bed time? what time?

Gemma - posted on 01/31/2011 ( 76 moms have responded )

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hi all, my daughter is almost 1 year old. she has one nap in the afternoon. but is always ready for bed by about 6.30pm (which i think is too early) she tends to wake in the night between 12 and 3am. ive tried keeping her up a little later but she just gets over tired and grumpy. and ive tried letting her have another nap at six but then she's up till late b4 i can get her to settle for the night......so i was just wondering what bedtimes work for you?

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Andrea - posted on 03/26/2011

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My DD 7 months is in bed by 6:30 every night, and DS 5 years is in bed by 7.

Any later and they get tired and cranky by the end of the week.

Renae - posted on 02/01/2011

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Most babies transition from 2 naps to 1 nap between 14 and 16 months, however anywhere from 12 to 18 months is normal. Your daughter may have gone to 1 nap a bit too early.



It is unlikely, with most certainty, that her bedtime has anything to do with her night waking. There is no way that making her bedtime later will help her night waking, if anything it will make it worse if she becomes overtired.



A normal bedtime for a 12 month old is 7pm, so she isn't really going to bed that early, only half an hour earlier than normal. Bedtime usually stays at around 7pm until they are about 3, when it can sometimes become 7.30 or 8pm.



Her night waking is not out of the ordinary and if its only once I recommend you just wait for her to grow out of it. Some babies continue to wake once a night between 11pm and 3am until 18 months.

Alicia - posted on 01/31/2011

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my daughter is almost 18 months she goes to bed around 930. i dont believe in bed times until they have to go to school. it seems silly to force her to go to bed if shes perfectly content. she wakes up around 830-9. somtimes a little later. naps just once from about 2-4. :) shes a good sleeper.

Heather - posted on 02/07/2011

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When my daughter was 1, she was still taking 2 naps. She didn't go to one nap until about a year and a half. She's gone to bed at 7:00/7:30 for a long time and now wakes at 7:30. Could you try having her take a little morning nap, then an afternoon nap? You could then try putting her to sleep a little later, and she may sleep more soundly at night if she's had more day sleep.

Candi - posted on 02/03/2011

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from birth, my kids have always gone to bed at 9pm. No matter when they napped or how long they napped, they were ready for bed at 9. Now they are 12, 10, and 5 so they no longer nap, but they still go to bed at 9pm.

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Jennifer - posted on 11/28/2012

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I think every child is different & sleeps only as much as they need to. Our son used to have a later bedtime, but he was getting so tired by the 5 o'clock hour that we started putting him to bed by 6 or 6:30pm. He sleeps until at least 6:30am, but usually gets up between 7 & 8am. He takes two naps a day, one around 10:30am & the other around 2pm. He naps for at least an hour at a time, but lately has been sleeping longer.

Nicole - posted on 06/27/2011

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My daughter is 28 mon and I give her a nap at like 1:00/1:30 - 2:30/3:00 and she gets put down at 9:30 and she goes to bed w.o a prob and she norm wakes up about 8:30... but I think it depends on the kid

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 03/26/2011

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All 3 of my kids (4,2 and 1) are in bed at 7.30. That seems tobwork for us. My 1yr old had the same problem as your daughter a month or so ago. he also was going to bed at 6.30. But one night he had a huge dinner a bath with his brother and sister and was following me around getting the older to in their pjs and etc that he stayed up til 7.30. Ever since then thats been his time.

Sonja - posted on 02/17/2011

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I've had my daughter on an afternoon nap schedule. She's up by 9 in the morning, nap is at 2 and goes to bed at 10pm. Sometimes she skips her naps (if we're out and about) and sometimes she goes to bed at 9pm. Every so often she'll wake up anywhere between 7:30-9:00am, but mostly is consistent with her sleeping schedule. It just took a lot of practice and a lot of time of her crying in her room before she understood that it was bed-time. For a while she'd wake up at any given time in the morning (11am being the latest), but now she's leveled off with the aforementioned schedule. :) I'll put my daughter down at her nap time even if she doesn't act tired, telling her that it's nap time and I love her. If she doesn't sleep, then at least I know she'll sleep all night! Sometimes she wakes up in the middle of the night and wants to climb in bed with her parents, but that's not an every-night occurrence now.

Alyce - posted on 02/13/2011

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My 8-month-old usually takes a short morning nap at about 11 for anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour. Then we take a longer nap together in the afternoon from about 2 or 3 p.m. for about 1 1/2 or 2 hours. I nap with him, because even though I'm a stay-at-home mom, I work in the evenings doing transcription work, when my husband takes over. I've found that he takes longer naps when I lie down with him, so if you're tired in the afternoon, maybe you can lie down with her and she might sleep longer. Typically in the night, he goes to bed around 9:30 but wakes up two or three times throughout the night.

