Because you're a stay at home mom does your husband think you dont do anything all day?

Christi - posted on 08/09/2009 ( 191 moms have responded )

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When my husband come home i want him to take the baby for a while but he thinks because he worked all day he should have to. Your thoughts?

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Jane - posted on 08/10/2009

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your baby is only a month old! it's a crazy time! my breaking point is around 4pm for some reason. i usually get a pit in my stomach and lots of anxiety. probably b/c i need sleep and a shower and food. you need a break, he gets a lunch break at work, we don't get an automatic lunch break or bathroom break, etc.

you both are soooooo new at this. you're both adjusting. hand him the baby about half an hour after he comes home and go lay down or drive to your mother's house and take a nap. physically, you need a break from taking care of your newborn. as my sister-in-law told me, "it's no good to be a tired mom".

recently my husband wanted to know why our house isn't as organized and clean as his mother's house b/c she had four kids and we only have two - well, they're all adults w/their own homes now. thankfully, my mother-in-law spoke up and told him that when she had two little kids, her house wasn't clean and organized and he shouldn't expect ours to be right now.

you can take the "the baby missed you" approach and make it "their time" when he gets home. and he could help out by ordering take out and you can go pick it up so you get a break. nobody is making homemade meals or cleaning at this early stage of being parents. (i still don't but as my kids get older i will.) even just going to the drug store to read trashy magazines off the rack or b'day cards for 10 minutes, that helps refresh my brain.

most importantly, working all day has nothing to do w/bonding w/his baby. he needs to do both. maybe he's anxious about being a new dad. seriously, husbands are somewhat useless for the first 6 months of a baby's life. during that time, they best serve us by running errands and folding laundry. he may just feel useless and neglected. if it's dinner he wants, then just order out for now. he's gonna have to learn how your family all fits together and he's a very important part of it although he may not feel that way. my husband became very stressed out after our 2 year old was born b/c he felt the weight of the world on his shoulders - he was responsible for her and me and our lives and our health and her education and her safety, etc (i know i'm rambling but it's 4am). his part is just as important and just as hard and he needs to feel that he matters and know that you're just as overwhelmed as he is. being a parent is an awesome responsibility, it consumes you. but he does need his own time w/his son.

Rachel - posted on 08/31/2009

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Lol. I got the old "I bring home the money so I shouldn't have to do any of the housework" line. Boy was I furious, he actually told me not to bother washing any of my clothes or my daughters clothes or the sheets or towels and just stand there washing his clothes all day. Like that would do any good because then the house would be a mess, the dishes wouldn't get done, dinner wouldn't be cooked and our two year old would be running around in dirty nappies and then he would be complaining about all of that.



He doesn't bother saying thank you for tha hard work I do all day and then expects some kind of medal or something because he gave our daughter a bath (by bath I mean he put the water and the child in the tub and let her wash herself) only so I could do all the dishes because he's had such a hard day at work and he needs a break.



And then of course when baby is finally in bed he's only got one thing on his mind, hello it's the last thing I want to do right now coz I can finally have 5 minutes to myself where I don't have to look after anyone else and he wants me to then "look after" him.



I tell you we wouldn't even be arguing about this if mum's got paid for the hours they worked, coz then we'd be earning a hell of a lot more that they do.

Porscha - posted on 08/09/2009

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Mine is the same too. I got so tired of him saying I had all day to relax while he was at work that I decided to do just that for a few days. All I did after I had showered was play with the baby. The house looked like a disaster zone, even tho our baby was only about 9mths old at the time (I'd hate to see what would happen if I did this again now that we have 3 kids lol). I didn't even bother organising dinner til after he got home, so dinner was pretty boring for those few days. He realised after a few days that I didn't sit around drinking coffee all day...and he was begging for me to wash his clothes and make a proper dinner again lol



You are definatly not alone. Maybe you should go on strike for a few days lol worked for me :)

Carrie - posted on 08/10/2009

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Hello I find if you just let him get in and have a brew first it saves an hour of arguing about it. My husband is a teacher and with kids all day so he needs 10 mins to aclimatise!

Kate - posted on 08/31/2009

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Oh, also, remind him that your job never ends. He gets to leave his and come home to relax. While we LOVE our kids, we don't get to clock out after 8 hours. Our job never ever ends!

