Daughter with a bad attitude.

Kristin - posted on 08/11/2009 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My 8 year old is very mean and has a nasty attitude about everything. I dont know what to do.

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Shannon - posted on 08/12/2009

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Mine is just like that. She is 8 and girl it is all the time. When she doesn't get her way it is a fit and a crying all day long.

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Jane - posted on 08/13/2009

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i went thru puberty very early at 9 and my niece is 9, is going thru it now, she was unbearable last year. maybe she's on the cusp of it? or maybe something is going on w/her that is upsetting her w/friends or something like that. get some one-on-one w/her at bedtime and ask her what's up. maybe she just need a little more time w/you. if it's not that type of thing, then get her involved in the daily things, give her chores to do but keep it w/an upbeat attitude, that they're her thing to do for the family.

Elizabeth - posted on 08/11/2009

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I have a 7 year old that is going through tthe same thing, and at first I thought maybe it was just because she wasn't getting enough one-on-one attention, but even when I would give it to her she would still act up. So for me the only thing that started to work was having her do things around the house that needed done or outside and not things that she would hate to do just things that maybe she would see me do or do them with me. also I would have her read recipies and make cakes or cookies some sort of baking. I think it is helping her to be responsible and keep herself busy. I hope this helps and good luck...

Nicole - posted on 08/11/2009

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I have a 10 year old stepdaughter that went through the same thing! It's like the awkward teenage years are coming earlier and earlier! LOL She has got better now, but right about 8 her mom was the enemy,her dad, me, every adult! She wanted to live with us because her mom didn't give in to her. (we have a good relationship with her mom) When she would have an attitude I would tell her that I don't speak to her that way, ai give her respect and I expect the same, nothing less and I'm not going to help/listen etc until she would speak nicely to me/her dad/her mom. She got it pretty quick, but it was rough for a couple months, now shes back to her normal self. By the way at the same time she was beginning to grow a lot and her body changed we recently had to start buying her sports bras, maybe yours is going through some hormonal changes too. Hope I could be a help to you!

User - posted on 08/11/2009

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Sounds like my four year old, everyone tells me he is bored as he is a very intelligent boy and that it will stop when he starts school next year. Obviously your kids at 8 would be at school already - worried my son may end up the same! If you find a magic cure let me know as i'm doing all the same thing at the moment and nothing seems to work i think the harder i am on him the worse he gets and it ends up in a battle on the wills... not that this can help you, but i do know how you feel!

Heidi - posted on 08/11/2009

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I know what your going through. My son is 8 and he just seems to hate the whole world around him. So far what I've been doing is taking away the privilege of him playing with the kids in the neighborhood. The worst part about this is his sister still can and that drives him absolutely crazy. I've gotten it down to once a week and that's alot better than about every day. I believe in spanking also but that doesn't work with this child and all it does is hurt my hand.

Ashley - posted on 08/11/2009

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Excuse my language, but SPANK THAT A$$!! As a mother, I don't tolerate nasty attitudes. She need to know what fear looks like!



But all jokes aside you have to wonder who she's spending all her time with. Is she around negative people? If she is you might need to keep her away from those people is she always has a nasty attitude. Are you a pushover? (no offense) But if you are you can't be-EVER! Your job is to make sure she goes into adulthood mature and responsible. Whenever she tests you or has a funky attitude, it's your job to keep her in check with love. If you don't, she'll only get worse.

Alicia - posted on 08/11/2009

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I agree - take everything away that is important to him/her and make him/her earn it all back. Giving in is only going to make him/her worse.

Tracy - posted on 08/11/2009

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Clean everything out of her bed room and tell her she has to earn it back. Peice by "peace". Don't give in. Show her you mean business by taking the stuff to the goodwill.

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