Elizabeth - posted on 02/12/2011

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My daughter just turned one and she is almost sleeping through the night... as for the nap time bed time thing:
She still takes two (sometimes three) naps a day! It all depends on when she wakes up in the morning. We put her down for bed time at 9pm though. Any earlier and she would never get anything like a schedule. If she wakes at 7am then she goes for a nap around 10ish, then again around 2 or 3 and again around 5 or 6pm

If she sleeps in til 9 then she takes a nap around 11 or noon and then again around 5 or 6... sometimes not until 7pm, but I can almost always get her back to bed by 9pm.

If you have a routine and try to slowly push it back by 15 minutes every other night you might be able to work it. We travel a lot and believe me they will pick up on a new schedule, but you have to be consistent.
For my girl she has to have a story if you want to try to put her down a little early, it works even better with a bath and story, but to get her to a later sleeping time, I would try to get her to nap earlier (4 or 5) and wake her up after an hour or two. If you do that for a few days her body might naturally align with your new time schedule. But if you do try to change her schedule make sure you are doing a routine... it makes it SO MUCH EASIER. Once I figured out my daughter just wanted to read a book bed time became a breeze and thus I can manipulate her bed time here and there and still get her to sleep.

Ashley - posted on 02/11/2011

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my 5 month old is in bed by 8:30 and sleeps all night till 8 am. my oldest son 22 months he is in bed by 9:30 and he will sleep all night and wake up about 9am.

Emily - posted on 02/10/2011

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My 12 month old daughter is a good sleeper, always has been. My 2.5 year old is a different story. My 12 month olds sleep routine is:
6:30am wake-up
8:30 - 10:30am sleep time
1 - 2:30pm sleep time
6:30pm Bedtime (sometimes 7)
She sleeps for about 12 hrs at night with 3-4 hrs during the day. 6:30 is a great time for kids to go to bed. My 2.5 year old had the same routine at the same age, it worked well for her too.

Laura - posted on 02/09/2011

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My daughter has a 2 hour nap in the afternoon and goes to bed between 7-8pm. She sleeps through the night since 2 months old (13months now) and gets up around 8am. I think the routine of it all is very helpful for her.

Bobbie - posted on 02/09/2011

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Hey, I agree with most moms out there. Its pretty typical wanting to go to bed at 6:30pm. Routine is the key!
My son is 17 months and not on the bottle. He wakes between 7:30-8:30, naps between 12-1 and sleeps no longer than 2 hours.
Then after dinner at 5pm it's bath time then between 6:30pm and 7:00pm he's in bed. He wakes up in the middle of the night just to roll over and get comfy again
If we keep him up after that time( visiting relatives), he is a little grouchy but he goes to sleep right away when we get home.

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I'm a little bit of a night owl and I've been going to school so my baby girls bed time is 930, which I feel is a later bed time than most. It fits my schedule which your child's bedtime should do for you.

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my son is 14 months and he still has 2 naps a day, one around 10am for a little while then another in afternoon between 1-3 pm, he then has dinner at 6.30 with us so that we eat togeather and startes getting ready fir bed at 8pm and having his last bottle at 8.30 he sleeps till 7-7.30am he may stir once or twice through night mostly when sick or teething. i have kept to this routine of bedtime since he was tiny and he knows what happens everynight bath massage story bottle bed. it also gives time for my husband to spend some time wid his little man. and me and hubby still get time togeather as well.

Karma - posted on 02/08/2011

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Believe me i would be happy if our child went to bed before midnight.. just so when i finally do take the time to relax it is not at 1am....
I personally think if the child is happy with the time they go to bed and they are getting a good sleep then let them enjoy it

Jessica - posted on 02/08/2011

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My 15 month old naps from 11am to 1pm and then 530 to 630 pm and he sleeps from 930pm to 8am waking one time in the middle of the night for a bottle.

