Are there any moms out there that are also taking care of their moms?

Lisa - posted on 09/26/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




I'm an only child of 47, who is caring for my mom who is 86. She has level 4 alzheimers and I also have a daughter who is 12. I'd like to share with any moms who have similar experience with dealing with an elderly mother and a child.


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Lisa - posted on 09/28/2009




You sound like you have a lot on your plate. I'm not too sure that you don't have more on your plate than I do. It is good that your sister helps you a lot, I know that has to be a blessing. I wish I had a sister or brother to help me out and relieve me at times. I do know that what you said about the Good Lord helping us through is true. I could not do this without him.

Alice - posted on 09/28/2009




I took care of my mom before she passed and then I had small ones my son was 3 and my daughter at the time was 2 I have other brothers and sister but they worked full time jobs my sister helped me a lot ...Now I take care of my older brother I am 36 he is 48 he has lung cancer ..I all so have a 5 year old and a 11 year old and a 15 yearold at home and I help take care of my grandson..Not to mention my husband is not in the best of health either..So I can relate to what you are going threw a little it can be hard at times but with the good lord he will help us make it threw ...I wish you luck with your mom just know you are trully blessed for taken care of your mom...

Lisa - posted on 09/27/2009




Thanks for the reply to my post. I guess there aren't very many of us out there who are taking care of their mother's and have young children too. You were the only one who replied to my post. I have checked out a local day care center for my mom too. I am in the process of getting her approved to go into it now.

I envy you living in England and living next to the sea, that must be wonderful. My daughter, who is 12, would love to live next to the sea. BTW was does OH stand for? I was curious about that, I wondered if it was an English thing?

Every day is a challenge, but a blessing too. Thanks for your reply.


Annette - posted on 09/26/2009




I am 56, I care for my mum who is 90, although I do not care alone my hubbie helps too :)

I have a sister who lives quite a long way away. When it became clear that mum couldn't take care of herself we tried various care homes but, were unhappy with the service. It was decided that mum should come live with us. She has been with us now since March.

It has taken a while to settle her properly as she had the idea she was returning home after a stay with us.

We have changed dr's now and have got mum going out to the local day centre Mon-Fri. It gives her and us a break and a change.

My sister rings her once a day, as does my eldest daughter 35.

I do struggle some days, as I am disabled and can't do the things I used to. My OH has also had 2 strokes and 2 heart attacks.

We get meals brought in, all my OH has to do is pop in into the microwave.

Most of the day is taken up getting up and dressed, but hey, we get there.

We live in England and have the advantage of being right by the sea on the South West coast. Nice clean air!!

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