daytime schedule/routine

Stephanie - posted on 03/10/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )




Help! How do I get my baby on a napping schedule? He's 3 months old and breastfed on demand. Lately he has been getting past the point of tired and then getting fussy. I usually have to feed him in order for him to fall asleep (should I do this or get out of this habit?)...


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Sabrina - posted on 03/15/2010




Only you can determine what is best for your baby. Every baby is different. I have three children all of whom I have used different techniques. My third was very much what you are describing. I chose to stop feeding on demand. When he woke up I would let him play (tummy time, bouncy, swing) then when he got fussy I would feed him and lay him down once he was done eating. It took a few days for him to catch on that feeding time isn't 24/7 and I wasn't going to be sitting around with my boob in his mouth all day. I was able to demand feed with my first, but now that I am a little more seasoned I think demand feeding is horrible. Good Luck!!!

Candice - posted on 03/15/2010




My son is 2 and a half months old and isn't on a schedule -never has been apart from him bath at around 4-5pm. He has a pattern he has settled into himself however which is great. In the day time lately he has not been sleeping much, but when I want time to myself and I know he's been fed and is due for a sleep (could thave been awake for 3 hours or so) I'll put him in his cot, put the sheet/blanket on him (this lets him know its bedtime) and put on his projector that also plays lullabys and he falls asleep after about 15mins. I'm loving it. It works at night time too for me. Other than that he falls asleep himself when he starts rubbing his eyes and getting whingy and Ill put him down, if he's not already asleep in my arms, and let him sleep.

All you can do is try to see if he will self settle. Let him cry for 8-10mins maximum if he does and then pick him up as he probably isnt ready for sleep. If not you my be suprised, let him have a cry and fall to sleep and hopefully he may get used to this and fall asleep himself!
It's not a nice thing hearing your baby cry but, for me, i tried this that I read from a book, and it helped me. And I knew his cries, so when it was a tired cry in his cot I'd leave him because I couldnt do anything for him! It's all about trying anything and everything! Goodluck :)

Amanda - posted on 03/15/2010




i did the self soothing with my son at 7 months as he wouldn't sleep in his cot,rocker,pram or anything other then in my arms or bed... my gp told me to let him cry it out and in the afternoons try formula instead of breast milk to him fall asleep to and make sure the room is dark ( night light on tho )and quiet... my son is now 15 months and he know when it is nap time and bed time... i also find give your child a shower or bath before bed and that help sleep as well... my son sleeps from 8pm till 6am for morning bottle then goes back to sleep till 10am

Darylann - posted on 03/14/2010




Self soothing is not ridiculous. Babies flourish through love and learning. When a baby can learn that when they are fed, dry, clean and loved and that they need to sleep when they are tired (not in mommy's arms) they get the sleep that they need. If you always hold your baby when they are sleeping they will not get a good deep sleep that helps recharge their bodies and minds....and mommy will become weary as well. There is no reason that a baby shouldn't learn good sleep habits from the get go. Besides, you can always sneak a peek to make sure they are ok to calm your nerves about letting them be in their own room sleeping in their own bed.

Darylann - posted on 03/14/2010




I wasn't getting any sleep....and neither was my baby girl. I talked to my daughters pediatrician and he suggested a book for me to read to get her on a sleep/nap schedule. Its called Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Dr. Weissbluth. AMAZING!!! My daughter cried for the first few nights and naps....but after the first week she actually went to sleep at night and slept through the night and took naps long enough for me to get some housework done!!!! It is hard to hear them cry....I would read over the chapters that talked about how you deprive them of sleep when you don't let them learn to soothe themselves if you run in and pick them up when they cry. This book was really great for me. I got it at Barnes and Noble. Has anyone else tried this book???

