Brothers and Sisters sharing rooms

Lesley - posted on 10/31/2008 ( 11 moms have responded )

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Hi. As my husband and I have been discussing adding a third child to our family the issue of bedrooms has come up. Right now our best option seems to be to let our daughter and son share a room at least until the baby can sleep through the night and then the baby go into the room with the other child of the same gender. The baby cannot sleep in the same room as us because we are both really light sleepers and wake to each little sound a new baby makes. We also don't want to inhibit my son and daughter from sleeping so we figured the best option would be to put them in the same room. They are 3.5 and 5. Is this ok ? What do you think?

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My 5 year old daughter and 4 year old son have been sharing a room ever since he transitioned to a big bed at about 18 months. It has worked out really well for us thus far. I think sharing a room gives kids that extra security they sometimes require. Both of the kids are really good about going to bed at night, so that helps the situation. The only challenge we encountered was nap time. It was difficult (imopossible!) for them to nap in the same room together because they would just play. We ended up putting one of them in our bed to take naps. We also have a third child now (a girl) but I don't plan on moving her in with her older sister. Good luck!

Jenifer - posted on 11/01/2008

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I think sharing a room is a Great idea! I only have two children myself, but plan on having my kids share rooms when the time comes, even if they can have their own room (right now, we wouldn't have the room to give them their own room either). :o) I come from a family of four though. . .three girls and one brother. My youngest sister and my brother shared a room until my brother was four and my brother three I think. . .maybe even longer. I wasn't so much older myself to rememeber how old everyone was. . .But, that being said, they are Very good friends. My other sister and I shared a room as well, and have always been Very close. I would definitely say a lot of that is because we were made to get along because we shared a room. My parents have the room in their home where we all could have had a separate room, but they felt that we would all be closer if we shared. And we are! So. . .with all that being said. . .let the brother and sister share a room!! I think they will be all the better for it. Oh, I will say, I think that my parents switched my little sister out of my brothers room when they started being curious about the opposite sex. . .you know, started to ask questions. . .and have boyfriends/girlfriends (the kinda not real ones that kids do when they're young). Hope this is helpful! :o)

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Mary1959 - posted on 04/17/2011

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my 2 does not have problem knowing the difference between boy and girl
my 2 are b8 g9, they do not want there own room

Mary1959 - posted on 04/11/2011

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my son and daughter are 8 and 9. they know the difference
between the in there body. but they do not care.
they have respect for each other

Dionne - posted on 04/11/2011

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Something else I remembered was my great grandparents had 14 children. they all slept upstairs, 7 beds x 2 rows. They did not even have a choice of sleeping in their own rooms they shared with the rest of the kids.

Dionne - posted on 04/11/2011

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We only have a two and a half bedroom home. Our older two one boy one girl shared a room until they started showing signs of being opposite gender. Then we had to seperate them. I think as long as they are not noticing the gender differences it is fine. We wound up having two more kids and we had three in one room and one inthe other room. We would switch them once a year so they each had an opportunity to have their own room. The younger two are still young enough where we don't have the gender issue yet. One has since moved out so we are down to three kids. The older kid was given the choice of sharing his room or taking the half bedroom. He took the half bedroom so the other two share for now.

Lesley - posted on 11/03/2008

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Thanks everyone! In my heart I figured it was ok but I'm an only child and these brother and sister things stump me sometimes!!

User - posted on 11/02/2008

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We have four kids (two years between each kid) and two bedrooms to put them in. When we had two kids, (a girl and a boy) they each had their own room. Baby number three was a girl and we moved the older two in together and the baby got her own room. They did fine. When baby four (a boy)came along, we crammed the first three in the same room until the baby was sleeping five or so hours at a time. Then we moved our older boy in with the baby. It's worked out just fine, and occasionally, we've switched kids back and forth in bedrooms and they think it's great. At this point, the kids are all young enough that neither gender has a big need for privacy, but as they get older, we'll probably stick with same gender in the same room. Our oldest daughter is by nature a solitary personality, and when she needs down time away from the other kids, we designate her room as "sanctuary" and the other kids aren't allowed in for a designated period of time.

Krysta - posted on 10/31/2008

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I think this just has to be a judgement call on your part as a parent. I have a close friend who has an almost 6 year old boy and 4 year old girl. Her kids have been sharing a room since the baby girl was old enough to sleep in a toddler bed. She has never had any problems with the situation at all! Put a baby monitor in the room for a bit to see how thing go. If it works great, if not; then move on to Plan B. We have a three bedroom home and if I hadn't of had three boys, they would have been sharing rooms with their sister for a while. We'd of had to make it work...at least to try! Best of luck. I bet it'll be okay!

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