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Shannintipton - posted on 08/03/2011

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This post is a little on the old side. So I am going to lock it. Thanks for your reply. :)

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2011

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it sucks but, and this may sound bad, that's a big reason ppl get divorced. Ours has more to do with cheating...... but yep. he was very unappreciative.

Heather - posted on 09/01/2009

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AH my hubby to be does the same thing! and man idk why! ugh! Ive tried explaining to him that cooking lunch (he comes home for lunch) cooking dinner, taking care of an active 4 mo old and keeping the house clean and going to school full time (online) is like having 3 full time jobs...but NOOOO he wont take koltyn at night bc "he worked all day" ugh! lol but Im sure when koltyn is walking and talking he will take him more (he has a 4 yr old already and does great wiht him)

Dana - posted on 09/01/2009

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I am VERY lucky in that Brent is always willing to do whatever I need him to when he gets home.. He knows how hectic my day can be.. we have 5 girls at home now and one son. Our oldest has her own baby and she is moving out on her own next week.. but even without her here... well lets just say I look forward to the school hours of the day... hee hee.. but Grady can be quite demanding.. He is a great baby! But he too has his moments.. I thank God for Brent...

Erin - posted on 09/01/2009

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My husband still says this. I had surgery 4 1/2 weeks ago and he had to take care of the kids (1 year old and a 2 year old) for 2 weeks, mostly by himself. I thought after that he would be more appreciative, but nope. He has been back to work for 2 weeks athe other night he said to me "Why are you so tired?" It was 8:30 at night. I could have kicked him. But He does do many things around the house. It is hard because he is taking 2 graduate classes and he works all day. He really is a great husband who loves me and our two children!

Sally - posted on 09/01/2009

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i get that all the time he thinks i sit on here all the time and dont do anything,i think he forgets that ive got a 11yr old and an 8 mth old to look after as well has chores and the rest he thinks its so easy....and if i say im tired he asks why cos you aint dont nothing all day xxx

Teena - posted on 09/01/2009

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My husband is exactly the same. At the moment my baby won't sleep for more than an hour a day so I don't get a lot done and when he comes home he's on my case cause the washing isn't done or the kitchen hasn't been cleaned. But when I give him an overtired baby to try and put to sleep he soon shuts up.

Kate - posted on 08/31/2009

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My husband is a customs offical for the government and works a lot of hours. Last night he told me that I'd be tired if I got up as early as he does everyday too. I quickly responded that just because I don't get up at 4 doesn't mean I'm not just as tired as he is by the end of the day! This is our first baby and I think he's slowly learning what it really takes to stay at home with her. She's also getting to the point where she wants to be entertained and I can't leave her alone for more than 20 minutes or so before she's done with alone time : ) Not to mentioned she's learned how to flip herself out of swing already! Anyway, yes my husband sometimes thinks this but I hope it passes!

Sondra - posted on 08/31/2009

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He tells me that he knows that I was taking care of our son BUT... always the but. It hurts but you know what you do if you are honest with yourself. Some days are lazy days, but they don't need to know that. We deserve it, you have to create a day off sometime, lol.

Sallie - posted on 08/31/2009

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My BF does the same... but his hours are differnt he works from 3pm to 11:30pm dont get home till 12:30am so were already sleepin.... an he normally sleeps till he has to get up an go also his off days are Mon an Tues so I just get so mad bc he does think I do nothing all day an yet our lil boy is 6 1/2mths old and Im preg. he hast ever watched our lil man except for lil an hr an it was in the morning so he slept most time. He thinks its easy.. HA boy he dont know anything its not easy its all very time consumin an demanding... an only break you have is when he sleeps an I either wanna clean, have some me time but most the time I wanna sleep too....I would love to leave him with the lil man for a day but I know he couldnt handle it... an I dont think I trust just him an lil man for a day... he has no clue what to do.. like he prob wouldnt feed him or put him down for nap or anything. See also lil man thinks when he sees daddy its play time he dont eat for him he dont go to sleep for him he just wants to play with him an thats simply bc he dont ever do it an he hardly sees him so mommy has to do it all!! Im so stressed, an plus being 20wks preg thank god I dont have a hard preg. only prob I wanna sleep an sometimes lil man dont wanna so it just makes for a long day. So does anyone have any advice for me would you please let me know!!

Chitney-Ann - posted on 08/31/2009

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my guy used to treat me that way, until he began noticing that our child was becoming afraid of him and wouldn't want him at all because she didn't know him. that kinda hit him hard even though it took a long while, things got better.

