Cops at my door?

Kyle - posted on 07/12/2011 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I have a daughter that is 7 years old. She is great out in public, well mannered and mostly cooperative. BUT, when we get home it is like a whole different child. When she doesn't get what she wants or I tell her to do something she doesn't want to do then out comes a tantrum. and this is not just a small little whiny tantrum. This is a full out kicking screaming bloody murder tantrum. As soon as she starts I tell her to go to her room, which she mostly doesn't do. I end up having to carry her in her room. and if she keeps at it I will close the door. Now there is NO LOCK on her door or anything and sometimes I don't even close it all the way but once I start to close it or crack it she starts flipping out hysterically screaming "no, no, no", "open the door", "let me out", and kicking, stomping, hitting walls and throwing stuff. I have told her many times that if she keeps doing that then someone is going to call the cops and they are going to come here thinking we are hurting or abusing her and that they may try to take her away from mommy and daddy. This does not seem to bother her. I don't know what else to do. We live in a small third floor apartment and you can pretty much hear everything in this place, I can only imagine what our neighbors think. but I am more concerned about the day the cops show up to my door. any advice on this would be helpful. No she is not medicated, no I don't think she has ADD or ADHD or anything.

Thanks for the help

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Davaline - posted on 07/12/2011

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In my sons school they have anger charts on the hall walls. these are based 1-10 or 1-5. to use them to try to describe how angry they are feeling. you could make up your own chart with her so that way instead of JUST throwing a fit she can put words to her emotions.
for example 5 being very angry and 1 being just upset or starting to get upset. She could say mommy I feel like a number 2 right now... and momy says whys that. and she says becuase what your doing is making me really upset. and I dont like it.

Of course some people just need a good scream, which is completely healthy. try screaming into a favorite stuffed toy. I know it probably sounds bad but it muffles the screaming so the neighbors wont call the cops on you.

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