Anyone worried of autism? pls urgent help!

Ulku - posted on 10/01/2010 ( 23 moms have responded )

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my beautiful baby really worries me these days. to start with.. she sometimes doenst respond to her name and acts like she doesnt hear me although she responds to diffrent sounds. she does eye contact but not always. she is mostly very quite and didnt say any word yet apart from momma and baba (but she seems like she forgot baba now) momma is the only word that she is communicating with me. she started walking, thats a good thing but it really worries me that she is too quiet. I took her to a child psychiatrist but she didnt seem too bad when we were at the doctors office. but even doctor told me that her understanding seems a bit slow and adviced me to talk to her all the time and never let her alone. i dont want to think that but can these be the symptoms of autism? any comment or suggestions would be appreciated as I am really tired of criying and being upset by the idea..

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Renae - posted on 10/02/2010

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PS, the reason she appears to have forgotten baba (she hasn't forgotten it she just isn't using it right now) is most likely because she has just mastered walking. It is very normal for speech development to appear to go backwards when they are learning to walk. Speech and gross motor development compete for brain activity and babies can only do one or the other, so speech stunts while gross motor is being focused on.

If there is anything else about her that is worrying you, you are welcome to tell me about it and I will tell you if it is normal. :)

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Autism diagnoses can take a long time to put in place. Children are often 3 years old before professionals are willing to officially label them as such. But if your gut is telling you something is wrong, then you should pursue it until you feel satisfied. It's possible that nothing's wrong, and you'll likely feel better if an expert confirms that.

I know it's hard to talk about, but I think it's admirable that you're facing up to your suspicions. Attacking a problem like Autism early is vital to minimizing its impact on your child's life. Do you live in the U.S.? Here we have what's called Early Intervention services. They're available in every state, and they're FREE. You can call and schedule an evaluation with a developmental expert to see if your child qualifies for services. And if so, the services are free of charge as well. You can find state-specific info here: http://www.nichcy.org/Pages/StateSpecifi...

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hi hang in their have your crying its just your body grefing its normal i ve been were you are my son was the same some days i felt i could just run but new i had to stay strong for him paul got diagnosed at 3 that was use waiting since he was a baby because wee thought he was deaf with the no respondon way use speakin to him but hes diagnosed now still have days were we wish we could change things and cry but every day is a learning day hope everything goes okay for you x

Renae - posted on 10/04/2010

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Ulku, your baby sounds absolutely 100% normal! It does not sound like there is any reason at all for you to be concerned. She is doing everything that she should be for her age. In fact, it sounds like she is doing very well for her age. The fact that she tried to feed her doll at 13 months is actually advanced. I wouldn't worry about her not being able to point to where mummy is, that is not a key attribute of development and most babies her age wouldn't respond to that request. I'm positive the neurologist will tell you she is perfectly fine.

I think you need to stop worrying and just enjoy your baby! She will only be a baby once and you should be enjoying this magical time with her. Please stop worrying and testing and just let her be a baby.

Jessica - posted on 10/03/2010

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If she's only 13 months...she's totally acting her age. She sounds perfectly normal. Every kid is so different and you really shouldn't compare. I have a nephew who is autistic, who just turned 3, and I could recognize it right away, he was SOOOOOO different from other babies and kids his age. Your little one doesn't sound anything like him, not even close.

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Marie - posted on 02/25/2015

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Sorry to hear. I have come across several things that have helped my son, first, aspergers children need downtime, since they are in defense mode all the time, so my son has a pet. This gives him not only dis time to relax, but also a purpose in life. Also, we came across aspergers experts.com they have been very helpful. It was develop by 2 kids who discuss the pains and experiences of growing up with aspergers.

Tina - posted on 05/26/2014

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Hi my youngest who is 18 and has cornelea Delange syndrome which is genetic and has autistic traits and is severley mentally challenged is giving me challenges that are disturbing to me she dedicated on the floor at times on purpose and won't where the depends and comes and tells me shedid knowing its wrong and she will not be social and wants to be in her room always won't bareley come out for nothing and she has gotten violent throwing things while driving and she takes her clothes off if she has to do something that she doesntvesnt to I have no way of knowing how to fix this problem can anyone help I'm ddsperte to help her I do this on my own no help or support much from anyone and I'm just excausted !

Ulku - posted on 05/21/2014

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UPDATE: wow it's been a long time! My little baby is a very healthy little girl now. And she even has a baby sister. I think because she was the first baby, I kind of had post partum depression, I was worried too much. Now I'm looking back and yes she wasn't like other babies, she wasn't very social or laud.. But I see that this is her personality.. She is a bit shy and quite and it takes time until she gets used to the people or places. But she speaks 2 languages, very funny and clever sweet little girl. I feel sad that I put too much pressure on her while she was only a little baby. I hope it doesn't affect her adult life. (Do I started worrying again?? :)) of course it's important to know signs and watch your kid but like everybody says 'every kid is different' I hope I can help some first time moms like I was with this update..

Ulku - posted on 10/17/2010

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Just a quick update. we went to norologist and she said she is absolutly fine, her EEG scan is fine too. actually doctor was very tough with me and gave me a lot of advice. this result helped me a lot mentally. now I am watching her without expecting too much and being more pozitive and she is doing much better. I'll keep watching her. I hope she gets better and better and I can stop worring..

