daughters last name?

Marisa - posted on 05/07/2010 ( 4 moms have responded )




me and my boyfriend have been together on and off for 4yrs. i often refer to him as my husband. i love him drearly, and d o want to marry him one day. we have a 4mo daughter together. our problem is she has my last name. i told him when we ever get married ill change her name when i change mine. i LOVE my last name and am very proud of it. i would love for me and her both to keep it. His family hates the fact she has my last name they keep asking when are we getting married and when im changin her name. its a heated issue around here. anyone else have the same problem?? or have any advice on it??


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Sara - posted on 05/07/2010




i found out that when i went to open a bank account for my 2 older kids i couldnt as i had a different last name ??????? even tho i had their birth certifacts and mine it was a fast my husband ( back then my partner ) had to do

Tracy - posted on 05/07/2010




Refer all comments from his family to your boyfriend. Try to stay out of the fray between them all. But do talk to your boyfriend and see if there is some reason why marriage seems like something he wants to put off or avoid, since you seem all for it and his family seems to love you. He seems to be the only one holding out. Stick to your guns about your names. No changes until you get married. They can fuss all they want, but the only person who can control you is you!

Marisa - posted on 05/07/2010




we want to get married one day. i dont want to jusr because we have a child. i want to keep my name and hypen her. but hes not so happy about that

Heather - posted on 05/07/2010




Tell them to ask your boyfriend when he intends to give you a ring and marry you? ;) Or I guess that won't work if you intend to keep your name and hers the same after (if) you get married.

Lol... sorry I've got nuthin' helpful...

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