Anyone else having problems with their child/children lying?

Elicia - posted on 06/24/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )

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Help! my 8 year olds lying is becoming a real problem and very very frustrating I am very concerned and think it's getting out of control. He lies about everything. I've tried to explain to him that he won't get in trouble for telling the truth. I have had a break through Once or twice where he has finally after hrs!! Amitted the truth but it seems to be very hard for him. Any one else there having the same problem? any advice would be Very much appreciated. thanks.

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Michelle - posted on 06/24/2011

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I have been having the same problems with my almost 10yo.

We have sat down with him and explained that I will always find out when he lies and that it's a lot harder to remember the lies you have told compared to the truth.

A couple of weeks ago he was home sick and they had an udate on Dr Phil about the mother who put hot sauce in her 7yo sons mouth and then made him have a cold shower because he lied. My son looked at me and thanked me for being a nice Mum and he was glad I had never done anything like that.

He has been good for a couple of months now but he still tells the odd little one.

He knows that he gets into more trouble for lying than for telling the truth. I just make sure I don't react too much when he tells the truth so he's more trusting with me.

My problem is he gets away with all his lies at his Dad's because his Dad has no idea.

Kacie - posted on 06/24/2011

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definitely a phase! my 5 1/2 went through a small bit of it a few months ago. he's sure to go through it again when he starts school in August, copying kids like Bec said.

I know for us, it was for attention. stressful situations at my husbands job, led to tension between us and a few arguments and which led to ME being stressed. Being a SAHM and stressed, i tended to not pay as much attention to our son. But like i said, it all smoothed over and the phased stopped afterwards.

Bec - posted on 06/24/2011

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it's a phase my son did the same he is 11 yr old and hardly does now.They copy others at school and just learnt a new thing and to them it's amusing just keep talking to him it will pass. I would also concerntrate on the biggies to not just little things he makes up as lets face it we all do I use to say to my son mmm not sure about that but anyway...if it's a big one I talk him through the situation.Maybe a social story would help with pictures etc should beable to google some.This last year my son has slowed right down on the lies but they came and went for awhile.

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