Baby hates being buckled in!

Emily - posted on 10/28/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )




Hello! Ok, so my 8 month old STILL fights and fusses being put in a car seat or her highchair. I don't know what it is about being buckled in. You would think she'd be used to it by now. I mean she fusses when you put her in the car seat to go somewhere but when you put her back in the car seat to return home, forget it. That's the worst.I guess she just doesn't like being constrained. She fusses too when I try to dress her as well. Does anybody have any ideas as to how I can make her I guess enjoy being in her car seat and highchair? Oh, I also give her toys to play with in the car as well and at breakfast/dinner I give her her own spoon to keep her busy and encourage self feeding and stuff. Any suggestions would be appreciated! Thanks!


Jennifer - posted on 11/06/2010




My little one HATED being strapped in the carseat. She would cry the whole car ride. I really think she was uncomfortable with the restraints. She also hated having the sun in her eyes. I agree with acknowledging her feelings. Eventually, it will get better.
It could be that she is super-sensitive. Is her clothing soft, comfortable, tag-free? Little things that we may not notice can aggravate the heck out of a sensitive little one.
We also discovered our child is "Spirited". She is more, especially when it comes to intensity and perception. I just started re-reading "Raising the Spirited Child". It has made a world of difference. You may want to glance through a copy at the library to see if she has any signs. Knowing it early can really help head off issues in the future, IF that's the issue.

Kim - posted on 10/30/2010




Saraah I've had to do the same thing with my 3 kids to change diapers. My last was the biggest problem keeping her in her highchair or stroller, when I got them for my 1st they didn't have shoulder harnesses. She was my climber and after 8 months I couldn't use the highchair. I put her in a small chair at a small table instead. As far as the carseat, you just have to deal with it, its for her safety. You could maybe try to limit your time out with her until she tolerates the carseat better. It was usually at this age mykids started hating going shopping too, even with snacks. I hope she gets over it soon.


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Rebekah - posted on 11/07/2010




I love the book, "Raising the Spirited Child" too!

Anyway, call me crazy, but I've never strapped my kids into anything other than the car seat. I kind of believed that if I gave them the skills to get into and out of something then they'd be less likely to fall. I allowed them the opportunity to learn how to climb out of their bouncy chairs, high chair, or swing (with supervision, of course) from a really early age. My son learned pretty quickly how to turn to his tummy and slide out, or climb down. He walked right before he turned 9 months and at that point there was no getting him to stay anywhere... So we put up a low table with some Gerber puffs (or Cheerios) on it and just fed him at it (when he was ready). Then, when he got a little better about climbing into the big chairs we'd just let him stand in a regular size chair. In fact, my daughter is 17 months old right now and she climbs into her own chair and back out on her own. I know that wouldn't work for every child, but if your child is like either of mine, maybe teaching him how to get down safely (or eliminate the use of a high chair all together) would help.

Jennifer - posted on 10/31/2010




Is she with someone, who lets her go without being strapped up? I had a hard time with my youngest son for a long time, and couldn't figure out why, until one day I was picking him up from grandma's, and she wasn't strapping him in the highchair. So, when I did it, he threw a fit. I just asked her to please make sure she is strapping him in everytime, no matter what, and after a couple weeks, the fussing stopped. Now, we are going through an ordeal everytime we go shopping, because she lets him ride in the basket of the cart. UGH oh well, if she isn't with anyone that is doing that, then just keep doing what you are doing, and never give in, because it is better for her to be unhappy for a little while, then to be hurt in a car accident, or from falling from the highchair.

User - posted on 10/30/2010




My daughter is 7 mos old and is a mover. Changing diapers is the biggest issue for me. She will try to twist and roll. I normally can get her to be still enough by putting a toy on her chest to play with. In the car seat she will arch her back. I talk to her and say "Mama knows you don't like it, but we have to go bye bye sweetie". I don't use a highchair for feedings. I sit on the floor while she sits in a Bumbo chair to eat. I never had a highchair for my son because we just didn't have the space for it in our apartment. I just used a booster seat that attached to our regular chairs that grew with him as he got bigger. She is only in her chair to eat. I don't put her in her chair until I have her food ready, and once she is done I take her out.

Saraah - posted on 10/29/2010




At 8 months she's probably pretty mobile, rolling, possibly crawling and/or pulling herself up. She just wants to practice these new skills, so make sure she has plenty of opportunity for free movement. Lots of unrestrained floor time at home. Then, don't feel guilty for the times when you have to strap her in her carseat or highchair. Verbally acknowledge that you understand she doesn't like it, but we all have to do things we don't like and you're sorry she struggles with it so much. (At 8 months she won't understand, but it's a good habit to get into to affirm your kid's feelings). You're doing as much as you can, giving her toys and other things to entertain her while she has to be restrained. I think that's all you can do really. And just a suggestion on getting her dressed and changing diapers, choose outfits that go on quickly and easily (no or few snaps, buttons, etc - just clothes that slip on). And in a practical sense, I've had to resort to changing my son's diaper on the floor with my leg over his chest to keep him down rather than trying to wrestle with him on the changing table where he could wriggle off. Be thankful for such an active little girl and encourage that physical activity as much as you can. Good luck!

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