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I give mine a moment to relax before he finds himself overwhelmed by our three boys ;-) I'm very happy to be a stay-at-home-mom and my husband really appreciates the work I do

Jeanne - posted on 08/30/2009

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And the other day we met with our insurance agent about life insurance and the agent asked how much coverage we would need for me and said if I was a stay at home mom then it shouldn't be much because I have no income.



My husband perked up and said 'She is very valuable. I would spend thousands to replace everything she does'



It made me feel so good.

Jeanne - posted on 08/30/2009

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No my husband has never said that to me. He knows that I work hard and I know that he works hard.



He should want to take the baby because its his child that he loves. Thats why my husband takes care of our son. Because he loves him and wants to have daddy time with him not for a favor for me. But even on my husband's days off he takes him. Like today I didn't get any sleep the night before so my husband got up and got the baby ready and went to church and let me stay home and sleep without distractions.

Martha - posted on 08/30/2009

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When is my day off??????

He works 8 to 5 and comes home....Thats his day. He has weekends off.

I was thinking today that I haven't "had a day off" since Maryann was born. I cook, clean, do laundry, change diapers, and clean up after him! I love him to pieces, but come on buddy, I need a little help!

I don't think that he thinks that what I do all day is work. He figures that because home is "home" than I get to be comfortable and off work all day becuase I am here!

I don't think that they have any idea what it is like to stay home and keep house. He will ask how my day was and what we did today, NOTHING- I fed our daughter, kept her fromk screaming all day and changed crappy diapers.... what did you do?

Melissa - posted on 08/30/2009

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i haven't worked for a paycheck since i was pregnant with my first child. we moved back home from a few hours away from our families when i was about 4-5 months and just decided i should stay home instead of trying to find something i was going to have to quit in a few months. when she was around two years old, my husband made the mistake of saying "well, i work" during an argument over something stupid. i quickly let him know that that shit would not fly. he went to work for 8-10 hours a day working construction, but i "worked" 24/7. my job was never finished. i never got weekends off as he did sometimes. i let him know exactly what i did with my time all day long from laundry and general cleaning to cleaning up after the baby, to the shopping, bill paying, cooking, and when the girlie went to bed at night (which i also took care of) my day still didn't end because i had to get cleaned up and get ready for the next day. even that didn't work too well in getting my point across. it eventually took me ending up severely depressed and on meds for him to see all that i actually did for our family... once it wasn't being done anymore, he knew exactly all the things that i did to keep the house going and what all it entails. i still haven't gotten back into a good groove with my home, but i blame most of that on this second pregnancy and the fact that once i felt like doing more in my house again, my body didn't. thankfully, this baby will be here late september and my body won't be so tired that i can't get anything accomplished. one thing that has been a blessing has been that he has pretty much taken over all responsibility in the house as of lately. he knows how hard it is to maintain and run a household and has been really supportive of my tiredness, weepiness, and general can't handle anything right now funk. i love him. he's a good egg.

Andrea - posted on 08/30/2009

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Quoting Erin:

see my hubby is great with our son but he thinks im his maid.. im his wife not his mom.lol even though we stay home and they go to work dosent mean they shouldnt help around the house and with the baby.. no one is asking them to scrub the bathroom but a few minutes to your self and the curdisy of picking up after himself is all i ask..



Oh god, my husbnd isexactly the same.I have four kids and ive spent years in training thm to pick up afer themselves etc but for the life of me i am still picking up after my fifth child(the husbnd).Hes awesome with the kids but alo thinks im his mother/maid not hi wife.He cant even put his coffee cup in the dishwasher,he puts it on the bench above the dishwasher.Sometimes i jst want to throw things at him.Makes me appreciate my kids, they love to help out god bless them.

Anita - posted on 08/30/2009

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My husband use to think the same thing until I had to go out of town for a few days. After I got home, he said I needed a raise. I believe they all think that way at one time or another.

Annalisse - posted on 08/30/2009

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Same here, my fiancee works at night and sleeps all day so in my opinion when hes off I should be able to take a break!! But nooo he tells me i'm "mommy" its what im supposed to do. Um hello! I don't get to clock in and out and take lunch breaks like he does!! Ugh men.

Melissa - posted on 08/30/2009

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my husband never accuses me of doing nothing he is greatful that i am willing to stay at home with our baby, neither one of us trust babysitters or daycare... ask your husbands if they'd prefer to pay a stranger to do wht you're doing for free every day and remind him it costs extra to hire a someone who cleans while they take care of your kids.

