at home mom/daycare problems

Biginsexy2007 - posted on 02/05/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )




Im an at home mom I have three kids two girls one boy my girls are 12 and 10 my son is 2 my problem is everyone wants me to send him to daycare but I'm not ready to let him go after all I hear about daycare and babysitters with all the abuse going on I'm just not ready to let him go ladies do u think I'm wrong or selfish


Sharon - posted on 02/06/2015




Not at all, i had my son at home until he was almost 3. It was so hard to take him to daycare but I think you know when they are ready and my son most definitely was. He took a few weeks to settle and I missed him terribly but he loved it after that and hasn't looked back. Do what you feel is right and don't feel pressured, you are his Mum.


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Karen - posted on 02/10/2015




If you're not comfortable sending him to daycare then don't! You're his mother and while you can listen to what others say you don't have to agree with it! The best thing about advice is that it's free! You don't have to take it as gospel! At the end of the day how you feel and the happiness of your son is that matters!

Michelle - posted on 02/07/2015




It's completely up to you but I will also say that the "abuse" is a small minority. Why would the news report on daycares and babysitters doing a good job?
You do need to do your research before deciding on a daycare but most of them are great.

Jodi - posted on 02/07/2015




I just want to put it out there that the abuse is an absolute minority of cases and doesn't happen as often as you think it does. Unfortunately, because it gets reported, it has the appearance of being more prevalent than it actually is.

Having said that, however, I have to question who "everyone" is. Studies have actually shown that if the home environment is stimulating and interactive, the child would gain absolutely no benefit in a daycare environment (he wouldn't necessarily be worse off, but no better off). However, once a child is about 3, finding ways to engage them socially with children their own age is particularly important. You can look for local playgroups in your area to get this happening - you don't need daycare to do it. They will then progress from there to pre-school then finally to school. It is perfectly possible to provide those social experiences without daycare.

Personally, I'd tell "everyone" that it was not really any of their business.

Pamela - posted on 02/07/2015




I'm a stay at home mom as well and my boys both started preschool this year three days a week and they were so ready to learn and socialize with other kids. We all had a hard time the first month but now it's great and I love seeing them make friends. I did cry a few times it's hard to leave them but I really like their teachers and they have a good program at the school. Follow your Mommy instincts in what you feel is best.

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