daily temper tantrums from my 4 yr old

Beth - posted on 02/12/2015 ( 8 moms have responded )

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Hi moms, I need advice on how to deal with and ultimately stop my child's daily temper tantrums. My daughter is almost 4 years old & as of late she has fits daily (sometimes multiple times a day) set off by any & everything. She'll have a fit over such random things: because I flushed the toilet & she wanted to do it, because her socks are not on right, because she doesn't want to clean up, because she doesn't want other kids helping her clean up, because she wanted to be first to drink from water fountain at school & of course when she doesn't get her way. 80% of the time she's so sweet, but the other 20% of the time is so draining. Her fits can last from 5 min. to 45 min., she sometimes hits, scratches & throws things. It's starting to happen at preschool as well. Help!

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Beth - posted on 02/13/2015

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Trisha,
Oh I didn't think that you were implying that at all. Thanks for your suggestions.

Beth - posted on 02/13/2015

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Jodi, I try & stay calm & talk to her in a soft voice, but yes I've had my moments when I yell. I'm reading a Nanny 911 & have been trying to practice her suggestions. Most of the time I simply ignore her when she is having a fit over. She started preschool in September & was doing great up until after Christmas time. She has fits at school & they've come up with a system where she takes a squishy ball to the principal when she's having a fit; this gets her mind off the fit & she'll usually do what she's supposed to do after that. I'm a little concerned that now she feels like she is privileged or special because she is the only kid who gets to take a ball to the principal...she asked the teacher if she could take the ball to the principal right away when she got to school the other day.
The only thing that has changed at home recently is my husband/her dad being home more than normal.

Trisha - posted on 02/13/2015

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Sorry, I didn't get the last part of this message. Unfortunately I do not have any experience regarding napping as the only child I have in my home is 15, and I was only in his life starting at 10. It might be worth posing the question again in a different post more focused towards napping.

Trisha - posted on 02/13/2015

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Beth, I wasn't trying to imply that she isn't eating healthy. What I am saying is that snacking might benefit her mood. Her blood sugar might lower quicker than most and it might make her moody. I don't know the exact details of how this works, I just know that I make my husband carry a granola bar at all times just in case he starts to turn into a jerk. lol.

Beth - posted on 02/13/2015

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Jane, I would say yes that she is very sensitive. I will definitely have to check out the book you suggested. Thanks

Trisha, she sleeps great usually from 7pm-7am & we always try & eat healthy. She does refuse to nap within the last 3 to 4 months. I'll have her play in her room quietly sometimes during nap time. I'd say these tantrums have gotten worse with her lack of nap...but how do I make her nap.

Jodi - posted on 02/12/2015

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Can I ask how you are reacting to her tantrums? Also, if this is a recent thing, has anything changed at home recently? Has she just started preschool? Is she sleeping well?

Trisha - posted on 02/12/2015

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I know this might be strange, but even my husband is effected by lack of sleep and not eating regularly. If she starts getting irritable/anxious give her a small healthy snack. See if they start to subside at all. Also, what is her napping routine?

Jane Margaret - posted on 02/12/2015

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Dear Beth, I'm new to this forum and I'm not actually a Mum yet but I'm doing alot of research on highly sensitive, intuitive children. When I read your post I thought your daughter may be feeling overwhelmed because of her sensitivity. I've recently bought "The Highly Sensitive Child" by Elaine N. Aron and both in the book and on her website you can check out her questionnaire to see if any of the questions make sense. Alternatively you may like to check out info on the net about Indigo and Crystal Children. Good luck, Jane

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