Trisha - posted on 02/08/2011

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My youngest son is 1, and what i did was make his nap time alil later, hes an earlier riser and for awhile was geting up at 5am so it runined the routine but hes back to normall to a 7am or 8am morring so he makes it till 11-11-30. i always give him lunch before his nap it helps him sleep better, and he sleeps *normally* till 3 or 3:30, my oldest was like this too. So he always stays up till atleast 7 730. its rare he makes it till 8. i think its all in the nap time and how long they nap for, theres days where he only naps 2hours and those days are the days he really wants to go to bed at 6 630 which is defently to early because then hes up at 5am.But i just try to work with him and when hes ready to sleep, we stoped two naps before he was one he was just more cranky with two :S

Merissa - posted on 02/07/2011

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my babies wake up between 7:30 and 9:00, they both take a nap between breakfast and lunch and sometimes they take one after lunch.. and then they are in bed at about 9:30

Jessica - posted on 02/07/2011

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My daughter who is also 1 can go to sleep anywhere between 8 and 11... Like another poster, I dont believe in bed times when you aren't in school. And i dont believe in just putting a baby in a crib at 8 because thats bedtime. If she is content and not screaming or tired, why force her to sleep?

Alicia - posted on 02/07/2011

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i have a 6 mth old daughter and we have had her on the same routine since she was born pretty much. now that shes eating solids we just added it into the routine. at 6 pm she eats dinner then plays till 7, at 7 she gets a bath then we get her lotioned up and all that good stuff. i then breastfeed her and she usually falls asleep on the boob. she might wake up once or twice at night for a comfort feeding then she wakes up anywhere between 830am and 930am. she usually takes atleast 2-3 naps during the day also.

Jenn - posted on 02/07/2011

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Holy crap Jennifer - your 2 1/2 year old son is only awake for like 6 hours a day?!?

Jenn - posted on 02/07/2011

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My son is 5 and does not nap, and my 2 year old twin daughters nap for 2-3 hours a day. They all go to bed at 7:30pm and sleep until 6am-8am (just depends on the day and how tired they are I guess)

Tracy - posted on 02/07/2011

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Hi Gemma,
My daughter just turned 1 she goes to bed between 7:30 - 8:00 pm when she finishes her her last bottle. She sleeps until 7:30 the next morning when I wake up my other three kids. Some times she have a morning nap, but mostly naps in the afternoon from 2:00 to 3:30. Good Luck I hope this helps..

Jennifer - posted on 02/06/2011

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My son is 2 1/2 and he is in bed by 8pm, wakes up around 9-10am, and takes a nap from 2pm-6pm.

Katie - posted on 02/05/2011

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@ Jessica.
Wow, our kids are very similar! My Son is 14 months old too and is on an almost identical schedule!
Lmao.

Katie - posted on 02/05/2011

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I have a 1 yr old and he still takes two naps during the day. He all but asks for two himself! He gets really tired and ornery and starts rubbing his eyes. Maybe trying two would help, but make them earlier in the day so that bedtime isn't midnight! Lol. My Son has his between breakfast and lunch. And lunch and dinner. Hopefully you're getting some ideas!

Jessica - posted on 02/04/2011

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My 14 month old takes 1 long nap, or 2 short naps a day. Normally the first is 11:00-1:00 and the second is 4:00-5:30. Either that, or she'll just take a long nap, from about 11:30-3:00. Then she is ready for bed by 8:30-9:00. She normally sleeps all night, and gets up about 7:30 in the morning. We didn't really set this as a routine, its just really obvious when she's tired...and she LIKES to go to bed at night.

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My daughter is 14 months old and her bedtime is 6pm. She's actually kind of funny about it now. She'll go to her room at 6 and try to climb into her crib.

She'll sometimes wake up in the night around 11pm or so. But she'll cry out for maybe a minute at most and fall back asleep.

At the same time my daughter gets up at 7-7:30 every morning. So going to bed early isn't really a problem.

Becky - posted on 02/04/2011

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My 1yr old is in bed at 630-7 every night. I love it because it then gives me an hour to spend with my oldest (3 1/2) who goes to bed 730-8 then two hours after that to spend with my hubby.. When you say she wakes, is she up or is she just waking for a bottle or comfort? my 1 yr old still wakes twice a night but that is because she knows I will come to here to calm her down.

Katelyn - posted on 02/03/2011

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I'm probably not going to be much help with this. When we first brought my son home he was on an 11pm-3am then after his bottle he'd go back to sleep 4-8ish...at 4-5wks he started sleeping 11pm-11am so each week i would start putting him down an hour earlier until he was on and 8p-8a schedule...He's been on that schedule ever since...not that every once in a while he wants to stay up later (still wound up), or he is at grammas (he won't nap/sleep anywhere but home. He's 17 months now. He'll take a 2 hour nap at some point through out the day. As long as he wake up before 645, he will go back to bed at 8 and sleep all night.

