as a housewife how can i overcome my stress? can you give some simple tips?

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Yes i agree with you Bonnie,Sun has vitamin B in it which when you are lacking can make you feel down...just 1 hour a day if you can will boost vitamin B up so you will feel happier..:-)

Bonnie - posted on 09/11/2009

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Quoting Leah :

Im a mother to 4 young children, 7, 5, 4, and 3, i have a partner but he doesnt help with anything. This man is the meaning of the word Lazy. He doesnt work he sleeps all day. While im doing everything, i cant go out and met new people, im unable to drive and i live out of the town ( its a bit far to walk with the kids) and if i wanted to go for a walk he wont look after them. He does what he wants when ever he wants and if i want to do something i cant.. i have the kids day in day out and the only time i get a bit of time to sit is when my mum comes down. She is 4 hours away so she cant just come and look after them anytime. Has anyone got any ideas on how i can over come my stress??? Its really hard, im 28 and im sooo stressed out.



Go outside everyday for atleast 30 minutes. Sunlight and fresh air will relief your stress as well as the kids'. If you already know someone in town, see if she would be willing to set a time every week or every other week that she would come and pick up you and the kids and head to a local park or restaurant with a playplace or even the library for kids arts and craft. You two can sit a safe distance from the kids and have adult conversation while the kids let out some energy.



Also, my 7 year old will often entertain my other two (5 and 3) with board games, electronic games, coloring, movie and popcorn, etc. while I take 30 minutes to have a hot bubble bath. I take a timer in the bathroom with me and set it for 10 minutes in which I soak while reading a book. Once it goes off, I bathe and get out feeling refreshed.



Hope that helps!

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Hi there, yes i can understand how stressfull being a mum is, I find with me if i stop excercising i start to feel down and more stressed.

Is very important to excercise it is hard initially cause you just dont feel like it,but trust me you will feel better if you do .

If you cant get out i do my video's at home, same benefits,but is better to get out of house if you can .A good 1hr walk,have you got a friend you can walk with, that also makes a difference to have a chat at the same time...I wish you the very nest of luck..:-)

Veronica - posted on 09/11/2009

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What worked for me is....admitting that I can't do it all (cooking, cleaning, and taking care of my 3 kids). As much as I hate to admitt it, sometimes the chores remain undone, or I start dinner a little late etc. I realized something had to give, and it wasn't going to be taking care of the kids... I had a talk with da hubby, letting him know that sometimes the house was not going to look as clean as we both like it to look. He puts the kids to sleep and i catch up on house chores!

Tisha - posted on 09/11/2009

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Hit the gym or take a nice walk/jog. Exercising definitely helps relieve stress while doing something positive and healthy for yourself! :)

Anita - posted on 09/11/2009

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great way to destress with a book in hand if u want is when bubs is napping or even b4 u put them down, fill up the bath with a little lavendar oil and give urself a soaking...

Esteth - posted on 09/10/2009

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well when ur baby is asleep you take time for urself and relax aswell thats what i do i take it easy watch a movie or tv and if ur baby is awake interact with them also put them to watch and do things with u dance.. i do that alot i dance and my son goes crazy smiling and laughing while i dance around him and sing....or just goout for a walk go shopping call a few friends with babies and make playdates, or go to the park and meet other moms

Stephanie - posted on 09/10/2009

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I'll put my son in his stroller and go for a walk. When he's sleeping I'll exercise at a pretty good pace for 20 mins (this gives me an outlet for any frustrations). I'll take my son to the park. I'll watch one of my favorite movies that make me laugh. Catch up on emails. I've noticed that once my mind is distracted by something other than the stress, I feel more calm. Also getting outside in the sunlight helps. It's almost soothing. Good luck!

Anju - posted on 09/10/2009

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well.. start your day with meditation. believe me it really works. this is the best way to kill your stress out and then you can follow by doing the other things which you like most ( though you dont get enough time) ,like reading, swimming, surfing etc. find the happiness in yourself rather finding it in other immaterialised things outside. have you ever heard og LAUGHING THERAPY??????