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I think all men do that to some extent. Especially when you tell them to do something or they need to spend time with the baby so you can get a break. I quickly reminded him that I'll go back to work and he can stay home with the baby lool.

Carey - posted on 08/30/2009

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my husband used to joke that I sat at home and ate bon bons all day...he knew I did stuff and wasn't lazy, but I don't think he knew the extent until recently...I had my 3rd baby 6 weeks early. Because of this, I had to spend alot of time at the hospital to help him learn how to eat...which left my husband home alone with our two other boys (2 and 3 years old) for about a week. He didn't get any housework done, the laundry wasn't touched, and he was spent by the end of each day. He finally realized that when he comes home to a clean house after having to chase the kids all day that it is an incredibly difficult job, since the kids are a huge job in themselves. Leave your husband alone with the kids for about 5-6 hours and not during nap time when he won't get the full effect of them...and give him a few little chores to do that you would normally do during that time...he will appreciate you then.

Yvonne - posted on 08/30/2009

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YEAH! ALTHOUGH MY DAUGHTER IS NOT AUTISTIC I DO GET THAT YOU'RE LUCKY YOU ONLY HAVE ONE FROM SOME.......... THEY DON'T REALIZE HAVING ONE CHILD IS JUST AS CHALLENGING BECAUSE OF THE ONE ON ONE ATTENTION YOU HAVE TO GIVE OF YOURSELF ALL THE TIME. WHILE HAVING SIBLINGS THEY CAN ENTERTAIN EACH OTHER SOMETIMES. HOWEVER I REALIZE HAVING 2 OR MORE BABIES TO CARE FOR IS A GREATER RESPONSIBILITY......I'M JUST SPEAKING ON THE INTERACTION........

Yvonne - posted on 08/29/2009

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MY HUSBAND IS THE SAME WAY! WHEN YOU FIND A CURE LET ME KNOW.

MY BABY IS ALMOST 2 AND EVERY FEW MONTHS WE DISCUSS THIS ISSUE AND STILL NOTHING.

HE'S NOT DUMB BUT FOR SOME REASON HE DOESN'T GET ALTHOUGH AN 8-10 HOUR WORK DAY CAN BE TIRESOME THAT MOMMY WORKS 24 HOURS AND NEVER GETS TO GET OFF WORK.

HE MAKES SUBTLE REMARKS ABOUT MY POSITION BUT HE COULDN'T HANDLE IT MORE THAN 20 MINUTES.

I DON'T WANT TO BE ONE OF THOSE MOMS THAT JUST GET UP AND LEAVE OUT THE HOUSE WHEN DADDY COMES HOME TO FORCE DADDY DAUGHTER TIME.........BUT WE MAY HAVE TO LADIES TO GET SOME ME TIME!

April - posted on 08/29/2009

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My husband works nights and sleeps all day. He tries his hardest to watch her for a few hours before he returns to work, or let me sleep a few extra hours in the morning before he heads off to snoozeland. That being said....I still get times where I feel like I am a mother of two, not a wife and mother of 1. I try not to get too witchy when I remind him of this and he usually apologizes. Parenthood is not easy for anyone. Maybe try letting him take 15 minutes to himself when he gets home to unwind from work. It may help. Also try having a me day on one of his days off. It may be only be for a few hours, but it allows you to blow off some steam. He can have daddy-baby time as well to bond and understand what you go through every day.

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OMG i have to laugh bec my husband used to be this way. i had to start leaving him w the kids while i run errands, meet w friends, or just take time for myself and he TOTALLY got the picture. there isn't a magic broom that cleans the house or a fairy godmother who changes the kid's diapers or fills up the pantry!





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Rebecca Lynn - posted on 08/29/2009

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Quoting Pamela:

My husband always thought the same way. If he even takes out the trash he feels like I am not doing my job. What they don't understand is that we don't get to clock out and come home. We work 24/7 with no sick days or vacation. Why don't they understand that just because we are a sahm that we need help at times too? He should want to spend time with his baby. Just talk to him and do it in a way that shows him it is a priviledge and not a chore to help you at the end of the day.


So so true...we even work on our sick days!