The 8-8 schedule worked best for my fiance and myself because it gives us a little time before bed to have for just us. Also we both take classes so this allows us to have time to do our homework as well.

Katie - posted on 02/03/2011

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We go back and forth with bed times, which will change in the fall when all three kids will be in school. I have a soon to be 5 year old who goes to preschool 3 days a week and then I have twin 3 year olds who don't go to school. So on some days the boys will not nap and they will go to bed anywhere between 830-930. If they do take a nap they seem to want one later in the evening like 5ish so I wont let them sleep that long, but then they dont go to bed until after midnight. I am a night owl so this doesnt bother me that much. I like to have my nights quite though. I catch up on my shows usually.

On the nights that they go to bed late they don't wake up until 9 or10, this morning it was 11, which being a night owl I love!

Next year we will be doing no naps and definetly be having early bed time at least for the older one who will be in all day kindergarten.

Betty - posted on 02/03/2011

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my daughter used to do the same thing. I got her to a point of going to bed between 7 and 8. It seems to work out well. I started making sure her nap was around 2pm and she would sleep for about two hours then when she woke up i would give her a snack and let her play. Then she would have dinner by 6pm. After that she would play a little while longer then bath time, a story then bed. she still has that nightly process to this day and she is almost 2.

Zoe - posted on 02/03/2011

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wow, i dident know kids could stay awake so late, my littel girl went to bed at 6pm tell she was 3 then it went up to 7pm and thats in bed all done and me doing whatever. R has almost always sleep all night till 8am some days. all kids are different but why keep em up if they want to sleep.

Charity - posted on 02/03/2011

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My 9month old goes to bed at 8:30pm and sleeps untill 6:00am. He shares a room with my 4 year old who goes to bed at 8:00pm. We wake up everyday at 6:00am even on the weekends (they are little my little alarm clocks). My 9month old still takes 2 naps a day, the first from 9-10:30am and the second from 1:30-3:30, so by the time 8pm rolls around he is ready for a bottle,some snuggle time then bed.

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When this happened with us we had a set "quiet time" in our house from 12:30 to 2pm each day. My daughters had to be in their rooms playing quietly or sleeping. However, bed time has ALWAYS been between 7:30 and 8:30 every night. Yes we have the occasional late night of 9 or even 10pm but not often.

Tiffany - posted on 02/03/2011

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Every child is different. I know my daughter from 1yrs old on only took 1 nap a day and it was usually after lunch time. Basically it was just trial and error with her to see what worked best for her nap and ultimately we came to the conclusion that in order for her to sleep through the night we laid her down by 8pm every night. Now her nap couldn't be any longer than 2hrs or she would wake up super early in the morning or would have a hard time falling asleep at night. To this day and she's 2 now, she still does this routine. Granted now sometimes she naps and sometimes she doesn't at all. But at least she's offered a nap after lunch every day! Hope you find what works best for you!

Khadijah - posted on 02/03/2011

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My girls are now 2 years old and are in bed by 8:30pm-9pm every night with one nap at 2:30pm. However, when they were 12 months they were in bed by 7:30-8pm with two naps.....one nap at 11am and another at 3 or 4pm.

A - posted on 02/03/2011

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I need help with this too- our 1 year old takes two naps during the day. Around 10:30am-noon & 3-4:30 (this varies wildly) and then is awake until we go to bed, which is often earlier than we'd prefer just to get him to sleep. 10ish if he's happy & active, 9 if he's a grump. I'd like to get him to bed at 7, but we refuse to let him "cry-it-out", so for now... this works best for us.

Nicole - posted on 02/03/2011

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between 6-8pm depending on when he took his afternoon nap and wether his father is working late or home on time - John is not a happy baby if he did not see his daddy the previous night for a few hours xx

Drea - posted on 02/02/2011

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I think a bedtime around 7:15-7:30pm is appropriate. To avoid the crankiness I suggest moving back bedtime only about 15mins every few days or so until you reach a later time. Then hopfully you can at least sleep until 5am! *fingers crossed!*

Sarah - posted on 02/02/2011

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My daughter (now 14 months) settled herself into a 6.30-7pm bedtime when she was about 2 months old and its stayed ever since. 7 at the latest but if she only has a short nap or a really busy day she will be out by 6.30. She wakes up between 6 and 7 the next morning, sometimes as late as 7.30am. She naps around 12 for 1-2 hours. She stopped nightfeeding/waking in the night at 9 months. What does your lo do when they wake at night? Is it for food?

