Apparently i'm the one ruining my marriage and sex life!

Tiffany - posted on 04/19/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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My husband says i don't know how to have fun anymore (even though i go out with my friends and let him do what he wants and we go out together quite a bit) and i have certain ways of doing things and push him out of the way when he tries to help. I don't realize i'm doing this. Any advice??

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LeahDawn - posted on 04/26/2010

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How old is your daughter and did your husband see her delivered? I ask this because mine didn't really want sex with me after our son was born cause for so long I didn't want it and he had see him coming out. ( you know what I mean) it changed the way he thought about my body. I din't know till I asked. After that the only problem was finding the time. I say talk to him. Go out for some one on one time and talk then listen. Find out what he thinks. Good Luck!

Jenelle - posted on 04/19/2010

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Just my opinion, because my own husband has said the same thing to me, is let him help. Most men want to help out and do their share at home. Relax and realize that you both come from two different backgrounds and way of doing things. Growing up my Dad cooked dinner and cleaned the kitchen, not my mom. So we have split things to where we both are doing our share. As far as the sex goes....my family doctor just explained it to me this way....some nights you want "spaghetti" but he want "pork chops," and vice verse. So sometimes you have "pork chops" for him even though that isn't what you wanted. Understand that men work differently than us, when men have a long stressful day all they want when they come home is to have sex. Women are completely opposite in that way. If we have had a long bad day, sex is the last thing on our mind. Everything is a give and take. But those two little pieces of advice has saved our marriage and keeps it going strong.

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Tiffany - posted on 04/25/2010

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Thank you so much! But the sex... It's me that has the higher sex drive!! It's so odd to me.

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