Community for moms "Raising Free Range Kids"..Join now:)

Jenn - posted on 11/11/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Are you the proud mom of a "Free Range Kid". Do you want your child to have the same freedom and unstructured childhood that you once did? Do you choose to instead raise an intelligent, confident, capable and happy child? Even if it means allowing them to make mistakes and take a few falls along the way? Do you long to bring back the days of coming home when the streetlights come on? Do you wish to make parenting decisions based on knowing your child's capabilities and personalities instead of based on the media and other parents fears? If you answered yes to any of these questions then guess what? You are raising a "Free Range Kid"!

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Heidi - posted on 11/15/2011

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Agreed. Thanks for the posts and links. I feel the same way at the parks and on the stranger, socializing with people, all that. My older one gets bad vibes about some people when I do and we talk about. He says things such as, “That guy is angry mom, why is he mad?” or he’ll turn away if someone weirds him out. Though they say hi to people we walk by on our walks, they’re not about to go off with a complete stranger, or even a neighbour without my permission. I would like to think that he would never be in a situation where a stranger could take him, but I can’t fully say. All I can do is hope for the best and raise him so that he never feels the need to go off with a strange stranger. I can prepare him all I can and then hope he understands enough. I would never let the “bad people" win, by not allow my kids to play outside on their own because of fear of “them”.

Jenn - posted on 11/15/2011

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That is great Heidi! Yeah, it is nice to have someone who gets your parenting style a bit. I am sure a few parents around here think i am crazy for some of the things i let my son do (riding a dirtbike, hitting ramps with his skateboard, hunting with his own pellet gun with daddy, having his own real tools to build with, etc) but i know my sons capabilities and i am confident and trust him fully. The only thing that sucks is because all the other moms are so afraid of "stranger danger" and whatnot that is is usually one of the only kids outside. I think these days parents are WAYYYY to overprotective to the point that is hurts the children more then helping. I want my kids to grow up to be independent, self-aware, street smart, confident and outgoing. I want them to believe that the world is generally a good place. Don't even get me started on the whole stranger danger epidemic. My son and I frequently chat up "strangers" around the neighborhood, while grocery shopping, etc. I want him to be able to use his instinct and if he feels a bad vibe from someone, get away, but i don't want him to miss building many friendships because he is afraid of everyone. I want him to know that most people are good, kind people much like ourselves. If something happens i want him to be able to ask a stranger for help. The world is full of all types of people, good and bad alike, and we must learn to interact with them all. When i go to the park with my kids (five yr old son and two year old daughter), I let them go nuts on the playground. They climb, run, jump. swing, you name it. I see parents who hover over their kids and if the kid so much as tries to climb something they are snatching them back off. I have even had other kids parents try to tell my kids to be careful or not go so high. I just tell them "It's okay, I let them". Yeah, i get some strange looks but whatever. And you know what, of all the climbing and stuff my kids do they have yet to have a serious injury. If anything it has helped improve their balance, stamina, eye-hand coordination. The kids that are afraid to do anything are the ones always getting hurt!

Anyways, you should join my community I made. It is called "Raising Free Range Kids". I started it because i searched to find a community of moms who agreed with that parenting style and found none, so i decided to just start my own. I would love to build up a decent following so that us "Free Range" mommies can have a place where we can be with like-minded mommies! Please join and spread the word for any other free-rangers you know to join to!! And thank you for responding to my post:)

Heidi - posted on 11/15/2011

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Yes, yes,yes, yes! I love this! I was just discussing this the other day.
I was at a group called “Mom’s Brake” were we talk and share tips on a certain subject such as potty training, or setting limits. I found out that I was the only mom out of 9 that allowed their kids to play in the back yard on their own. They had all agreed that times have changed, and that this is a good enough reason to keep their children trapped inside all day long while they, the mom are trying to get stuff done, or do their thing, maybe go from preschool to back home again while dragging around the little ones.
They all had concerns on why their kid(s) act out and what’s the best way to deal with them. And needing tips on ways to keep their cool and staying in control.
I allow my kids to go play outside when they ask or I feel they need to get out of the house. We also go for a walk every day with our dog where we can run around and explore. If we don’t get out my 31/2 and 2 year old boys, and myself all go crazy. It isn't even 9am yet and they all need to get out already, especially the dog.
If it is too cold out side, we go to a play centre or such.
I love my boys and want them to grow into good well rounded adults, as oppose to being closed minded people living in fear of others and in fear of taking chances. I aim to raise my boys to be a good of a person as myself and then better. Some might think this to be, well whatever they like, I think of it as my duty as their mother. It is my duty to raise them free range and independent while keeping a mindful watch or a playful, loving interaction. Our children just need to know that we’re here FOR them, not against them.

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