Tamara - posted on 02/02/2011

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We put our 3 1/2 year old and 2 year old down between 8 and 8:30. They also nap around 2:00pm everyday for about 2- 2 1/2 hours. However, we have had these routines for some time now. You will be hard-pressed to change up your routine, but with time and patience...you can do it. I've read in the past that if you want to change a bedtime, you'll need to do it slowly, in 15-minute increments. Determine the average amount of nighttime sleep your daughter needs. Think of a reasonable wake time for her. Then back up the hours to her new bedtime. For instance, if she normally sleeps 11 hours at night, and you would prefer her to wake at 7:30am, then 8:30pm should be her bed time. Slowly, you will shift the naptime and bedtime 15 minutes later than what you have been. Once the child grasps this routine and becomes comfortable, step it up another 15 minutes. I've never had to do this, so I do not know how long it should take or how difficult it will be. Take your time. And I hope it works for you!

Ayla - posted on 02/02/2011

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My 17 month old goes to bed at 8PM every night since she was 6 months old recently for the past month she's been sleeping in until 9:30AM which is sooo nice! She down to one nap during the day now which she takes from 12-1:30.

Allie - posted on 02/02/2011

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My son took two naps until he was about 11 months. He would go to bed at 8 sleep all night and wake up at 7-730 in the morning then have his first nap around 930. We'd play and eat lunch then he would take his second nap from 2-3. (I never let him sleep more than 1 hr per nap) Then we would do supper, bath, books, bed by 8. He's 2.5 now and may or may not take a nap, but he still has quiet time around 2. He doesn't have to sleep but he has to play quietly in his bedroom for at least 45mins. He still goes to bed no later than 830.



Honestly, time change is around March 13th so I would just wait.... because come March it'll be 730 when she's going to bed : )



Good luck! And remember that routine is EVERYTHING.

Nicole - posted on 02/02/2011

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I have an almost 8 month old daughter. It sounds crazy but her bedtime is between 930 and 10pm. We have tried earlier but she ALWAYS wakes again in the middle of the night. We have managed to get her in a nap later in the day though and that usually works.

Good luck!

Deana M. - posted on 02/02/2011

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I have a 17 month old girl. She normally naps for close to 2 hrs after linch time (usually from about 12-2) and then shes ready to go to bed between 7 and 8 depending on whether she actuall napped for 2 hrs or not.

Pam - posted on 02/02/2011

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I believe 6:30 is to early to. But if she's ready i wouldn't deny her. If she does wake up way to early, try the night before playing with her, doing some things that can keep her mind off sleep for a while. I know it sounds a little harsh, but my daughter did the same thing, and it worked for me. It lasted till about 8:00. I felt that was a decent time, and stuck to it till she became use to it.Now 8:00 is what time she goes down all the time. No fuss no muss. She also would wake around 7:00- 8:00. Still a very early riser. Now that she's in school, still same bedtime, but wakes around 6:30 every morning so there is enough time to get ready. I hope all this helps.

Alexis - posted on 02/02/2011

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my son goes to bed at 8pm and wakes anytime between 6-8am. He takes a 3hr nap starting anytime between noon and 3. He has always been easy to adjust sleep times whenever we needed to.

Elise - posted on 02/01/2011

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oh and i also have a 11 week old son who sleeps from 7pm til 1am wakes for a feed then sleeps til 5:30/6am and naps from 12 noon til about 4 pm.

Elise - posted on 02/01/2011

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my daughter is 2 and goes to bed between 7 and 7:30, wakes up at 6 am and has a nap from 2 til 4 nearly every day. i seem to recal when she was about one she would sleep from 6pm til 6am and nap from 10am til 1pm. i found at that age when she woke in the middle of the night it was because she was thursty. i would offer her a drink of water in a sippy cup, never milk and put her straight back to bed. she soon learnt mummy wasnt stuffing about and just started sleeping right through.

Tiziana - posted on 02/01/2011

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Hi my son is almost 14 months.He is up around 8 in the morning and then takes a nap after lunch from noon to 2 usually. At night I used to try to put him to bed early but he would just fight it so I just started looking for signs that he was tired and it's usually around 9 every night (apart from tonight that by 8 he was ready for bed). He rarely sleeps thru the night, he used to wake up for a bottle up to a couple of weeks ago, once he started eating more table food he stopped wanting a bottle, so when he wakes up now its either cause he is teething or has a bad dream or wants to come into our bed. 2 nights ago was the first night he slept thru from 9 to 7 and of course I'm so used to waking up that I didnt sleep thru anyway :)

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