are you recognized for what you do?

Corinne - posted on 04/15/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




Do any of you stay at home moms feel underappreciated for all your hard work? I have three children under the age of 5. My eldest has autism. I must take care of the kids, take them to appointments, and act as case manager for my son's autism. This is 24 hour/7 day a week job, and it's the toughest job I'll ever have. However, I am constantly having to defend myself against accusations from my husband that I am not contributing to the family. I need a little support please.


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Lorie - posted on 04/15/2010




OH MY GOD, so many moms feel the same way you do.

I have 3 children, 4,21 months and 3 months. On top of that I have two DC kids that are 1 and 2.

I take them to doctors apt,school, parks, other activities. Wash clothes, clean the whole house, put clothes away etc...etc...

He doesn't give two flying shit on what I have to do or go through each day. As long as it gets done, it doesn't matter.

The only thing he does it make dinner b/e I get off work later then him and takes the garbage out b/c he smokes out there. HE PATS HIMSELF ON THE BACK FOR ALL THE WORK HE DOES. He hasn't got up with any of our children since my middle child was 6 or 7 months old.

Men are so useless.

You are right on the money when you said it will be the hardest job you will ever do.

Amber - posted on 04/15/2010




I feel under appreciated sometimes. Its so tough sometimes dont get me wrong i love it but dont feel appreciated at times:( My hubby doesnt get upset or anything about me not working and bringing in money! After all it was him in the beginning wanting me not to go to work after our son was born.

Amanda - posted on 04/15/2010




I feel the same way almost everyday. My boyfriend never thanks me for anything just expects it to be done. He dosent understand that not everyday is the same. Kids act differently everyday and there are different things going on all the time. I have even gotten confronted by my boyfriends mom on my lack of care for my house, which can be messy at times. But im the kind of mom who will stop doing the dishes if my kids want me to cleaning time is usually after they are in bed for the night. But it is no fun to be unaprrectiated for what you do. Good luck to you and your family and as long as you feel good about the way you do things and they arent bad then just keep on thinking it!!

Carrie - posted on 04/15/2010




I understand how you feel. My husband makes the same comments about not contributing. We have an 8 almost 9 year old daughter and I am a stay at home mom. I homeschool her as well. I feel I am contributing just not financially. He works outside of the home. I want to start a work from home business so I can contribute financially. That way I can do it all, homeschool our daughter, clean the house, and make money. Maybe that is an option for you, home based business. I wish you good luck with whatever you find that works for your family.

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