can't get along with dad help

Eden - posted on 04/18/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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My baby is alm ist seven weeks n it seems that her dad n I just can't get along. I met him a while back n quit my job n moved 2 hrs away from my town to be with him, then when I got pregnant he bought us a house. Now snice the birth we r just always fighting, he is always getting under my skin n pissing me off n he says thatbis always a bitch n I tell him its casue of his tone n manners to me. We fight so much that I dont feel like I want to be with him over half the time n he has even said a few times stuff about kicking me out n thatb worries me snice I did quit my job n move so long idk what I would do or where I would go n then how I would take care of my daughter, now im just stressed everyday. I thought haveing a baby was supposed to be the happiest time of ur life n he is just making me feel so miserable everyday that Idk even know what to do but just cry. N yea maybe sometimes I am a bitch to him but he justb pushes me too n im sensitive in general n have been especially sensitive snice after the birth. Like tongt he knows i havent napped with her all week n its been a rough week sleeping yet when i got her to sleep tongt instead of me going to sleep with her i get bitch at for an hr, pissed me off so much im just that much more tried now. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, any body else go through a rough patch with daddy.

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Eden - posted on 04/20/2014

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Lack of respect is a huge problem with us. He doesn't really give Mmm e much respect so ic guess my respect for him has decreased. We both love our daughter but a baby is a big thing n I do feel we rushed our relationship a bit. The good news is we both agreed to couples therapy. I aslo feel yhe age ddifference btw us sometimes causes us issues, im 24 n hes 38. But ur right tho a real relationship is a lot of work that I dont think either of us have been putting In the effort, but just like snice the baby came, we were doing just fine during the pregnancy but after my daughter was born its like things changed.

Debby - posted on 04/19/2014

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Eden, if I were in your position, I believe that I would seek out an attorney and find out what your options are, as far as child support. And first of all, if my child's father called me a bitch more than once, that would be it. That tells me that the two of you have very little, if any respect for each other. If you started living together for any other reason than marriage or because you love each other and want to be together, there is a very good possibility that things are not going to go smoothly. Becoming pregnant is not a reason to live together. It is only a temporary solution to a much longer term situation

Do you have a parent or relative who would allow you to live with them? I ask this because being in a toxic relationship is not a good environment to raise a baby. There is enough day to day stress without parents calling each other names and arguing.

If you have no where to go, I would try to get along until you can do research and find out what options you do have. You can apply for housing and food stamps, but if you are able to get a job, you need to feel secure about a place to live and a safe place for your baby. You have many issues, but I think you should have a discussion with your boyfriend, and find out what it is that he really wants. If you can't talk without arguing, then you need to find a counselor and find out exactly why he disrespects you. You deserve unconditional love, just as he does. You may have ended up in the same house just because you had a baby together, but a long term relationship requires a lot of work, patience, and understanding. Without that, I can almost guarantee that life will be rather miserable for everyone concerned.

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