crying baby

Arielle - posted on 02/08/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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my husband is deployed, i am a SAHM so i have my daughter 24/7. she will not go to any1 but me. when some1 (my momther-in-law, my mom, my sisters) would try to come get her and pick her up she would cry her little head off until i get her back. the only other person she will go to without cry is my hubbys aunt who lives in ATL (she does not come down that often). since i have my daughter 24/7 i was planning on going to the spa.



when i go to the spa, i would like to leave my daughter with my husband's aunt bc i know she wont cry the whole time im gone. (i no my mom wont think this) but i dont want my mother in law to think well why wont she leave the baby with us, bc i know she will say that she will watch my daughter. but i just dont want my baby to cry the whole time.



my question is what would you do, who would you leave your child with?

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Have you tried going out of the room when someone else has your daughter? My son is very attached to me (also a SAHM) but when I go to my parents and my mom holds my son as long as I'm out of sight for a few minutes he will calm down. I know this doesn't really answer the question you asked but maybe you could try this if you haven't so others can have the chance to watch over her. Hope this helps!

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Arielle - posted on 02/08/2010

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i do try to let other ppl get her, trust me i've been trying (bc i would like at least a 30min break or whatever) but she just wont stop crying. i do try and leave the room so she cant hear me or smell my scent but she still cries. i ran to the store 1 time n left her with my mom she cried the whole time (she can cry for like 30 mins or more straught, or until she cries her self to sleep, and i hate that). but i think i will leave her with who i am most comfortable with and that is his aunt bc i know she wont cry the whole time.

Valerie - posted on 02/08/2010

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I like Lacey's advice. So that you don't become a slave to your kid, it would be good to start slowly working on separating a bit from them. Her idea of having others hold your kiddo and then leave the room is great as you can come help if she becomes inconsolable but still starts to give your kiddo practice being away from you. :)

Trish - posted on 02/08/2010

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Im also a SAHM and I have 2 kids with another on the way. My kids dont get babysat and they dont go to daycare so I also have them 24/7. My advice is to work out who you are comfortable with and let your baby stay there. She will cry no matter what! I would so be jumping at the chance to go to a day spa but I am not allowd to get anyone to babysit my kids so really just be happy you can huni! Pick sum1 and do it!!

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Leave your daughter with whoever you are the most comfortable with. You do want to be able to relax at the spa, and that would be hard if you are worried about her. There will always be other chances for the rest of the family to watch her. Just let everyone know that your husbands aunt will watch her this time, and it isn't anything personal against anyone. Let them know you appreciate the offer to watch her, and that they can another time. Enjoy your time at the spa!

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