Change in husband

Tonya - posted on 03/25/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )




Been married over 10 years. My husband was never a fit guy but has gain weight in our years of marriage. I've nagged him over the years to lose weight and had no interest in doing so. He had a fling with a co worker several years back, and it still is not forgotten. My husband recently out of the blue, started working out, taking supplements, eating better, bought new clothes and is more inclined with his appearance. Should I suspect something?


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Jodi - posted on 03/25/2014




If you are constantly on him to change himself, then you have been eating away at his self-esteem. If he had a fling with a co-worker, it was possibly due to his self-esteem more than anything. I'm not justifying it, but I am saying he doesn't feel accepted by you for who he is. If you are still hurting over this fling he had, maybe you two could do with some counselling together. Maybe you should do it anyway so that you can learn to accept who he is and how your nagging makes him feel.

Michelle - posted on 03/25/2014




So you spend years nagging him to look after himself better and then when he does you suspect him of having another affair?
Have you been nagging him since you got together? Why did you even marry him if you have? Why did you expect him to change?
You should love your partner for who they are.
In regards to his cheating, I have no idea. Have you asked him what's going on?

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