Anyone else struggling with PMDD and raising children?

Lori - posted on 01/28/2013 ( 1 mom has responded )




i've had PMDD since I began menstruating at the age of 10. I was labelled as strange, having a really bad temper, crazy,unreliable, lazy and maybe most damaging misdiagnosed by physicians as depressed. I was 38 years old, divorced once, alienated almost everyone in my life, lost or quit more jobs than I cared to count and suicidal several days each month, before I found a psychiatrist who knew what I'd been living with most of my life. My husband is trying to learn to cope with this debilitating illness along with me. There are great resources online. Just wondering if anyone else is struggling with this and raising healthy happy children?


Debbie - posted on 01/28/2013




Been There! Done That! It was very difficult because then the doctors didn't accept this as a real experience! I had three children in four years, and like you didn't have good coping skills because I had a period every two weeks and then went directly into pre-menstrual stress and all the ovulation pain and distress! After much study I realized I was with the majority of women who experienced such symptoms. 4 out of 5 women experience PMS or PMDD symptoms. I thought I was going crazy, I joke that my husband got whiplash from all my back talk and temper fits! After much prayer and a desperate plea for help, I developed a program that basically saved me and my children. It is called the Happy Face Token system. It was made for me and my pmdd as well as the well-being of my family. It came with a "built-in consistency factor" that gave me the ability to administer consequences I could deliver without flying off the handle with irrationality. Within two weeks my strong-willed,10 year old daughter, hugged me as we were saying goodnight and thanked me for the happy faces! She told me I was the best mom in the whole world and she was much happier! This was the beginning of a family program that lasted over 10 years in my home. I realized that with P.M.D.D., depression is a cyclical symptom and it can manifest itself in various ways. I used birth control pills for years and they helped. Then the other second miracle, was the development of Prozac! What a BLESSING! My husband would probably divorce me if I went off Prozac! It continues to get better and better with time. I also used a chart as my daughter got older to help her define the time she started her PMDD symptoms. Within three months she was able to see how her life was influenced by this disease and we could work on it together. The book is called: From Combat Zone to Love at Home and has many great working charts included.

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