Cat dilemma...

Ashley - posted on 11/12/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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We have two cats. They were both raised since they were kittens, and are four and five years old. We are having trouble in deciding whether to keep them now that we have a baby.

Our son is amost eight months old, and he LOVES the cats. He just thinks petting them is so much fun!

The issue is, how the cats have been acting. One cat goes poop on the floor next to the litter box, even if it is clean. At first it was just if it was dirty, but not since my son was born. Both cats have sprayed in the house (both are neutered), and that is NASTY. They also have been acting up like getting in EVERYTHING, which they didn't do as much before.

I understand that some animals do strange behavior when babies are born because the attention is shifted. But, can it get better? We love our cats, but this is really gross. Luckily (and I use this loosly), they only spray in the room with their litter box, and our son does NOT go in there.

Any ideas how to stop their behavior? Or any other advice?

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Ashley - posted on 11/13/2009

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I'm afraid it will get to that. In no way could I ever accept an aggressive animal to my baby. We rehomed another cat who was getting aggressive. If we had extra money, an outdoor enclosed area would be nice, but my husband is the only one that works. Our cats ar declawed so we can't let them out by themselves.
I hope I can wait longer...
It's hard too since they are pretty independent...and mostly don't want to sit on your lap for long, and they don't play with us, only each other.
Ugh! This is so frustrating!

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Some cats will eventually stop the behavior. The question is, can you wait that long? I think a lot of it has to do with jealously and maybe they are trying to claim their territory thinking that it is being taken over by the baby. Give them more attention and consider making them outdoor cats (if you can). I had to give my cat away because her behavior was only getting worse and when she growled and hissed at my son and tried to bite him I knew that was the end. It broke my heart to lose her but she wasn't happy and that wasn't fair to her.

Ashley - posted on 11/13/2009

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One of our cats hangs around our son, and doesn't mind too much that he is petted/grabbed (supervised closely of course). They are not allowed in his room however since one of our cats is fat and likes to cuddle on faces, so that would be a tragic situation.

Other than the one cat, they don't go up to him while we hold our son...

I hope they change soon, it has been almost eight months of this horrible behavior! My husband wants them gone, but I am still hoping they change.

I haven't heard too many happy endings from other people who have offered advice, so I hope it won't be the same for or cats...

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we have 2 cats.. one rarely came inside after my first.. lol.. the second loved the house, and would sit by me when i nursed, everytime lol it was kind of sweet, but unfortunately recently found out that 2 yr old is allergic so they stay outside the house now

Carol - posted on 11/12/2009

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They will calm down and behave soon. Pet them more and make sure they have some alone time with you or your husband - whomever they usually spent more time with before the baby invasion. We had 3 cats before our oldest was born and they all adopted our son about 5-6 months in. I actually took pictures of it. Before "the day" they'd sniff and get a little close but one day they all just decided he was here to stay. I was reading to the baby on a blanket on the floor and they all just cuddled in around him and stayed calm as the baby grabbed at them. They've been great ever since and we've added one more 2 legged baby, 1 cat, and 1 puppy into the mix.

Amanda - posted on 11/12/2009

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I have 3 cats and when my daughter was born they did the same thing..... one of my cats sprayed in her playpen! We just let them in her room and smell her stuff so that way they wouldn't get jealous! I don't know what your situation is... do you let them around your baby? Maybe if you just let them in your lap while you're holding the baby or something so that they understand that there's someone new in the house.... cat's are finicky so I wish you the best of luck!

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