Rebecca Lynn - posted on 08/29/2009

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Quoting Rebecca Lynn:

I have the same problem :( He gets home from owrk at 7pm and I beg him please watch the baby so I can have a nap or a bath etc... His answer is always the same WHY you didn't do anything today :(


  Well we took our first vacation as a family, he had a few days off work and needless to say he was so frusterated lol.  He kept asking me thigns like is he always like this and does she always need to be held or do they really ask why that often and how do you keep them from running amock or doing this or that lol   He was completely frazzled by the end of the trip.  All I could say to him was you get used to it honey lol.  He now has a much greater respect and appreciation for what I do all day while he is at work!

Pamela - posted on 08/29/2009

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Leave him with the kids unexpectantly and you go shopping for the entire day. Especially on a Saturday when he has a golf game scheduled. Don't even take your cell. Oh and make sure to get a mani and pedi while you are out. You deserve ( we all deserve) some respect and help once in a while.

Pamela - posted on 08/29/2009

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My husband always thought the same way. If he even takes out the trash he feels like I am not doing my job. What they don't understand is that we don't get to clock out and come home. We work 24/7 with no sick days or vacation. Why don't they understand that just because we are a sahm that we need help at times too? He should want to spend time with his baby. Just talk to him and do it in a way that shows him it is a priviledge and not a chore to help you at the end of the day.

Penny - posted on 08/27/2009

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Boy do I feel for you! My husband thinks that since I don't leave our house that I don't have a real job! I do the laundry, cleaning, look after ouur kids, clean up their messes, feed them, bathe them, and then some. I had a dad who worked 2 jobs, and still found the time to do stuff for us, and help out. I saw on tv where a husband felt like yours did, and they recommended that after he got home to shower, and decompress for about an hour, and then it should be his turn with the kids, while you relax or make dinner. Without the kids! Then when it's time to eat, you can enjoy your meal, and talk about each others day.

Stephonie - posted on 08/19/2009

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My husband watches the baby on his days off and usually Feeds the baby between 2 to 8a.m!

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my partner is the same i ask him to do something for me for example clean up the mess you just made and he will say i have been a work all day it is your job to clean, when you get a job i will clean. but that is the problem if i get a job it will pay for child care thats all and he does not believe me. they are so rude

Jess - posted on 08/19/2009

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I took a two week vacation without the both of them and he had to do everything he expected me to do and stay on the schedule that I have. I shut my phone off and had a wonderful two weeks and when I got home he wished he was dead. We have not had a problem since!

Serina - posted on 08/19/2009

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My husband knows my job is hard at home..there will be times when he likes to get smart and say something immature and stupid about me not doing anything...so one day he came home the house was a mess dinner wasnt ready and i was laying back while our little was playing. He came home argued about why things havent been taken care of...and i simply said "because i dont do anything all day" then he started to realize the things he say whens he is mad isnt very true. he notices now that i do more work then he does in a day..especially now that our lil monster is terror. lol.

Angie - posted on 08/19/2009

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I think some days I know he is thinking it, just doesn't say it. Yes tehre are days where I don't feel like doing anything - but that doesn't happen all the time.

Tanya - posted on 08/19/2009

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My husband would have to be in a very BRAVE mood to dare say that to me...thats all im going to say!...lol

Clare - posted on 08/18/2009

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I work from home full-time, I'm a mum full-time and my daughter is still being breastfed. This is not an easy job in the least. Yet he comes home and says he needs to relax, sits on the couch and turns on the TV. Then he just stays there. At least 3 nights a week he takes off minutes after he gets home and goes to play pool of tennis. He insists he needs these things to keep him sane. WHAT ABOUT ME! I can't leave the house without going through a 1 hour routine to prepare him for 20mins alone with our 15 month old. I have no family to help me within 6 hours drive. His family lives in in another state altogether. I'm doing this pretty much on my own since she was born. I don't think I can take it anymore. How can these men not see the struggle. He still comes home and wants to know why he doesn't have any clean underwear. Aaaargggghhhhh!! It makes me feel like a failure.

Clare - posted on 08/18/2009

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Quoting anita:

ask him if he got to pee by himself today!!! hehehe



hahaha. too true.

User - posted on 08/18/2009

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its the same way at my household they felel like they did more work then us because they actually left the house.Yet we ae the ones who actually work fulltime because we are on call who wakes up when they are sick ir having sleepless nights.if your breastfeeding like me who have to stop eating to feed because they are hungery right now!!!moms so we do need a break and a longer one then 15min.we need to be able to take a 2 hour nap with out hearing the baby cry or the father.