Stephanie - posted on 09/09/2009

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Get a massage!! Even if its only 30 minutes its a great escape!! Being a new mother (and massage therapist) this is how I unwind...when I find the time lol. ;-)

Erika - posted on 09/09/2009

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I definitely recommend going for walks. You can either do it with the little ones or by yourself. My 2 year old and 6 month old love the walk. It's very relaxing for all of us. I'm also going to join a Moms club in my area. Hope this helps.


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Liezel - posted on 09/09/2009

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Hello. Def some time out for mom only. Do some kind of fitness... walk,run,cycle what ever you can do... it will do wanders! Good luck......

Bethany - posted on 09/09/2009

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If you are a believer then start every day reading the Bible. Even five minutes is enough to refresh my soul and keep me peaceful all day.

If not, the other things I've found to help are to get housework done while my daughter is awake. She loves to "help" (she's 17months) fold laundry or vacuum. Then when she naps or goes to bed I spend time doing what I want to do. I gain energy from being alone and having alone time. So I'll read, take a candlelit bath (yes, even in the middle of the day sometimes!), sew, or watch a movie. When I'm feeling especially stressed I'll take a bath and practice my deep, belly breathing from labor, while focusing on relaxing every part of my body. That helps so much!

Probably the best thing that keeps me sane is that we have an early, regular bedtime. Natalie goes to bed at 7pm, and gets up at 7am. That way I have the whole evening to unwind if I make sure I get housework done during the day... at least enough to get by. :)

Tina - posted on 09/09/2009

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I've just started this walking routine, and trust me it will ease your mind. I seem to worry less and the benefit is you loose weight as well.....I really enjoy my me time. Give it a try you might like it.

Leah - posted on 09/09/2009

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Im a mother to 4 young children, 7, 5, 4, and 3, i have a partner but he doesnt help with anything. This man is the meaning of the word Lazy. He doesnt work he sleeps all day. While im doing everything, i cant go out and met new people, im unable to drive and i live out of the town ( its a bit far to walk with the kids) and if i wanted to go for a walk he wont look after them. He does what he wants when ever he wants and if i want to do something i cant.. i have the kids day in day out and the only time i get a bit of time to sit is when my mum comes down. She is 4 hours away so she cant just come and look after them anytime. Has anyone got any ideas on how i can over come my stress??? Its really hard, im 28 and im sooo stressed out.

Kim - posted on 09/09/2009

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Make sure that you start your day with a positive attitude. Most women do not realize that they set the tone for everyone else in the house. So if you have a defeated attitude your children and husband will too. But if you have a positive attitude then everyone else in the house will too. Children can sense when moms are not happy or when something is wrong. Just try to set aside time for you to be alone or to hang with someone that you can confide in and everything will work itself out.

Vicki - posted on 09/09/2009

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Increase your endorphin productions by laughing more, moving more and praying more. See if you can break a sweat at least once a day from some type of aerobic exercise, like dancing perhaps? The work never ends and it's always there, so you simply must schedule other things into your day. Pat yourself on the back too, cause you are probably the only one who really notices or can appreciate all of the unseen things you accomplish in any given day.

Heidi - posted on 09/09/2009

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When my lil one goes to nap I try to have me time...take a bath..catch up on some things that i need to get done around the house!

Ruth - posted on 09/09/2009

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Spend some time while your little one is napping doing what you enjoy--reading a book, watching a movie, spending some time online. Don't worry about cleaning, cooking, or any of the other million things you need to do. Not having a spotless house or dinner right on time really isn't the end of the world (and besides, we all know the mess will be back tomorrow even if we do pick it up). Or ask your husband/boyfriend/mother/best friend to watch the little one while you go out for an hour or two. Sometimes a little bit of time not being "Mom" can make a huge difference. (Or even better, get someone to watch the children and go out on a date with your husband.)

Tamara - posted on 09/09/2009

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Get out and meet some people (playgroups, etc) Go out for walks. Get a hobbie. Have some you time. or read.

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