date night

Danielle - posted on 06/21/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )




I am a SAHM and I have a newborn and a toddler. I was wondering when other moms do to spend a little extra time with their husbands without the kids. We've been married almost 7 years and used to do everything together. Just wondering what you other SAHMs do for a little quality time with your men.


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Shannon - posted on 06/24/2010




we do a date every other week. often on Saturday where we either go to a movie and lunch for a few hours during the day or dinner and walk at night. we have really great friends that watch our daughter for a few hours. we also get a hour and a half at night to watch tv together or be intimate. we have been together 11 years and have a 6 month old. if you have friends or family near by, see if you can help each other out by giving each other a few hours of alone time with your spouse and do something with out the kids. we love it!

Melany - posted on 06/24/2010




We try to do date night once a month at least. It's worth paying a babysitter, but if you can't afford that, find a friend definitely and trade off as suggested above. Having the time to be a couple again is wonderful. Both our parents do not live really close, but my MIL sometimes watches our kids for us too either at our house or at her house.

Nikkole - posted on 06/23/2010




hi. we make sure that we get a date night once a month and that mean are lil girl stays the night with a family member that we trust or a friend. but in the between time we play video games toghter or watch a movie after rylie go to sleep. its a lil harder for us bc my boyfriend works 3rds so he isnt home at night so we have to wait untill the weekend to have alone time

Kayla - posted on 06/23/2010




Wow.. thats a good question.. i dont have noone i trust to watch my 2 month old.. and my bf works CRAZY hours so all he wants to do is watch tv cuz its TOO HOT to go outside lmao.

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We pop popcorn and snuggle on the couch and watch a movie after our son has gone to bed. We joined Netflix which gives us the opportunity to do that a lot. Paying for babysitters is so expensive so we have friends or family watch him so we can go out on a real date. If our friends watch him then we return the favor and watch their children for them. At least once a week we drop everything and go to bed early (but no sleeping allowed - LOL). It gives us some romantic time and something to look forward to since we decide it ahead of time. We also take full advantage of nap time on the weekends! It's hard having young children and finding time alone. You have to work at it and make it happen.

Judy - posted on 06/21/2010




We don't live anywhere near family, and although we could pay a babysitter it makes for an expensive night out, especially if you want to do it regularly. We normally have dinner as a family all together, but we have set aside Wednesday nights to feed the kids first, then once they are in bed we have a nice adult meal and try not to turn on the tv and talk instead. The trick is to make sure you keep that night free and stick to spending time together. Good luck.

Nikki - posted on 06/21/2010




Danielle, we ask my mother to come over and watch our son for a few hours so we can go out to dinner together or to a movie. It has made our relationship so much stronger and helps with me being a sahm.. I say do a date night once a month or more if needed!!

Alice - posted on 06/21/2010




Before my family started moving down here, we would just play games or watch a movie after they had gone to bed. It felt like just us, usually.
We do everything together still - only now there's 6 of us instead of 2. lol!
But seriously, I have two suggestions for you: #1: if you have family/trusted friends nearby who would be willing to babysit that is amazing - my moms (his & mine) almost beg to watch but both work early on weekdays and my husbnad never has weekends off so we rarely use them. #2: find a friend who is in the same boat as you and trade off. You babysit for them to have a date night then they babysit for you. Every time I've done this system it works wonderfully!
Hope this helps!

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