Ulku - posted on 10/04/2010

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Do you think Im expecting too much frommy baby? as I started showing more attention and listening to her. she makes more sound then I thought. for example she was a very content baby yesterday. she kept smiling and giving me cuddles. and I think she gives me kisses too. ( she puts her mouth to my cheek when tell her to give me a kiss) so I decided to be calmer and of course still watch her. also we are still going to our appointmet tomorrow to child norologist. just to be safe.

Ulku - posted on 10/03/2010

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Dear friends, thank you so much about your posts I feel much better when I hear experiences from other moms.
When dee was born she had hearing test and it was ok. also we went to her routin checks every month and her hearing was ok. I know that she can hear as she responds to different sounds. also I noticed that she makes more noise than I worried! :) I am doing some tests with her at the moment for example we tried to feed her doll and she fed it too! she takes my mobile phone and acts lıke she is talking ( but no sound!) also tried to play hide and seek game. when I hide, she comes and finds me and loves this but she doesnt do opposite way. but what worries me most at the moment is, she points everything but when we ask her "where is mommy?" she seems like she has no idea!. I know I am a bit panicky person and a doubting thomas :) maybe I read too much about baby care and use internet. but all I want is a health baby :(

Maggie - posted on 10/02/2010

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my first son was very quiet, didn't really talk until he was about 18 months...but now I can't get him to STOP. We used baby sign language before he learned to talk and he did really well with that.
It could also be that your child can't hear very well - that would explain her not responding to her name. It could also explain why she doesn't talk much; if you can't hear well you can't mimic the sounds. I would start with that rather than things you can't really diagnose easily. Rule out the simple before going to the extremes!
I think you've gone overboard with the doctors, though. If you keep asking around you'll eventually get a diagnosis whether it's correct or not.

Jenn - posted on 10/02/2010

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I think by "scarming" she meant screaming. And it's not grandma seizures - it's grand mal seizures. But that's not a grand mal seizure - those involve the whole body not just staring into space - those are called petite mal seizures. But by that description it sounds like she's talking about epilepsy, not autism.

Renae - posted on 10/02/2010

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I just looked at your profile to see your daughter is only 13 months old. That is far too young to detect autism. It doesn't sound like there is anything wrong with her. She still has plenty of time to start talking before you can worry. It sounds like she is perfectly normal. Some kids are noisy and some kids are quiet and that is just their personality. Is there any other reason you have to be taking her to a psychiatrist? Because the reasons you have given are not any cause for concern. I think you really need to stop worrying when there is no reason to. Does autism run in your family or something? Is that why you think she has it? She has none of the signs of autism even if she was old enough to diagnose.

Ulku - posted on 10/02/2010

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Thank you all so much for your post. sorry I forgot to say, Dee is nearly 14 months old. we have a appointment with a child norologist on tuesday. dee will also have EEG scan there (as she is sometimes staring into space for 5-10seconds) I noticed that Dee is kind of babbling but still not responding her name. she used to show me her nose when she was around 10monts olds now when I try to teach her body parts, she looks like she has no idea what I am talking about. shery I dont have problem comforting her. but I didnt undrestand what you meant by "scarming"?

Susana - posted on 10/02/2010

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I started with a NueroPsychologist for my son's evaluations. They cover a wide variety of testing. Sounds like my eldest. He does the same things and he has been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. It is a form of autism. Trust the earlier you find out, the easier it will be on you.
Good Luck

Annie - posted on 10/01/2010

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All children develop differently. I have a very close friend that has just had both of her children diagnosed with Autism. They are ages 2 and 4. The biggest thing that she noticed was that neither of her children babbled. They were silent most of the time. Thats not to say that all quit kids are autistic.
She went to a speech pathologist to get a diagnosis.

Sheryl - posted on 10/01/2010

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my child is going to be tested this nov. for austim. if she is losing words like my son she may be having what they call grandma siezures my son we think is having them. they are really quick. does she wake up sometime and very hard to comfort. and scarming for 1 or more or has she ever got pall in the face or blue around the lips. sometime that is a sign of it. alot of time when they have those it goes along with austim. not try to scary you. but the best thing you can do is take her to a early intervetion program. every city or county normally has one. then also after taking to them maybe makeing a oppt. for the testing. they have centers around the us. where are going to greenwood here in my state of alabama. i just seen your second post they should have something where every you are to help you find out what going on they just may call it a different name there. i would different see a speech therpist first and then someone for the testing. just incause cause it could me something else all togather. if you have anymore qustion i am more then welling to try to help. cause i know when i frist thought could he be.. it was the most scariest thing to me. cause we love them so much and just want the world for them. i cryed and cryed and i still cry. like know! cause its hard for any mom. best of luck and best wishes. hope you find your answers that you are looking for.

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Ulku, I'm not sure a neurologist is the best place to start. I'd ask my pediatrician for a referral to a developmental specialist. They're trained to spot all sorts of childhood developmental issues - they'll do a complete workup on your child and evaluate which areas of development warrant watching or intervention.

Jenn - posted on 10/01/2010

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How old is she? She looks quite young in your photo and it's pretty normal to not say many words yet. I think sometimes we Moms can get a bit paranoid with all of the info out there on the plethora of disorders that are out there these days - autism, adhd, odd, etc., etc.

Ulku - posted on 10/01/2010

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Amy, thank you so much for your answer. unfortunately I dont live in US :( I will go to a child norologist. I dont want to think worse but as u said early dedection is vital. but I hope that all I see is a temporary thing and nothing serious.

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