Boyfriend Help!

Sheena - posted on 01/04/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )

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We had our daughter almost 2 years ago and We had a very rocky road since then. I went through a very rough post partum depression along with being depressed as it was and being diagnosed with bi polar. My family just made things worse we ended up moving in with his aunt because things were just so bad at my moms. He ended up leaving me and i moved back to my moms. We were trying to work things out at least i had thought so but when it came down to it he admitted he had slept with someone else in that time we were not living together,now it hurts yes but I'm working on moving past that now we have our own little place but the thing is i work and so does he but he expects me to clean,cook,laundry everything and i get it I'm the woman of the house but i don't think its fair. He says he just wants me to clean up after myself but thats not even it cis if he leaves a mess i still get scolded by him. He constantly is putting me down about it,and that i need to loose weight. he says he just wants me to be healthy but i feel like I'm just not good enough for him,Even when i clean it not enough,I'm always wrong,I'm always unhealthy to him. it feels like he just wants the woman he cheated on me with back. Im sorry I'm not a skinny cooking student that has her own car and can hold down 2 jobs. I love him but I'm starting to feel like i should just leave with my daughter and let him do what he wants.AM i over reacting?

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Michelle - posted on 01/05/2014

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No one deserves to be treated like that by someone who "loves" them. If he truly loves you then would love you for who you are, not try and change you.
You would be better off without him because he is slowly lowering your self esteem and it's so hard to build it up again.
My ex was like that, I was never good enough and it has taken me years to get my self confidence back and realize I deserve to be happy.
The man in my life now loves me for who I am. He never says I should lose weight or that I don't clean enough. He also helps out with the housework. He does the dishes, his and the kids laundry and general tidy ups.
Just because you are a woman doesn't mean you have to do everything.

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