Anyone else feel like they just can't do it?

Stephanie - posted on 11/20/2012 ( 12 moms have responded )

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Don't get me wrong, I love my baby. I just feel like I can't be a sahm sometimes. I just don't know if I'm cut out for it.:(

I am struggling today! My husband called and he's got a late meeting today at work, my heart just sank when he said it. I feel like crying. And I just don't know what to do. I like to keep busy during the day with my baby (11mo.) but today I just don't know what to do. And she keeps hurting herself and getting into everything! Ugh!

I just want to know if anyone else feels this way sometimes, or I'm just not cut out to be a sahm.

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Ianda - posted on 11/26/2012

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Its not just you. I am a mother of 3 and I still feel like I cant do it. Stay strong and just keep pushing. It will get better.

Patricia - posted on 11/25/2012

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We all feel overwhelemed at times. We had a preemie baby with eating issues, allergies, intolerances and other issues and my Husband traveled full time. He would come home on Saturday and leave on Sunday evening-ugh. It was hard. I didn't think I would make it, but here I am 10 1/2 years later homeschooling our Daughter and love it!! Finally he is got a job close to home.



Not everyone is cut out for it either.

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Tiffany Dawn - posted on 11/25/2012

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ya i dont think my family will take me seriously either will my husband they just think im saying it just to say it they dont get it. i dont feel like i can talk to my husband which isnt good either

Ellen - posted on 11/25/2012

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Some ppl are meant to be stay at home moms, and some are not cut out for it. It's good that u notice this about yourself. It's best that u go back to work and let a great daycare person take care of your baby. I did home daycare for years and all of the moms were very grateful for me, and all admitted they weren't cut out to be stay at home mom. Talk to your husband. Talk to your parents. It's important that u have family support when u have your low time. They need to take u seriously.

Tiffany Dawn - posted on 11/22/2012

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you are living my life except my son is older :) if you need someone to talk to u can message me on here i sure could use someone to talk to about this stuff :(

Stacy - posted on 11/22/2012

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Some days are harder than others! If you know that it's best for you to be at home then just keep your head up. Sometimes I'm stressed and my husband's at work and my son is cranky and I just feel so discouraged. I try to remember that tomorrow is a new day.

Nadine - posted on 11/22/2012

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It's a full time job, with no break!! Not to mention you feel like you're cut off from the rest of society because it takes so much effort to even get ready!!

Have you considered putting your bub into daycare? I thought I would have never done it but it was the best thing for both me and him!! I got my sanity back lol. I put him in there at 9.5 months old , starting with one day then eventually got more days. Then I eventually went back into the workforce after a month coz he was so happy in daycare!!

Try it and see.

Stephanie - posted on 11/21/2012

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I hear you, Angie. We only moved into our house a few years ago, so we've managed to keep things pretty simple. I like to go through once a year and donate things I haven't used. It's so good to clean out the clutter! What a great feeling!

Angie - posted on 11/21/2012

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I feel your pain, my baby girl is 11 months old and I struggle everyday to keep her out of things and keep the house clean and make dinner. I am trying to take back control of my life or maybe find a new normal that works better but it is a challenge. I have been thinking to myself, "what can I do to make life more simple and manageable"? the answer for me is to declutter my house! I started by picking 1 room in my house to "cleanse" meaning: I don't need 3 wine bottle openers, 3 strainers, 3 cutting boards, ect. So I now only have the necessities in my kitchen, which means less to manage and clean.



I also went through all the mix matched stuff like the random sippy cups that dont have interchangable lids. Now all my sippy cups are the same and I dont have to search all over looking for one single lid. Halleleua!



After my kitchen was done, I went to my home office and scanned in all my documents onto my computer so that I didnt have a million documents bursting out of my filing cabinet. I also go rid of pens that I dont like, the extra stapler Ive been hanging on to, ect.



Then the bathroom: do I really need 5 bottles of sunscreen? 5 bottles of shampoo? I consolidated everything.



I can't tell you how much better I feel doing this. I feel like I have more control over everything when everything has a home.

Stephanie - posted on 11/21/2012

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Thanks guys, it helps to know that I'm not the only one who gets overwhelmed once in a while. We ended up going out to a few stores and the afternoon went by quickly.

I do go to the gym a few days a week and make use of the play-care they have there. It's a welcome break, plus I get to try to get my body back a little at a time.:)

I am to to this area where we live, so I don't know many people yet. I am not that into play groups, but we do go to the library for a story time, which is 1/2 an hour on Thursdays.

It's hard to fill up the day sometimes, you know?

Fit2BMe - posted on 11/20/2012

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Steph, I have had many, many, many of those days. Hang in there darlin.

One thing I find that helps is to have a list of ready-to-do coping strategies if DH calls to say he will be late. The things on the list can be anything from having a play bath, going to the store, going for a walk.... Anything that gets me out and/or helps the time pass faster. I typically don't letting son watch TV except on occasions like this when I really need it. Anything to help.

Amanda - posted on 11/20/2012

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All the time but we get by. My son has ADHD and sleep apnea so I have a constant all day struggle with him.



My husband is a shift worker and Tuesday he went to work, I won't see him till Thursday night if I'm still up when he gets home and the kids won't see him till Friday afternoon.



We get out of the house, keep busy and I take time out for me and put the kids in creche while I go to the gym. We do playgroup twice a week so the kids get to play with other kids and I get adult interaction.



Do you have anyone that can help you out or even pop over for a cuppa an keep you company??

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