controlling godmother

Amy - posted on 11/11/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )




My son's godmother has been there the whole time, even during labor she was holding my legs while i pushed but she tends to act more like his mother when she's around. She doesnt have kids of her own and I find her telling me how to raise my kid and cutting in on my son's father and sometimes the comments aren't appriciated. She seems to tell me what to do more then give advice and sometimes its just not needed or wanted. How do I tell her she needs to back off nicely w/out seeming as if I dont appriciate what she has done?


Kristy - posted on 11/11/2009




i think you should be honest with her and tell her how important she is to you and your son. and while you appreciate her help, you and your sons father are the parents and you need to be the ones raising him, and if you ever need any advice or another persons opinion you'll gladly ask her for her input when its needed. tell her you dont want anything to come between you so you thought it would be good to deal with this situation now rather than waiting until it got too far.

Jennifer - posted on 11/11/2009




Tell her "friend, I really appreciate all you have done and that you have been there, but my husband and I need some time to figure out what works best for us. I appreciate your advice, and will consider it when the father and I make our final decision as to how to handle it." If she doesn't take a small hint, tell her the god's honest truth. "I know you want to help, but this is MY child and you are interfering. I am the one who knows what is best for MY child and I will make choices accordingly."


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Lupe-Monica - posted on 11/11/2009




omg your godmother must be my sister lol jk my daughters godmother is my old sister and she insists that since shes the god mother she can play the role of mommy but F THAT! she threatens my daughter to spank her when im just a room away!! i went off on her and stood my ground what i always say to either my mom my inlaws or anyone is YOU DONT HAVE TO LIKE MY RULES BUT YOU WILL RESPECT THEM!!

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