Heidi - posted on 03/14/2010




My daughter was on a schedule at 4 wks and was sleeping through the night (8pm to 6am) at 8 weeks...which was awesome b/c that's when my FMLA ran out. She slept in her crib from day 1. I do feel that babies need to learn self-soothing techniques b/c now @ 18mos...I can lay her down at nap/bedtime and pull the door too...w/o a fight & she doesn't cry. I don't have to rock her to sleep or feed her or fight with her...praise God. I can plan my day around her nap if needed. She and I both know what's going to happen at what time. I would recommend reading BabyWise by Gary Ezzo, Robert Bucknam. I used their idea of a schedule and it worked perfectly for me at that time b/c I was still working FT. I do know that every mother/child bond is different and just b/c it worked for me doesn't mean that it will for you (or anyone else). I just took a moment to share that having a 'scheduled' baby is possible. Hope this helps.

Amber - posted on 03/14/2010




I feed my daughter around the same time everyday. While she is eating I will play with her hands and/or feet (this was recommended by the lactation consultant that I meet with just after my daughter was born.). I will keep her stimulated while she is eating to keep her awake and not have her depended on eating to fall asleep. Than when she finishes eating, I will turn down the lights or go into her room with the blinds closed and turn on her little lamp and we will have quite time and read a book or listen to music quietly. I will wait about 15 minutes before she falls asleep and make sure she is going to sleep with a dry diaper. She gets very comfortable and will often sleep for 2 hours during her naps times and we do the same routine at night time, and she sleeps for about 6-7 hours. I know I am very lucky to have a baby that likes to sleep, but if you set up a routine and stick with it, your baby will let you sleep more too!

Hannah - posted on 03/14/2010




Self soothing is ridiculous!! Stephanie, He's just a baby!! Babies whine and fuss sometimes. How is a 3 month old supposed to be independent? They are not! My son is 8 months and exclusively breastfed and he still wants to fall asleep in my arms and Im perfectly ok with that, he just loves his mommy! So don' worry about this problem it's not a problem it's normal!! Hold him, rock him, bounce him, walk him, hug him, and kiss him. You don't have to train your baby like a seal at the circus!

Corinne - posted on 03/14/2010




you need to put him down on his naptime and let him scream it out sometimes! he needs to learn "self soothing" techniques and wont learn them if you pick him up everytime he cries and feed him! take notes on how much hes eating and how often! theres a chance hes not getting enough to fill him up and therefore the sleep suffers! if you notice anything you should talk to your doctor about maybe your diet and producing more milk or possibly substituting a tiny bit of rice or formula into his diet (hell sleep like a rock!)! some babies are not the best sleepers and some are very good eaters!! i know my daughter wasnt the best sleeper and still isnt! i was luckkyyyy if i got 3 hrs of peace with her naps!

Susan - posted on 03/14/2010




i have the same problem with my 4 month old daughter. i am going to try some of this and see if i can get her in a routine. :) good luck stephanie :D

Valynn - posted on 03/10/2010




3 mnths is around the time my son (now 6mths) started to get into his schedule, but we all know every baby is different. I just keeped doing the same thing every day. When he woke up in the morning, change his diaper, feed him and let him play for 2 hrs, then I would lay him down, or put him in a swing (God bless those!) and he would sleep! Have you tried to pump some bottles for him? If he needs to eat to soothe him to sleep then try that to get him on a schedule then slowly wing him off. There is nothing wrong with letting them snack a little. It also helps them sleep better. Good Luck! and it is all about repetition!!

Medic - posted on 03/10/2010




My 6 week old is on a schedule already and its just by her doing the same things at the same time every day so I ran with it. I always lay her down awake, if she falls asleep while eating I will wake her up let her eat a little more then lay her down and she sleeps for two major naps during the day and two 6 hour stretches at night. Just be consistant and don't let him rely of food for sleep.

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hola stephanie,

im having the same prob with my 3 mo old son. he's formula SNS b milk on schedule thou but only naps for 15 mins or so. Last night was the first night he slept thru the night and woke up in a better mood and slept for a hr while i worked out n showered. anyways, my friend suggested to keep him stimulated with activities and tummy time than set him down for naps on same times each day to get out of the phase he's in. so im gonna give it a try...

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