Kristin - posted on 08/18/2009

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Yes my husband does... And I even tell him that I'd switch with him any day ( even though I t would be really hard for me to leave my son for that long). Sometimes I just feel like going to a hotel and just sleeping.. I've been without a goodnight sleep for well my son is 19 months old by the last month of my preg. I didn't get much sleep so I've been with out a goodnight sleep for about 20 months. Thats way to long if you ask me.

Kym - posted on 08/18/2009

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My Partner use to be like that... Untill one day wen i was so sick that he had to stay home from work and look after our 18month old and also cleaning and cooking... he told me the next day he dosnt no how i do it. but he's forgotton about that day now and he now thinks that he workd all day so he shouldnt have to look after our son, or cook or clean so i do all 3.

Dawn - posted on 08/17/2009

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My husband said that to me 1 time. The first day he was off after that I got up & disappeared for about 4hrs. He had to do the whole school routine which is harder then the summer routine because I transport my kids to school & they go to 2 different schools... He apologized & has never said it to me again..

Tiffany - posted on 08/17/2009

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O yes my husband says the same thing. Becuse I dont work a full time job that I do nothing. So on the weekends I take one day and leave my daughter with him and leave. By the time i get home he is begging me to take her.

Abbey - posted on 08/17/2009

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My husband was the same way but I finally sat him down and said if you dont spend quality time with your son he wont want anything to do with you. Also threw in that i was going to have a nervous breakdown if he didnt help once he got home. Eventhough he works more then 80 hours in 2 weeks he has stepped up and finally started to help and it has taken a huge burden off of my shoulders! Now the baby enjoys to be with his father and isnt glued to my hip.

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You really have 2 issues you've addressed. 1. Your husband doesn't think you do anything all day. And, 2. He doesn't want to help with the baby in the evening.



Issue 1 can be smoothed over with a heart to heart conversation with your hubby. Don't expect that he automatically knows what you do all day. Tell him. And, show him. If he comes home and the bed isn't made, you're not showered and the baby has lunch on his shirt, it may be easier for him to think you've been slacking off. I used to make a quick run through the house 30 mins b/f my hubby got home just to pull up the bed covers, clear off the kitchen counter and pile all the scattered toys into a basket and stick it in the baby's room... or whatever, just as long as the house doesn't look like a war zone. This leads to my solution to your 2nd issue.



Your husband should take his turn with the baby but, he probably really is tired from working all day. Don't just throw the baby at him when he walks in the door or he will resent you and the child. Give him a few minutes to change down, get a drink and sit down. THEN give him the baby. Tell him you've gotta have a break so you can get dinner going, it's in his best interest. Take a minute to pour yourself a glass of wine and while the water is boiling (or chicken baking...whatever) take a few minutes to flip through a magazine, catch up on email or file your nails.

Natalie - posted on 08/16/2009

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My husband wouldnt dare to do that!He comes in the door after a long day and will generally change the girls nappies and keep them entertained so I can cook dinner.

I think its sad your husband does that...If it were my husband Id be telling him where to stick that opinion!

Adrienne - posted on 08/16/2009

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I actually had another stay-home mom of multiple kids criticize me as a stay-home mom of an only child. What she didn't consider was my child is autistic. It was almost discouraging until I considered the source. Let's just say she's got issues! Anywho, I've gotten over the criticisms from so many directions: people w/o kids having all sorts of suggestions, professionals w/ expensive ideas, & even my own relatives in denial of my son's diagnosis. I had him at 37 after trying for 6 years. I'm thankful to have him (w/o any medical assistance). No one can take the joy of motherhood away from me (not even hubby) because I've come to far by much faith! Hubby knows this & knows he better think twice before implying his job is harder or more challenging than full-time parenting.

Adrienne - posted on 08/16/2009

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I'm looking at the date & wondering if he's still alive? (LOL) I haven't read anyone else's comments, but I'm sure other mother's have said this repeatedly. Being a parent is not being a babysitter. Your husband is STILL a father. I don't understand why parents behave like they're babysitting for their spouses & opting out on parenting their kids. Gently remind your husband his job (no matter how many hours) is part-time while being a Father is full-time (even while at work). He's also a full-time husband & your a full-time wife. The only OTHER thing that should come ahead is God...& I don't mean church! If you need more explanation on that, feel free to request.

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