Buying gifts at Christmas...

Emily - posted on 10/21/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




I have a 6 year old boy who lives with me AND I have an 8 year old son who recently just moved in with his father. Up until now it has always been very equal with gifts and the amounts spent on holidays and birthdays. But this year so far with starting my Christmas shopping I am overwhelmed with guilt. It may sound horrible but am I still obligated to spend the same amount on my oldest son although he doesn't live with us anymore? What I mean is, he will be getting presents from his father (spending Christmas Day with him) and then presents with us on Boxing Day. Am I justified in feeling guilty that so far it looks like my 6 year old (who lives with us) will be getting more gifts than my 8 year old or is it only normal that your child who lives with you gets more things? I don't know if I am explaining myself right or just sound like I am playing favourites.


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Does the father not give the 6 year old any gifts?
In my experience, both parents buy presents for both children whether they live with them or not. So you would buy the same amount for both the 6 and 8 year old, and the father would buy the same amount for both kids as well.

Now, if they have different fathers, and you know the 6 year old will only be getting gifts from you, it would be perfectly acceptable to buy more for the 6 year old since he won't be getting a "second christmas" .

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