Cousins are a terrible influence.

Sarah - posted on 04/22/2015 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hi. I am looking for advice on how to handle a very difficult situation. I have two daughters( ages 4 and 1.5) I live in a small town where my husbands entire family lives too. My sister in laws kids ( ages 6 and 8 ) are absolutely out of control. For example they came over yesterday for 2 hours. In that time the made fun of my daughter speech, hit the fog with a screw driver, kept disappearing in the house to riffle through my stuff, wouldn't let my 1.5 year old play with any toys, screamed, broke stuff, painted on my daughters bed with nail Polish and made a huge mess. ( not to mention the way they talk to each other, me and their mother)

I am constantly following them around and even though we have mentioned the issues to their mother, she seems uninterested in making any changes. The 6 year old is quite physical at school ( hit a girl in the face causing her to lose a tooth) the 8 year old is also struggling at school. My kids love their cousins. But I fear for their safety. maybe I'm over reacting. Any advice?

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Ronnie - posted on 05/09/2015

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I know what you mean, I'm in a similar situation. We moved to a new state where I don't have any family but my husband's family lives here. My SIL is the same with her girls and my son is so impresionable that he learns all kinds of bad habits that I have to deal with and un-teach him! My advice only hang out with them once every two weeks or for special occasions,holiday bbq, birthdays etc. Keep the visits short. Join mommy groups, go to the library they usually have a story time and activities for your little ones. Make sure you and your husband are on the same page about keeping the visit short.

I've gotten to the point where I will remind my son how to behave in a calm loving manner in front of his cousins. This way I don't get in trouble for telling them something but I am still making them aware. Hope this helps, and good luck!

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Kari - posted on 04/30/2015

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Are you a follower of Jesus? Prayer ALWAYS works! If not, I would talk with their mom. Lead by example with you children. Try to instill kindness with them while you have them. Let you light shine & remain calm. Always keep an eye on them, don't leave them alone. Best wishes!

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