Burnt Out

Kristina - posted on 08/27/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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First, don't get me wrong, I love my kids, and I love staying home with them. But, I am completely burnt out. I have four kids, 5, 4, 2, and 2 months. I don't have a spare second in the day, or night for that matter. Their daddy works, but when he is at home he's not much help. I have two in school, one since it's preschool i have to drive her every morning. My day is typically get up at 6:30, MAYBE grab a cup of coffee, get son up and ready for school, get daughter up and ready for school, watch son to bus stop and wait for bus and him to get on, drive daughter to school, spend half an hour convincing her the world is not going to end, give hugs and kisses, come home (7:30ish now) get 2 year old son up, give him breakfast, feed baby, play with 2yo and baby, do dishes, wipe table, sweep floor, odd jobs and chores, feed 2yo lunch, baby, 2 yo nap, convince him the world is not going to end because he is in bed, baby, chores, dishes, wipe table, sweep, find sometime to make for diner, baby, baby baby, get older kids from bus stop while toting 2 younger ones, bring them home, help oldest with homework, convince 4yo the world will not end because she doesn't have homework yet, make kids a snack, send them outside to play, break up about 120954784329 fights between them, baby cook dinner, baby, 2 yo, baby, feed children dinner, dishes, wipe table, sweep floor, clean hands and faces. baby, bath time, baby, 2 yo to bed, set older two down for a movie, break up a fight about what movie to watch, settle on a movie, baby, convince two oldest the world will not end because the have to go to bed, fight with them for an hour while they keep getting out of bed for "water" or the "potty" or they need to brush their teeth for the 100000 time. baby, 2 yo wakes up because oldest are awake, baby, finally get 3 off to sleep. baby will now stay awake until at least midnight because she finally gets some peaceful attention from mommy. go to bed, wake up at 3-4ish to feed baby. back up at 6:30 to do it all over again. And this doesn't include, like yesterday, where I had to bake 100 cookies for my daughters school, and today, where my daughter is sick and throwing up all over the place and my husband was suppose to get his paycheck yesterday but "someone" screwed up (HIS BOSS!) and they wont get it until today, so i am stuck at home with no vehicle, a very sick 4 yo and no way to get her to the doctors office. Ugh, Sorry, I am so stressed right now. I love my kids, but i just feel like I need and deserve a little break. Even if it's just an hour where I can go grab a cup of coffee and read a newspaper!! gosh, i don't know how long it's been since i've read the paper. Anyways, just really wanted to vent. Thanks

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Casey - posted on 08/30/2009

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yes, but its good to miss your kids for a couple of hours, makes them appreciate you and you appreciate them more!

Jane - posted on 08/30/2009

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my secret getaway is to go to the CVS or Walgreens and read trashy magazines on the stand or even b'day cards. then i go home. sad, huh?

Kristina - posted on 08/30/2009

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lol, thanks casey! unfortunately, the only relative i have out here is my sister, and she has four kids of her own, and her husband was just sent over seas to Iraq, so she's kinda in the same boat. I definately need to get out on my own sometime without a single kid with me so i can unwind. and i know if i do though, i'll be thinking and missing my kids the whole time!!

Casey - posted on 08/30/2009

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definetly, don't feel bad about asking , get grandparents, aunties, friends, divide up the kids and give them to different people for an afternoon. get out and go window shopping, have a coffee or wine, go to a library skip freely, breathe in and out!

Ursala - posted on 08/27/2009

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Hi! I was getting on here because i was sooooo stressed out with my one son whom i stay home with! But i read your post and i know that i can do this! I hope you get the break you so deeply deserve! Thanks a lot:-)

Kristina - posted on 08/27/2009

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thank you ladies! sometimes i don't think daddies realize how stressful it is to stay home all day with the kids. I remember one time I left and not even an hour later (and we only had three at the time) my hubby called me asking what was taking so long, he was frantic!! and dont get me wrong, he helps, but usually by the time he gets home the kids are in bed (except the baby) and by the time he gets up in the morning 2 are in school. and i am kinda anal, i like things a certain way, and he cleans like a man does, no organization what-so-ever, and i need things organized! anyways, thanks for the encouragment! i really needed it today.

Crystal - posted on 08/27/2009

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If you don't take care of mom you can't take care of your children! Take some time just for you even if it's just 10 minutes a day...I know it sounds impossible but you gotta do it for your own peace of mind. Talk to your hubby and tell him how tired and run down you are and have him watch the kids while you take a bath or sit on your bed and read a magazine....whatever helps you relax. Let him know how important it is to you to recharge your batteries....hey he'd get something out of too...time wih his kids and a little less stressed wife who would be more likely to have alone time with him (if you know what I mean lol). If that works out alright, try and take a couple hours once a week for you, lunch with a friend or a good book in the park. Get a "mommy network" going. Have a friend take your kids for and you return the favor for them. It works! And BTW - your house won't fall down if you don't have it spotless every minute of everyday. If your hubby is still home when you take your daughter to school. Ask him to split that with you....like every other time he gets her up and takes her. Raising kids is a 2 way street even if he works outside the home. Good luck and try to relax!
If all else fails - wine is really good in the morning (just kidding)!

Deanna - posted on 08/27/2009

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I understand how you feel. It's tough when all of them are so close in age. I can relate even though I only have 2 kids and there much older now. My son is almost 13 and my daughter turns 9 tomorrow, but I still have to break up fights and my daughter is still attached at my hip (which I really do love). There's been times where I was just as stressed out as you. It will get easier I promise. If you need someone to talk to feel free email me at dkcarrollholley@hotmail.com.

Christie - posted on 08/27/2009

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Sorry you are so stressed. I am going to be experiencing a small fraction of your stress around this time next year. I have a 1 year old boy and we are going to be (hopefully) having another right about the time he is 2. We just got our son to sleep in his own bed and his own room 3 weeks ago...he's been in our bed up until then, waking up every 2 hours for the last 14 months. Now he only wakes up 2x a night (most of the time). I spend all day with him and every day is like yours...the same thing over and over. My husband does help out though when he gets home he will do most of the baby tending. I have felt burnt out too and some people say I am depressed or hormonal because I have been so easily frustrated for awhile now. I would just love to go out and spend some time with the girlfriends, but we just moved here and we don't know anyone. I feel really selfish though after reading your post because my life isn't nearly as stressful as yours. You absolutely deserve some time for yourself. Do you have family nearby that could babysit for an hour or two?

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