Birthday frustations

Erica - posted on 04/08/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )




My daughter is the 2nd youngest child of 6 on my husbands side of the family. Her first birthday is coming up this month and we are super excited! My husband has 6 brothers 5 of the 7 are married including my husband.

his sister-in-law came over for a visit today her husband works in Kuwait as a military contractor and is coming home this month for a 3 week visit. Well there was confusion on when he was coming home and SIL was talking about how all the boys got excited that it was suppose to be on my nephew's bday party day b/c they wouldn't have to go to the party and they could take a road trip to pick up my BIL from the airport. When she gave me the date I realized they were actually talking about my daughter's birthday! She is our 1st child and we don't agree with big bday parties every year but my husband's SIL does a big thing EVERY year.

I feel like my daughter is being punished b/c of all the bday parties held for my nephew. Not only am I upset but I'm hurt!!! should I confront my husband about this our just let it go and quietly be angry....


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Emma - posted on 04/09/2010




We treat birthdays as very special days in our house my hubby will book off work and we have a day where my son or daughter get do do what they want, we play dolls and all sorts of games ect have a cake ect and things but its just the four of us. No house work we pay 100% attention to the birthday boy or girl my kids are 2 and 3 and they love it and if they still like it when they are at school age well they can stay home on there birthday. We are not Christmas people so this is the day we like to celebrate

Kristin - posted on 04/08/2010




Talk to your husband about this. You two should work together to come up with a solution for this.

Erika - posted on 04/08/2010




I LOVE Birthday Parties. My son has had a party for each birthday, and my daughter just had her 1st party in February. I think 1st Birthday's are very important. Not only is she turning one, but it's a huge celebration for your Husband and yourself. I think you should tell your Hubby how you feel, and the two of you will figure something out.

Best Wishes!


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