

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i feel that way 2 i have a son with leanring diffs and a little girl its great when they are on school holidays as i can go out with them and hear them playing. when they are at school i live in my own sad little world. i have ocd which means i cant go out on my own and 9 years ago i had 2 mini strokes then i found out i had lupus and hughes syndrome most of the time i sit and cry because of the pain i am in and the thought of been like this for the rest off my life and the kids life scares me

Beth - posted on 08/18/2009

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Well, yup. I often feel isolated but that's kind of my fault. I could join a baby play group but it just seems a bit hard fronting up to strangers and hoping to make friends just because we both have kids. I stopped working and going to school when baby came along and some of my closer girl friends have moved away. It's pretty hard to meet interesting people and bond all over again. I do wish this wasn't the case because I consider myself and my husband to be kind, fun, interesting people. It gets a bit tiring being the entertainment for an infant eventhough she is fantastic to be with and she puts up with our solitary outings.

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Quoting Justine:

That is me. I have joined meetups.com to start meeting people since sitting at home and watching my daughter won't do. I just moved out of state and know no one so I feel this times 10.



We moved from indiana to Georgia when our dayghter was 2 1/2 months old.  It is really hard!  I know NO ONE at all other than the neighbors,  My husband has a great job and i get to stay home with our 5 month old daughter, but I am a taurus so i get bored quickly!  Thank goodness for this laptop LOL



We will be moving back to Indiana in Jan/Feb (tax time) and i cannot wait to be with my friends and family.  that will make life so much easier....even though i will have to go back to work too! 



*AnniE*

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I do too! I have a boy who just turned 2yrs and another son who is almost 2 months. Hubby works 3 nights a week and then also runs his own auto repair facility. I am on my own with the kids a lot. I know what you mean!

Rejeana - posted on 08/17/2009

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Yes!! i am recently a new stay at home mom and i just moved to a new city. i have no friends in this area and i all i have to talk to is my 3 1/2 year old daughter. I really thought it would be better than this! But i am making the most of it. trying to find new and different things to do during the day! but most of all i do love spending well needed time with her

Nyssa - posted on 08/17/2009

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Definitely! I haven't gone out to see a friend without the kids since before my youngest was born, and she's 8 months old now. And, it's really hot here, so we don't go out and play at the park as much as we'd like to, and there's nothing free to do in the air conditioning except go to Walmart, but then I spend like 200 dollars, so it's SO not free. I try to watch the news every day to stay current with the world, but all my kid-free friends have moved on and forgot about me. :(

Monica - posted on 08/17/2009

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similar situation, I just have my husband around me, my family is far in other country, and I dont have friends at all where i live now, or well I have one, but she have a toddler boy and is hard sometimes to hang out with her since I have a toddler girl, and boys are rough, sometimes.

Sarah - posted on 08/17/2009

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Yes, I know how you feel. I have two very energetic little boys which makes it hard to go out anywhere w/ them and stay sane. I like to tire them out by playing w/ them outside or swimming in the pool and then right after dinner put them to bed and go out for coffee or a movie. It doesn't happen all the time but it is nice when it does. I also like to plan a movie/game night for the kids and adults at my house. Have a few friends that have kids your kids' ages and enjoy time at your house with microwave popcorn or something simple like that. What also helped me to stay sane was to start my own Tupperware business. You plan parties around your schedule and you get paid to party with, usually, female adults. This has helped me so much and it also put cash in my pocket being I am a stay-at-home mom with no other income.

Jamie - posted on 08/15/2009

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i have a life inside the life of a wife and mommy and outside WITH my family and to me that's all that matters. i dont want to do anything without my family. i want all my memories and all my kids memories to be all family time:)

Louise - posted on 08/15/2009

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yes definately, trying to potty train my daughter which is not going well so i have said i am just staying in to try and get it done whilst my partner is off watching football and enjoying a drink. So sometimes just does not seem that you have a life but i love my daughter to bits. Then i childmind through the week i definately dont have any me time. Weekends are usually catching up with the housework. Sometimes i wonder what happned to the word fun.

Nann - posted on 08/15/2009

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Greetings all the way from the Caribbean, Trinidad and Tobago to be exact! I can definitely relate to this topic. Most times I feel that way because my family lives apart from me, my husband works long hours, my friends are all working or have more children than me therefore less time on their hands and to top it off I live in a not so welcoming village so it can be frustrating. To keep my sanity I pray, keep in touch often (thank God for cellular phones!), plan family-oriented outings, read, visit occasionally and of course Facebook, Yahoo, Google! Don't get me wrong I love my sense of independence but sometimes it can be a bummer!

Laura - posted on 08/14/2009

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I don't feel like i have no life, i find something for me to do like taking my kids out or doing something else with them. i am just happy spending my time with my children.i just feel so lucky to have them.

Rebecca - posted on 08/14/2009

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I feel that way all the time. my baby is twelve months old now and my husband works doulble shift and when he comes home its time to go to sleep. so just know that you are not alone on that.

Connie - posted on 08/14/2009

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Yes I do feel this way alot lately, I am so use to working and now not is making me feel like allI have to talk to is the 5 month old and my 10 yr old (when she is with me).

Dana - posted on 08/13/2009

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Yup I have no life...On top of this I have a disability brought on by having my legs fixed by surgery..I chose to raise my kids myself... I am on the disabled blue book for gov> The problem is I have to divorce my husband to get help.. I love my husband.. we have been married for 20yrs

Jana - posted on 08/13/2009

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To all of the moms that have mentioned that they have husbands in the military, you have so much respect from me. I am so thankful for what you husbands do, and I admire all of you for having to work extra hard at home while supporting a husband that may or may not be fighting away from home. So thank you to you and your husbands.

Kim - posted on 08/13/2009

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I feel that way all the time. When I get around family for gathering all I have to talk about is the kids. I try to read the paper constantly to keep me up to date on events, but I still feel out of place.

Regina - posted on 08/13/2009

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o yes I do. Sometime I think I am going to start talking like a little kid again. I think that is why i read so much.

Tatiana - posted on 08/13/2009

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Yes i do, especially bein that im only 24 yrs old and everyone my age is goin on vacation every month & always has new pics 2 put up on thier facebook. I just here, everyday... nothin exciting AT ALL

Lorraine - posted on 08/13/2009

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definitely! especially now cause my hubby is in the military so all of my really good friends are thousands of miles away. just gets a little lonely.

Susan - posted on 08/13/2009

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I sometimes get in those moods because my husband is in the military. I have some good friends and family but its hard to talk to them sometime. It would be nice to have someone I can talk to who is dealing with the same thats a good wife to their soldier. Cuz I have 3 children and Im a good christian person and its still hard .It would be nice to have more mommies to talk to.

Laura - posted on 08/12/2009

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YES!!! I have 4 kids... (ages 4,3, and 7 month twins). My hubby works nights so he sleeps all day. It is hard to leave home with all 4 kids by myself, so i sit at home all day every day until he wakes up. I have a few friends that have kids... but even a playdate at the park is such a hassle! I often feel so incredible jealous of others that have it easy with one or 2 kids. Then I take a look at the 4 little smiling faces around me and it makes me feel a little better. But to answer your question... Yes, I definately feel like I have no like, and am out of touch with the world. (thank goodness we have Facebook, right?! LOL)

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