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Rhona - posted on 04/11/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hi all, am called Rhona.I stay in morning side.I am a stay at home mom.I have a 5month baby girl.sometimes i get tired of playing and singing all the baby songs, I feel I need a get away from home for a cup of tea or to talk with other moms.anyone out there who feels the same?? Or any advice u can offer.
Thanks
Rhona

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Stephanie - posted on 04/15/2013

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Rhona,
Hi there ...first of all congrats on your baby girl. What a blessing. I have been a SAHM for nearly five years to my two young girls. I can relate. I live in Midwestern climate and the winters are tough. For me ...I am always on a strict budget as a SAHM ...so mall walking was silly for me...as it created wants I couldn't afford. Nice for a play area though. Just bring your own coffee...and hand sanitizer. : )
This is what helped me. I joined my local YMCA...very low cost (or all Ys have scholarships avail) and free childcare for up to two hours while you work out and meet other mommies and women to relate. The Ys also offer many events that are free throughout the year. For instance a free egg hunt for Easter. So great to meet people. It was cold so they held it in the gym. Also the Y offers infant and toddler preschool programs as children get bigger. Swimming : 0 I would get into the warm indoor pool with my girls and still do ...it is great and feels tropical and most children enjoy the water and mommy and me time.
In addition I go to a story time once a week for free at our local library. It is for infants though kindergarten and it is a great place to get out and meet other mommies and women. There is a separate children's room so the kids don't have to be hush hush...they get to play and sing songs for "story time" . Also creates a child that has a love for books.
Do you have any local state parks or forest centers? ...Ours in Nebraska has an indoor ball pit ...climbing area (winter time) ...as your child ages....this is a great place to get outside and inside.....in for low cost 40.00 USD a year maybe for a year round pass. Our local forest center has an infant/preschool program three days a week and yearly pass in 85.00 . Or 2 dollars per session. Again another great mommy and me time thing and you will meet more mommies.
We also have local Kids Gyms/bounce houses....I think a dollar for infant and a dollar for mommy. Another great place to have your child interact....watch the older kids...and have tummy time and climb as she ages. You again will meet moms. Also Gymboree ...offers programs for infants and so does Kinder music...Google it in your area.
The local zoo (get a pass) is another great resource. In the winter do all the indoor exhibits...babies are content to watch fishes swim on by....when we couldn't afford a zoo pass....Cabelas and or Bass pro....to look at aquarium and all the stuffed animals was a treat.
Go to parks ( pack lunch for yourself) you will meet like minded mommies there.
Call local nursing homes and senior centers...ours has a program every Friday geared for SAHM and children of all ages to interact with our "grandfriends."
If you are still in touch with people you used to work with? Pack that baby girl of yours up and meet a co-worker for lunch. It gives you adult conversation. It is brief and reminds you that you are still part of the bigger scheme of things. Being at home can be very isolating...I understand perfectly. The key is to engage yourself with other people so you in essence still feel like a part of society...not just a baby caregiver.
If you belong to a local church there is always mommy groups available....ours has one that offers childcare during bible study and during mothers events. Which happen one Friday per month.
If you search online there is usually a moms meetup or club local to your area and most have a meetup and or activity going on daily. It is a low fee and low membership.
Hope some of these ideas help.
On a side note with my first child I went on Vistaprint and made myself "mommy cards" ...phone number email..name of my kid...you exchange these with other moms you meet to set up playdates. Much like business cards for moms.
Again congrats and get out there sister....the boredom will ease as baby gets bigger and interacts with other kiddos and you find your social mommy groove. : )

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Jessica - posted on 04/19/2013

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I think every stay at home mom knows that feeling. I have a 4 year old boy and almost 7 month old girl. It can get annoying be home with them all day. Feel free to message me any time :)

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Hi Rhona! My name is Tasha. I reside in the middle of America. I feel the same way. My baby girl and husband are the only ones that I really communicate with some times. If you ever want to drop me a line, feel free. I hope that helps!

Ami - posted on 04/15/2013

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Thanks for the ideas Stephanie, Rhona I think as you may be able to see this can be a frustrating and lonely time however you are far from alone in this. There are women and men all over the world feeling the same way. I will be completely honest I have two teenage stepchildren and I had an honest talk with them about whether they would have liked to have had their mom home or get all the stuff they have (and they have it all, nice cloths, ipods, laptops, cars, cell phones, four wheelers you name it and when they break something it is replaced no questions asked). Well being a stay at home mom you give up money for time and they said hands down they would give up everything they have to get the kind of time and attention that my daughter gets. So it may feel like this is the longest hardest time right now, but it is so worth it.

Delilah - posted on 04/14/2013

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During our wintertime I was at the mall a lot .our movie theatre on Mondays has a mommy and me movie day at the movies .mYbe your city has something similar ?

Ami - posted on 04/14/2013

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I too feel the winter blues and feel the need for adult company. There are several things I can suggest (please understand I don't always take my own advice). You might contact the city or town you live in and see if they take volunteers to stuff envelopes there are often several ladies there that do it and that way you can take your baby and talk while you do it. Nonprofits often look for this type of volunteers also. Maybe just go to a local coffee house, or the mall. Maybe even take the incentive of starting your own "mommy" group advertise it online or at the local doctors office or OB's, or just go visit an old folks home. If you're like our family where we only have one car try explaining how hard it is on you to your partner and see if there is a way to get the vehicle once or twice a week. Good luck!

Rhona - posted on 04/14/2013

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Thankyou Delilah.I do walking too but now winter has come in and seem to have nothing else to do. Any winter activities?

Delilah - posted on 04/13/2013

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I am also a new mommy and also stay at home as well .i feel the same way lately I just go for a walking seems to help.

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