Babysitting Headache help

Cayla - posted on 05/17/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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since im a stay at home mom and feel i need to help my husband out with earning money i babysit. Well i have been babysitting these two kids for 3 months now and im having issues with the 15month old girl. her mother carries here around all the time and when she is out side she is put in a buggy, her whole family actually does this but her mom is the worst out of them all. i have talked to the dad about it and he agrees that it need to stop. but the problem only seems to getting worse for me. when she is here all she does is scream and stomp her feet at my front door i have tried playing with her coloring with her and sitting with her watching tv but nothing works. so i started sitting her in the high chair when she starts and it use to stop for a little while at least but it has stopped working. i read where i need to ignore her when she toss this tantrum but i live in a row house so i have people on each side of me and i hate for her loudness to bother them. cause i know they here her, there is nothing wrong with her when she starts this, i change her once she gets here i feed her and i make sure she has a drink in her sippy at all times. im out of ideas and about out of patients with it. any one have any more ideas for me cause the only thing i know to do is put her down for a nap and i can only do that so often you know. im desperate for help, my boys have never done this and my niece i use to watch never did this either.

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Alina - posted on 05/17/2010

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I just recently ended the daycare I was doing at home, so I know exactly how you feel. In my case I had two kids, including a 12-month old girl. She couldn't walk or talk when I got her, and her two year old brother wasn't saying much either. I noticed her parents were always carrying her around. At church, someone was always carrying her around, I would go over their house, and someone would be carrying her there! Then she would come to my house Mon-Fri and scream and crawl after me ALL DAY LONG, clinging to me for me to pick her up. But I refused to pick her up and she'd wear herself out crying and fall asleep. I told the parents to stop picking her up, and stop letting others carry her, so she could learn to walk. I had that girl walking two weeks after she started coming to me! Honey, talk about needing patience - with the parents! She was walking two weeks before they knew it, though, because they'd still been picking her up at home. When they dropped her off bragging about her walking for the first time, I played it off and let them think they'd witnessed her first steps, although she'd been walking at my house two weeks already! I also would not accept grunts and pointing as proper forms of communication, and would tell them the words to say when they wanted something. It may sound cruel, but that boy would fuss all day because he'd refuse to say "juice, please" or "cup please" and I wouldn't budge on the rule that he had to ask with words. But hey, it worked! The mother said he started talking up a storm at home. I had to explain that children have to be talked with, not talked at! We live in an apartment, so I was concerned about my neighbors, too. If you can't find anything that works, you may have to get tough with the parents and say look, either we work together to get the best out of your child, or you'll have to take her somewhere else. Daycare centers are not going to keep difficult children for long, so they should really appreciate you and your efforts to work with them. My daycare became so stressful for my family that my husband told me I was finished. He said we weren't really seeing the $$$ anyway, and he wanted his home back at peace more than he wanted the little bit of $$$ I was bringing in LOL. I hope you can figure something out, you have to be frustrated and tired :)

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Cayla - posted on 05/17/2010

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im so glad im not alone i never has this much issue with kids i have taken care of, today she cryed for a hr at my father in laws out in the yard and had a lady come ask what the matter with her was she could hear her in her house. so i told her the truth about her parents cuddling her to much, but i picked her up and put her in my father in laws guest room and let her cry it out in there cause i didn't know what else to do. so i brought her and my son home and put them both down for a nap and she must have gotten the point that i wasn't babying her cause she didn't fuss at all when i shut the door like she was but i will talk to the parents cause i dont want to get in trouble with cps or any thing cause she wouldn't stop crying

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